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I will give a short run down of the situation.
Was friends with a girl. Helped girl with personal issues in life. Girl fell in love with me, and I feel in love with her. We dated close to 2 years. I was going to propose to her, but she broke up with me like 2 weeks before I planned on proposing. After break up, we agreed to be adults and civil to each other, and I said we should remain friends. That seemed like a good idea to both of us. However, she needed a bit of time away from me, to kill any romantic feelings and all that. I eventually got over the hurt and moved on from the situation. Numerous times I reached out to her in acts of kindness and friendship, but never did I smother her or try to get back together. I respect her space and her decisions, after all.
Now, its been close to a year since she broke it off. I thought this would have been plenty of time for feelings to die, and issues to be resolved. However, she will not make any attempt to be friendly towards me. We are both Christians, so I thought about doing it the way Jesus told us to do it. I have gone to her with the issue and said "hey, I am trying to be your friend, please don't snub me". Not even a reply. I'd rather have a negative reply then NO reply at all.
So I sent one final appeal. I ask for us to both be mature adults and be on speaking terms. This was almost a week ago. Again, no reply.
So it comes to this: Do I keep trying (like a fool, it would seem)?
OR
Do I completely remove her from my life?
I have leaned towards the later, but some friends keep saying I should give another chance and to do the Christian thing and all that.
Any advice is welcome.
Thanks. =)
Was friends with a girl. Helped girl with personal issues in life. Girl fell in love with me, and I feel in love with her. We dated close to 2 years. I was going to propose to her, but she broke up with me like 2 weeks before I planned on proposing. After break up, we agreed to be adults and civil to each other, and I said we should remain friends. That seemed like a good idea to both of us. However, she needed a bit of time away from me, to kill any romantic feelings and all that. I eventually got over the hurt and moved on from the situation. Numerous times I reached out to her in acts of kindness and friendship, but never did I smother her or try to get back together. I respect her space and her decisions, after all.
Now, its been close to a year since she broke it off. I thought this would have been plenty of time for feelings to die, and issues to be resolved. However, she will not make any attempt to be friendly towards me. We are both Christians, so I thought about doing it the way Jesus told us to do it. I have gone to her with the issue and said "hey, I am trying to be your friend, please don't snub me". Not even a reply. I'd rather have a negative reply then NO reply at all.
So I sent one final appeal. I ask for us to both be mature adults and be on speaking terms. This was almost a week ago. Again, no reply.
So it comes to this: Do I keep trying (like a fool, it would seem)?
OR
Do I completely remove her from my life?
I have leaned towards the later, but some friends keep saying I should give another chance and to do the Christian thing and all that.
Any advice is welcome.
Thanks. =)