Hello everyone,
So I'm aware there's a number of different threads on this site asking for advice with relationship so I thought I'd join in and request some advice and guidance myself!
A few months ago, my friend asked me out on a date and I straight away turned him down, and said I wasn't interested. But since then, he's not given up on me. He's pursued me and effectively chased after me until eventually, about a month ago, I stopped in my tracks and wondered if there could be anything here after all. So we spent some time together, hanging out, getting to know each other, and then I decided that I wasn't interested. I feel bad because I feel that I led him on a little bit... But even that hasn't swayed him and he's still relentlessly pursuing a relationship with me - even though I've hurt him and turned him down! (It's basically a repeat of the story of Hosea and Gomer!)
He's an incredible guy. He loves Jesus with his whole heart and only wants to see the Kingdom grow here on earth. He's deeply generous and loving and caring. He's passionate about others hearing the Gospel message. He's loyal. He has a wonderful sense of humour. He's so thoughtful and honest. His family love me and are keen for the two of us to get together. He's essentially the man of my dreams...
I'm just not sure why I'm holding back? I've spoken to a number of different people about it and received mostly mixed thoughts - some are encouraging me to date him, others are encouraging me not to. I feel like God has given me this fantastic and incredible guy, and yet I've treated him so badly and I'm not sure how I feel about him? So, my question is, do I explore the possibility of 'dating' him, and seeing where it goes even though I'm still not sure at the moment, or do I shut the door on him completely?
So I'm aware there's a number of different threads on this site asking for advice with relationship so I thought I'd join in and request some advice and guidance myself!
A few months ago, my friend asked me out on a date and I straight away turned him down, and said I wasn't interested. But since then, he's not given up on me. He's pursued me and effectively chased after me until eventually, about a month ago, I stopped in my tracks and wondered if there could be anything here after all. So we spent some time together, hanging out, getting to know each other, and then I decided that I wasn't interested. I feel bad because I feel that I led him on a little bit... But even that hasn't swayed him and he's still relentlessly pursuing a relationship with me - even though I've hurt him and turned him down! (It's basically a repeat of the story of Hosea and Gomer!)
He's an incredible guy. He loves Jesus with his whole heart and only wants to see the Kingdom grow here on earth. He's deeply generous and loving and caring. He's passionate about others hearing the Gospel message. He's loyal. He has a wonderful sense of humour. He's so thoughtful and honest. His family love me and are keen for the two of us to get together. He's essentially the man of my dreams...
I'm just not sure why I'm holding back? I've spoken to a number of different people about it and received mostly mixed thoughts - some are encouraging me to date him, others are encouraging me not to. I feel like God has given me this fantastic and incredible guy, and yet I've treated him so badly and I'm not sure how I feel about him? So, my question is, do I explore the possibility of 'dating' him, and seeing where it goes even though I'm still not sure at the moment, or do I shut the door on him completely?