So I have had scruples OCD for a few years where I have obsessions over sinning and perfectionism. It can be exhausting and make me obsess over things. Recently I had one over my relationship with my gf. I was hit with the obsession that my gf and I aren't perfect and sometimes sin while we see together. I was then hit with "God may want me to break up with her since we sin together". How do I navigate this? Do I just accept that my gf and I are human together and that's ok and Jesus doesn't want me to live think just because I may sin with a gf I don't have to break up with her?
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You got to bite the bullet and know that the OCD is trying to rear it's ugly head. CBT skills would really help you but, theres a problem there. Most ppl don't get how CBT works and I want to tell you that whatever question pop's up into your head that causes you anxiety. DON"t answer it. Let the thought be there but don't attend to it. You'll find that it gets easier over time as your able to look into the ugly face of OCD. Don't let it make you bow to it. It bows to you.
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But how do I ignore it since it revolves around religion? Do we not have to end relationships even though we may habitually sin in them Or choose to sin in them?
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I struggle constantly with the issue of sexual temptation with my girlfriend as well. Despite our best efforts I still sin sometimes too. It is a tricky issue to deal with, especially when you throw OCD in to the mix.
In my case, I feel as if the Lord has called me to marry the girl, and at my stage of life this is a plausible solution. I know I still need to continue repenting, because there is still a while before the wedding (we picked out a ring, I just have to propose and begin the planning) I think the Lord has called me to marry her for a greater reason that just avoiding sexual sin, because if that were the case it would be easier to jsut break up with her. I do love her, and she is a strong Christian, and I believe the Lord can use us in great ways.
When you are 18 the situation is a little different. Marriage is not really as viable (though I'm not God, I can't say what He has called you to), and breaking up would be the easy thing to do. However, I don't know if the Lord would have you break up with this girl, or if he would use the situation to teach and grow you. Is the girl a Christian? If she is not then I would say that staying with her may not be the best thing. I would talk to a trusted, Chrisitian adult about the situation and pray for a definitive answer before doing anything. When I have prayed for an answer I am often amazed by the strength and clarity of the answer I get, it is so much different than that nagging feeling or thoughts that come from an OCD obsession over an issue. Praying for you.
In my case, I feel as if the Lord has called me to marry the girl, and at my stage of life this is a plausible solution. I know I still need to continue repenting, because there is still a while before the wedding (we picked out a ring, I just have to propose and begin the planning) I think the Lord has called me to marry her for a greater reason that just avoiding sexual sin, because if that were the case it would be easier to jsut break up with her. I do love her, and she is a strong Christian, and I believe the Lord can use us in great ways.
When you are 18 the situation is a little different. Marriage is not really as viable (though I'm not God, I can't say what He has called you to), and breaking up would be the easy thing to do. However, I don't know if the Lord would have you break up with this girl, or if he would use the situation to teach and grow you. Is the girl a Christian? If she is not then I would say that staying with her may not be the best thing. I would talk to a trusted, Chrisitian adult about the situation and pray for a definitive answer before doing anything. When I have prayed for an answer I am often amazed by the strength and clarity of the answer I get, it is so much different than that nagging feeling or thoughts that come from an OCD obsession over an issue. Praying for you.
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What are your intentions in this relationship? Is she Christian? It's not okay to sin and God does not think it is okay for you to sin. God wants you to turn from sin. Some Christians will say to the same thing to you, not to worry about it because we all sin. While it is true that we all sin, it is not true that you shouldn't worry about it. That is Satan speaking to you. While we may never see perfection this side of life, we should never tolerate sin in our lives. We must do everything possible to remove sin from our lives and live a sanctified life. That means doing the hard things, like breaking off relationships. If you cannot stop sinning with this woman, then you should break it off.
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