Morning All,
So long story i need advice on how to handle this situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and have talked about marriage. She is a great and loving girl but she comes from a rough past. Her dad is in prison for fraud and she did her share of running around and sleeping with a lot of dudes. i don't know how many exactly, but i know it's way more than me. I love her so much but her past is starting to bother me now more than ever, probably because the marriage thing we have talked about recently. She use to sleep around and even when we first started talking, she would like a bunch of guys Instagram posts and comment on pictures. This is really starting to affect me and how i view here. This isn't fair since I am judging her past. Even the first couple months, she still liked dudes Instagram pictures.
We both are super religious now, including her. We met in church and pray together, and serve together. I had only been with 1 girl sexually before her and we have recently decided to stop anything physical before marriage. I guess my question is, how do i move on from her past and KNOW that she has changed and won't hurt me? Why is it just now bothering me a year later to the point we talk about it and it is affecting us? I guess there is kind of a trust issue there for me it seems. I just can't replaying it in my mind her past and I have tried talking to her about it, which she gets offended that I judge her on her past. She treats me so good but Im afraid she might turn into the person of her past again. Please, any advice would be great! We have already talked about it MULTIPLE times and i am afraid if I bring it up again, it will ruin us for good.
We are both 25 by the way. Thanks!
So long story i need advice on how to handle this situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and have talked about marriage. She is a great and loving girl but she comes from a rough past. Her dad is in prison for fraud and she did her share of running around and sleeping with a lot of dudes. i don't know how many exactly, but i know it's way more than me. I love her so much but her past is starting to bother me now more than ever, probably because the marriage thing we have talked about recently. She use to sleep around and even when we first started talking, she would like a bunch of guys Instagram posts and comment on pictures. This is really starting to affect me and how i view here. This isn't fair since I am judging her past. Even the first couple months, she still liked dudes Instagram pictures.
We both are super religious now, including her. We met in church and pray together, and serve together. I had only been with 1 girl sexually before her and we have recently decided to stop anything physical before marriage. I guess my question is, how do i move on from her past and KNOW that she has changed and won't hurt me? Why is it just now bothering me a year later to the point we talk about it and it is affecting us? I guess there is kind of a trust issue there for me it seems. I just can't replaying it in my mind her past and I have tried talking to her about it, which she gets offended that I judge her on her past. She treats me so good but Im afraid she might turn into the person of her past again. Please, any advice would be great! We have already talked about it MULTIPLE times and i am afraid if I bring it up again, it will ruin us for good.
We are both 25 by the way. Thanks!