Remarriage Question

[actionsub]

Mike, marriage in it self is hard work. Remarriage carries with it baggage that is sometimes difficult to carry. Been there done that. I've been remarried for almost 20 years; what a blessing God has made it. Does God hate divorce? Yes, but not the one who is divorced. He hates divorce because of what it does to the people that he loves. I'm trying to share with as many people as I can about God's grace and His desire to restore His children even when they have been divorced. Go if you can to my blog; marriedagainforever.com and find encouragement and ask detailed questions you may have.

That is the fact, Bro. Jeff. I will indeed check out the blog. God has blessed me beyond belief with a wonderful wife and helper.

 

[GuitarMia05]

Does anyone but me get sick and tired of hearing about the statistics, being offered in such a solemn way? Like being told that a second marriage has a poorer chance, that it is all simply awful? It's very discouraging. In fact it seems like there's almost nothing out there encouraging you to try and do well.

For me it wasn't easy to make that second decision to remarry. It does help that I have known my now husband for over 10 years and that we both were going through very painful divorces. Statistics Are just numbers. My husband and I both agree that we have already done the "divorce" with our last marriages so this will be a forever. We know there will be fights, disagreements, and bad days, but we also know that God put us together again for a reason.... so my God is bigger than any statistic.

 

[DZoolander]

My problem with citing statistics like that is that they're overly simplifying the problems that go into divorce.

It's kind of like when people argue "Well, if you can't iron this out with your current husband/wife - what's to say you will be able to iron things out with your next husband/wife?"

Well - plenty of potential reasons.

The truth is, whether or not people are fit to be married and can have a successful marriage is a complicated thing. The truth is, most likely if you're facing divorce you probably did have a hand in the situation that's brought you to this point. The truth is, you most likely do have some issues that you need to work through in order to be a successful particiant in your next marriage.

The truth is - far too few people really figure those things out...which probably is what accounts for the statistic itself.

But - that doesn't mean that second marriages are inherently jinxed - which is what they're trying to lead you to believe. It also doesn't mean that what you have right now can be fixed...which is what they also are trying to lead you to believe.