Relationships

[f U z ! o N]

is it wrong to be in a relationship if its just casual and nothing serious?
If it's nothing more than a friendship should the relationship end?

just some more questions for you guys

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i don't get it...r u just friends...or t u casually dating?

i don't like casual dating if u know they're not the one...no sense in dating without the intent to one day get married

 

[f U z ! o N]

i don't get it...r u just friends...or t u casually dating?

i don't like casual dating if u know they're not the one...no sense in dating without the intent to one day get married

i'm not dating anybody. i don't care about dating at this point in my life. i was talking about general relationships between people

 

[JourneyRain]

Why would you want to be a in a casual relationship? What are you wanting in a relationship that you cannot have in just a friendship?
Al of the stuff that comes along with relationships should not be taken casually no matter what people say. If you do not intend to date seriously, then you shouldn't be hugging and kissing etc...

 

[Hope_0004]

I don't get it. Of course some relationships between people are casual.

If you're talking about having a casual relationship with a girl that you aren't dating? I thought that was called friendship, which of course is great!

I guess I don't understand the question.

 

[Blank123]

um.. if its clear to both of you that its just a friendship I don't see why it would have to end

If one person in the relationship is being led to think its something more than it is then yes thats a problem that needs to be addressed.

 

[JesusWasn'tWhite]

i'm not dating anybody. i don't care about dating at this point in my life. i was talking about general relationships between people

I'm confused by your saying that when in your "Too Young" thread you said...

me on the other hand, i'm almost 19 and i desire a serious long term relationship.

Personally, if two people both enter a relationship to be casual dates, and to have fun and the expectations are the same, and neither one is getting hurt in the process, then it's okay. I wouldn't suggest it to everyone. Sometimes it seems like too many people take dating way too seriously. Yes, it's to find a potential spouse, but it's not like you're going to sit them down on the first date and interview them, give them the third degree, flip them over and do it again. You get to know people in a generally casual way, and if a casual relationship turns into something more, then great, as long as both people involved are moving in the same direction at a similar rate.

So.. do you want a serious relationship, casual relationship or no relationship right now?

 

[f U z ! o N]

the reason i made this thread was because my ex gf told me i was nothing more than a friend the entire time to her but we did everything a romance relationship would i thought. i asked her if i was just a friend why did we date? and she didn't know. thats why i made this thread in an attempt to understand why people would date and it be a friend the whole time

 

[Blank123]

hm.. I think in a relationship its important to be friends, obviously. I wouldn't dump a guy because he's my friend - if we weren't friends I'd probably break things off with him though

Perhaps she was confused about how she viewed your relationship and came to see it as more of a platonic friendship than anything else?

 

[f U z ! o N]

hm.. I think in a relationship its important to be friends, obviously. I wouldn't dump a guy because he's my friend - if we weren't friends I'd probably break things off with him though

Perhaps she was confused about how she viewed your relationship and came to see it as more of a platonic friendship than anything else?

Well tell her that. According to her, i'm nothing but a friend and she never felt any romance feelings toward me. she says " I don't give my heart out." I've moved on trust me, it's just i don't want this to happen in another relationship so i'm trying to figure out why someone would do this. 16 months and the entire time i'm just a friend yet we kissed, hugged, held hands, dated, everything. makes no sense.

 

[Blank123]

I'm sorry I can't give you any answers, dude. Its sad but things like that do happen.

it could be that she was confused about her feelings for you, it could be that she always knew she viewed you as just as friend but for whatever reason chose to pursue a deeper relationship anyway, or it could be just her way of dealing with a relationship that didn't work out; its easier to get over someone if you can convince yourself you were never that interested anyways.

but only she knows exactly what she felt for you during that time and only she knows why she did what she did.

 

[f U z ! o N]

yep! i dunno i have respect for people and would never lead em on like that but thats just me. i'm not going to talk bad about her but it really does make no sense. she did mention the words confused about her feelings for me but i see it as "don't say you can see yourself with me" and then break up with me. i'm big on honesty and too me telling me things like : your an amazing boyfriend, i'm so lucky to have you, i can see myself with you, i brag about you all the time, i've never been so attached to someone" and then say "you were just a friend the entire time" means someone is a liar. though i guess feelings do change.

 

[Inperfected]

My ex broke up with me for the reason that he only thought of me as a friend. NOW I can understand it, then it was incomprehensible! Why? Because my heart hadn't let go enough to get it.

Let time proceed, it's the only way to understand this mate.

 

[Hope_0004]

That's really weird.

Either she's making that up to make breaking up with you easier, or one of you just doesn't understand what "dating" means!

Sounds to me like from what you have said that you were dating. So her saying that you weren't, well, just ignore it, or take it for what it is - not true. I mean, if you look up at the sky and it is clearly blue, and someone else continues to say it is neon pink... it doesn't make it neon pink.

But in the end, it doesn't really matter of you were "just friends" or "dating". It sucks just the same.

Remind yourself when you get upset about this that you don't want to date someone who is so "confused" or makes things up anyway.

 

[f U z ! o N]

well it makes sense i was just a friend because the relationship was horribly one sided with me doing everything. nothing hurts more than having your gf at the time not ever call you for anything or include you in her life at all. but thats all in the past. my question is what kind of person dates someone if they don't even want a serious relationship at all but dates a person for 16 months and does the things a courting couple does? is that techincally using somone?