Remarrying?

[SeekingGloryOnThisJourney]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

 

[Brightmoon]

My church doesn’t have a problem with re marriage after divorce. I don’t know what to tell you other than that . I personally think that pastors and priests should mind their own business instead of worrying about a stable relationship but that’s me

 

[Dave L]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

Definitely not. Not for any reason.

 

[Isilwen]

Some will say yes and some will say no and some will say it depends.

Me? I was divorced by my ex-wife, so I was abandoned by her. Per Paul I am free to remarry and will. Especially since my girlfriend is God sent!

 

[Cory91]

It’s a tough question, I think we make mistakes and bad choices some come with consequences, the bible says all manner of sin is forgivable except for blasphemy against the Holy Spirit , I see king David did take another mans wife , he did repent and God did give him a name for his and bashibas child ( I think that shows of Gods great mercy and love ) but also he took a wife of one of sauls men , I have made all kinds of mistakes and it is hard for me to rap my mind around Gods Grace , I stubble ,I fall , I do know if my salvation relies anything on me but for my humble submission to God I am lost .
I have seen lots of responses for not under any circumstances can we remarry , but what does one do if already remarried ? Would God want another divorce ? I know God hates divorce for the collateral damage it does in families but I do know some circumstances we cannot predict in a broken messed up world with broken messed up people who may carry scares and wounds until we die .
I would think if you live by the letter of the law and not the heart it’s a difficult choice , but what does one do if a spouse or children are being badly treated or abused ? Would a loving God require you to stay and never move on ? I sure hope God has more understanding and mercy than that .

 

[Albion]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage....
Thank you.

The answer depends on which church you belong to, frankly.

But the Orthodox Eastern churches allow up to four marriages, although I am not certain what conditions apply. Best to ask an Orthodox priest.

 

[Sketcher]

If your ex is dead, then yes. This is clear-cut.

If not, Matthew 19:9 is the most liberal verse in the New Testament on this matter, and it only allows for remarriage if your spouse cheated on you - and there are interpretations of that verse which are even stricter than that.

 

[Basil the Great]

The answer depends on which church you belong to, frankly.

But the Orthodox Eastern churches allow up to four marriages, although I am not certain what conditions apply. Best to ask an Orthodox priest.

I thought that three was their limit and than only rarely, but I could be wrong?

 

[Leet]

My understanding is remarriage is permissible if,
The other party left you.
The other party cheated on you.
The other party abused you/yours and there is no longer desire or chance of safe reconciliation for you and/or yours with said party.

 

[Albion]

I thought that three was their limit and then only rarely, but I could be wrong?

Of course I could be wrong about this too, but I thought it was four. In either case, remarriage is allowed and I know EO people who have remarried in the church (although only once).

Most likely, our inquirer isn't personally contemplating a third or fourth marriage anyway, but I feel that we did right to answer with her own church's policies in mind rather than some other slant on the subject.

 

[(° ͡ ͜ ͡ʖ ͡ °) (ᵔᴥᵔʋ)]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

The answer you are going to get varies depending on faith tradition. I would talk to your pastor about it.

 

[(° ͡ ͜ ͡ʖ ͡ °) (ᵔᴥᵔʋ)]

My church doesn’t have a problem with re marriage after divorce. I don’t know what to tell you other than that . I personally think that pastors and priests should mind their own business instead of worrying about a stable relationship but that’s me

Definitely. A pastor has absolutely no business sticking their noses in other people's lives and mind their own business.

 

[Job3315]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

In Matthew it says you can in case of immorality. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul makes a note that some of what he is saying is not Holy Spirit Inspired.

Pay attention to what the Holy Spirit is saying to you. In my case no news is good news.

 

[SeekingGloryOnThisJourney]

In Matthew it says you can in case of immorality. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul makes a note that some of what he is saying is not Holy Spirit Inspired.

Pay attention to what the Holy Spirit is saying to you. In my case no news is good news.

When does he say that? What translation are you using?
Only thing that I can see is 1 Corinthians 7:40

 

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[Job3315]

When does he say that? What translation are you using?
Only thing that I can see is 1 Corinthians 7:40

He says, "I, not the Lord".
Various translations:
1 Corinthians 7:12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If a brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
And here:
1 Corinthians 7:25 Now about virgins, I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy.

Please note that Paul was guided by the Spirit, so His teachings are from the Lord, but on those two verses I believe he is talking from personal experience and giving a personal advice as he made a note about it.

 

[longwait]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

Just do what the Bible says. Human opinion can be misleading.

 

[Martyr's Crown]

I think Jesus makes it very clear about this concerning divorce.


Matthew 19:1-12

When Jesus had finished saying these things, He left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed Him, and He healed them there.

Some Pharisees came to Him to test Him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

“Haven’t you read,” He replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

The disciples said to Him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”

Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”


There have been so much justifications done in churches as well as among Christian believers, allowing one and more sins to enter in and becoming fine for them to do.

Many may do this out of ignorance, not knowing their bibles nor knowing the LORD, yet ignorance is no excuse for the LORD!


You just keep yourself close to the Word of God, asking for God's wisdom and guidance when reading in it. God's Word never fails, but human opinions as well as their way of seeing it do can fail and can also deceive both them and you.

 

[Junia]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

as i understand it, you can remarry IF

- Your spouse put you aside/dumped you
- ypu divorced them because they cheated on you/adultery

I thinkif you divorce for any other reason eg abuse, alcoholism etc then you are not to remarry

 

[Behold]

I’m am quite confused of the concept of remarriage.
If someone divorces you, are you able to remarry?
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 seems to say no, and some still do.
If you divorce for the reason of immorality, (as Matthew says)
are you free to remarry?
Just curious!
Thank you.

The answer you will get regarding your question , per believer, is going to be related to how much they understand the finished Work of Jesus on the Cross, or not.
The less they understand it, the more they will shout "you can't remarry, stay single and die".
The more they understand the blood atonement, and the "gift of righteousness", the more they will respond with......"is divorce a sin the blood of Jesus didn't deal with already"? ??????

So, find your answer not from a confused mass of people on a forum , but find it always according to this fact...
"God's Mercy endures forever".
And this idea....
God is the God of the endless 2nd Chance.

See, God is not interested in us being destroyed by our mistakes.
Its self righteous people who want you to suffer endless consequences.
God is not sitting up there demanding that we live in misery till our death, to prove we understand we were wrong.
God is actually, LOVE. He is unconditional LOVE. And this LOVE, allows us to find our way out of a mistake and into a better life, always.