Hi everyone. I just started dating this girl a few weeks ago and we are both christian and we both like one another alot.Well the question I have is that she told me yesterday that a few years ago she was rebellious and lost her virginity and since then has regreted it and God has since forgiven her.Is it o.k. for me still being a Virgin to continue to go out with her?
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I don't see why it wouldn't be. Are you saying you're not supposed to date a repentant sinner? Are you not one yourself?
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You know what's awesome? Guilt-free sex the way nature intended. Thankfully my "catholic" girlfriend is only one in name, not in nature.
Bit of a non-sequitur I suppose. I'm just glad that I don't think like blueredonyx. But to offer some opinion on the OP, I'll join in with the "Why wouldn't it be?" crowd here. Especially since "god" (she herself) has forgiven her (herself).
Bit of a non-sequitur I suppose. I'm just glad that I don't think like blueredonyx. But to offer some opinion on the OP, I'll join in with the "Why wouldn't it be?" crowd here. Especially since "god" (she herself) has forgiven her (herself).
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Amen to some guilt-free sex.
My advice is to get your priorities straight and quit being judgemental over insignificant things or just dump the girl and save her the misery.
My advice is to get your priorities straight and quit being judgemental over insignificant things or just dump the girl and save her the misery.
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Well, what are your thoughts on this?
I am clueless, since I have no idea what could possibly be wrong with being a virgin.
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Im not being judgemental and im not dating her for the sex blueafgani ! I simply wanted an overall opinion because im a virgin and she was worried I would be scared away by the fact she is not.I dont care about her past and im going to stand by her and try and make it work.So dont go off on me, have some respect cause last time I rememeber this was CHRISTIAN FORUM!
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As with any relationship, the only people who can decide whether something is a problem are the two of you. If her virginity or lack thereof matters to you, it's important. If it doesn't matter to you, it's not important. It's as simple as that. The same principle applies in deciding if/when to have sex (as long as you're both above the age of consent!) - the only opinions that matter are yours and hers.
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Christians embrace the idea of forgiveness and not judging others, and since you are a Chrisitan, this is a good opportunity for you to exercise both forgiveness and not being judgmental.
I hope you have a very long and good conversation.
I hope you have a very long and good conversation.
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THe obvious solution would be to go out and be "rebellious" and lose your virginity to some other random person.. Then neither of you would be virgins and everything would be equal!
Or you could just let it slide and get on with your life and relationship. Whichever.
Or you could just let it slide and get on with your life and relationship. Whichever.
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I say to let it slide. She did something wrong, she made amends for it, it's over. Case closed.
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Transgressions of God's will which are clearly outlined -- if somebody is honest and has admitted to transgressing His will, we are not really judging them but merely accepting their penance and forgiving them for an action...
Paul did write in one of the epistles concerning the very justification of why he condemns homosexuality, etc. it going back to them not being his own judgments but those of God.
Furthermore, if an action is directly against us though we are not necessarily judging them it is still appropriate to accept an apology.
Quatona, I think we are dangerously close to a semantics game so I will stop this right here.
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And it´s your place to forgive "transgressions of God´s will"?
So it´s not god´s judgement, but Paul´s forgiveness?
As a prerequisite/condition for your forgiveness?
And what is the "action directly against us" (or against the OP, for that matter) in the issue discussed?
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The action that the OP is talking about is that his girlfriend had premarital sex, which is against his beliefs and thus possibly considered offensive by him.
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But she has since repented for it, and is no longer having premarital sex.
Thus, since she has already asked for God's forgiveness (and, presumably, been granted it), there really isn't any current action that should be offending the OP. I'm not a Fundamentalist Christian, myself, but I would think that if the OP actually believes in the Fundamentals of Christianity, he would accept that her repentance to God is reason not to hold his girlfriend's previous action(s) against her.
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