I'm guys just needing some advice! I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 6 years ! I've only gave my life to The Lord a year ago( thankyou jesus)! Before I got saved we were having sex and pretty much doing everything! But obviously The Lord has been working on me and now we live in the same house but have separate rooms and don't do anything anymore because the guilt after it sucked! Anyways I'm at that stage where she's like are we gonna get married! To be honest she's a nice girl I love her but I don't think I've ever been in love with her it was more lust over the 4-5 years before I was saved! Shes only just starting to read the bibles he hasn't fully given her life to The Lord yet nod we talk about it but I think she just needs to make that last leap of faith! Anyways what to I do? Is it time to part ways? Maybe it isn't in gods plan for us? Can I ask god for something ie love, ? And also her life revolves around me an I would like her to concentrate on god then worry about me haha! So mayb it is time to part ways so she can rely and lean on god! Anyways any help . Advice , scripture would be awesome!! Thanks guys
-
Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
-
CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
Relationship help?
- Thread starter Cubby5000
- Start date
E
EazyMack
Guest
Hey there! I would suggest getting your own places for the time being, and working on your relationships with God. For example, you guys could start going to church & a Bible study together, as well as perhaps joining men's/women's groups separately. You don't necessarily have to end the relationship. But it appears you have the right idea, in that God needs to come first.
Are you wanting to end the relationship?
Are you wanting to end the relationship?
Upvote
0
Hay mate sorry should have said more! Got baptized about 6 months ago go to 
church every Sunday and have an bible study every Monday! I'm currently at off work with acl reconstruction so have plenty of time to study gods word and just listen to what he has to say to me. I feel he won'ts be to do a ywan course overseas but I'm not sure if it involves her! I'm just not sure about ending it? Is it the best thing to do I know gods in control! So yer..? Thanks for the feed back . So should I end it so I can really concentrate on ywam or try long distance just confuzed on making a decision !
church every Sunday and have an bible study every Monday! I'm currently at off work with acl reconstruction so have plenty of time to study gods word and just listen to what he has to say to me. I feel he won'ts be to do a ywan course overseas but I'm not sure if it involves her! I'm just not sure about ending it? Is it the best thing to do I know gods in control! So yer..? Thanks for the feed back . So should I end it so I can really concentrate on ywam or try long distance just confuzed on making a decision !
Upvote
0
RobertMerton
Veteran
Hi Cubby,
first of all well done on your walk with God, and thinking about and seeing such things as sins.
You guys have been dating a long time, so she would be devastated if you guys broke up. I would have a serious talk with her, and tell her how you need her to be a born-again christian if you were to marry her.
things of that nature.
either way it's bad to break up suddenly, or to not break up and have to break up a few years down the line.
first of all well done on your walk with God, and thinking about and seeing such things as sins.
You guys have been dating a long time, so she would be devastated if you guys broke up. I would have a serious talk with her, and tell her how you need her to be a born-again christian if you were to marry her.
things of that nature.
either way it's bad to break up suddenly, or to not break up and have to break up a few years down the line.
Upvote
0
graceandpeace
Episcopalian
Do you want to marry her someday?
That's the question you really need to deal with first. If you just care for her as a person, but don't love her or think of growing old with her in a marriage relationship...then it might be time to end the relationship. Otherwise, you are just leading her on & wasting her time. If she is wanting to take the "next step" in marriage, you need to figure out if that's what you want, too.
Well, that's encouraging to hear she may be interested in following the Lord. I would not fret & speculate over any alleged "plan" of God though, as I don't believe that God has a plan regarding who we should marry, or what career we should have, or what house we should buy, or anything else like that. The question is still the same: Do you want to marry her someday? If not, then tell her so.
God's not in control. He is not pulling strings to make you date or marry a certain person.
Upvote
0
Near
In Christ we rise
You are born, and you did not have her. You will die, and she will not be yours.
You must be pure, if you are not, get out and run away.
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. (Matthew 5:27-30 NKJV)
Sin puts you in danger of hell, that's why Christ told us to go to the extremes to be free of sin.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the Lord Almighty.” (II Corinthians 6:14-18 NKJV)
Time to stop joking with the unbelievers, it's time to be serious, and repent of any sin. If you want that person you speak of to be saved, pray to God, and speak the truth, of Christ, not once, but daily, multiple times a day. You need to be on fire for the Lord.
Disconnect your heart from any thoughts of relationship with the ungodly. You must be a new creation.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (II Corinthians 5:17 NKJV)
Pray to God, ask him, if you are led by the Spirit you will do what is right.
Be serious about this: it's heaven and hell.
If you love that woman, marriage is not the answer, Jesus Christ, is the answer.
You must be pure, if you are not, get out and run away.
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. (Matthew 5:27-30 NKJV)
Sin puts you in danger of hell, that's why Christ told us to go to the extremes to be free of sin.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the Lord Almighty.” (II Corinthians 6:14-18 NKJV)
Time to stop joking with the unbelievers, it's time to be serious, and repent of any sin. If you want that person you speak of to be saved, pray to God, and speak the truth, of Christ, not once, but daily, multiple times a day. You need to be on fire for the Lord.
Disconnect your heart from any thoughts of relationship with the ungodly. You must be a new creation.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (II Corinthians 5:17 NKJV)
Pray to God, ask him, if you are led by the Spirit you will do what is right.
Be serious about this: it's heaven and hell.
If you love that woman, marriage is not the answer, Jesus Christ, is the answer.
Upvote
0
E
EazyMack
Guest
Wait a minute.
He's already saved. It's not "heaven and hell" anymore.
It's easy for you to tell someone to just cut their relationship off. You're not even old enough to have been in a relationship for as long as he has been with her.
Better dismount that high holy horse before you fall off, homie!
He's already saved. It's not "heaven and hell" anymore.
It's easy for you to tell someone to just cut their relationship off. You're not even old enough to have been in a relationship for as long as he has been with her.
Better dismount that high holy horse before you fall off, homie!
Upvote
0
Similar threads
