I'm curious what your opinions are on rebound relationships? Do you think every single person who comes out of a long term relationship will first go on the rebound before finding steady ground again?
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Rebound relationships
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Not everyone does rebound relationships.
Some people take time to evaluate and refocus between relationships.
Some people take time to evaluate and refocus between relationships.
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I said "every single person" because my opinion is that it's a general unwritten rule that people will rebound, but when I thought about it it seemed silly to think that would apply to EVERYONE. So I wanted other thoughts on it 
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I think it's an issue of emotional maturity that people reach at different times. But a emotionally mature person will take time to evaluate why their relationship failed, and give themselves time to recover before entering into a new relationship. Not everyone needs a rebound. I also think any time a person starts dating again if they go through a couple of short term dating relationships that automatically gets labeled as rebounding. Even though it might well not have been.
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I found steady ground but for the most part if your the one trying to get with that person and the dude or gal show's back up in the picture your left out in the cold. IMO!
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Thunder Peel
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I personally think they're a bad idea. You need time after a relationship ends to reflect, both on yourself and what you added or detracted from the relationship. It's been 10 months since mine ended and I'm at a place where I'm ready to date again; however, I spent those months focusing on my walk with Christ and making sure that I could move forward without holding onto the past. It's been an amazing journey and if I jumped into another relationship during that time it wouldn't have worked.
It's really unfair to date someone simply as a rebound or to make yourself feel better. There's nothing wrong with taking your time and working on things in your life before taking a chance again. I take relationships seriously and people's hearts aren't things to simply be toyed with to boost your own ego.
It's really unfair to date someone simply as a rebound or to make yourself feel better. There's nothing wrong with taking your time and working on things in your life before taking a chance again. I take relationships seriously and people's hearts aren't things to simply be toyed with to boost your own ego.
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white dove
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For me, it never made any sense to do that. I don't consider it dating/dating on the rebound if I'm just hanging out with someone, so if I hung out with someone prior to really getting over an ex it's never been a big deal. I know people who've gone from relationship to relationship though and it's worked for them. Some people just aren't happy "alone" or they just don't feel comfortable being by themselves for a period. It's hard, but I think that in the interim I either find out things that can help me in my next relationship or it just gives my heart a time to regroup and heal. I need some time and space.
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I said "every single person" because my opinion is that it's a general unwritten rule that people will rebound, but when I thought about it it seemed silly to think that would apply to EVERYONE. So I wanted other thoughts on it
I don't think it is true. I have never went on a rebound.
No instead, I have responded the hard way because it is the only way I know how to.
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Okay, lol, I'll be the first to admit I've done the rebound thing; and in the past it was for bootay. If I do do the rebound thing these days it's not because I need somebody to be with or feel incomplete without a relationship, it's because I enjoy spending time with cool chickitas
ETA: I think I should add that I don't attach myself very easily to most people, so even if we do end up in a relationship I'd be pretty hard pressed to actually be upset for longer than a few hours or a day after we break-up; the only relationships I've ever found myself deeply attached to were women of extreme qualities and with near parallel lives. In short, if you're not incredible I really find it hard to be attracted to you; it's a bit of a curse but also a blessing.
ETA: I think I should add that I don't attach myself very easily to most people, so even if we do end up in a relationship I'd be pretty hard pressed to actually be upset for longer than a few hours or a day after we break-up; the only relationships I've ever found myself deeply attached to were women of extreme qualities and with near parallel lives. In short, if you're not incredible I really find it hard to be attracted to you; it's a bit of a curse but also a blessing.
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nope. I came close to rebounding a couple of times after I broke up with my ex, but thankfully I was smart enough to walk away before anything actually happened. I think that would have screwed me up even worse and prolonged the healing process had I tried dating someone new.
just because its flattering to find reassurance right away that you're wanted by someone doesn't mean its a healthy way to move on.
just because its flattering to find reassurance right away that you're wanted by someone doesn't mean its a healthy way to move on.
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Excatly my point. I guess God knew I needed several yr's to heal from my last relationship and that is what He is doing. Healing me.
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No, not everybody. And not after every break up either.
First break up, yeah I did a rebound. But this second one, nothing. I've dated around casually here and there, but it's been almost a year since the relationship ended and honestly, I still don't really want anything to do with relationships rofl.
First break up, yeah I did a rebound. But this second one, nothing. I've dated around casually here and there, but it's been almost a year since the relationship ended and honestly, I still don't really want anything to do with relationships rofl.
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Blueforest
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Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Everyone is different. I've seen and heard rebounds work, but many times, they don't.
I've never been in one and probably never will.
I've never been in one and probably never will.
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