Really Need Help

[bbo1948]

I am brand new to site. I'm 58, widowed with 6yr old adopted daughter. I have ADD with impulsivity, depression and anxiety. I am totally unorganized, house a pit. I can't get anything done, although I am home all day. I need someone to write out a daily schedule for me, please. I am unable to set priorities and plan steps, etc. I cannot afford an ADD coach, and have no real friends or family I can ask for help. I love the Lord, and am definitely a born again Christian, but am so unorganized and scattered that I am inconsistent in my daily devotions. I thrift store shop compulsively, bringing home more and more junk, almost daily, and can't bear to part with anything. I only have Social Security income, which is sufficient to meet our needs, but nothing extra, but I waste money that I don't have every month, and end up 2 0r3hundred dollars in the hole month after month. I am beginning counseling and will be seeing a psychiatrist next week, but I really need more help. Is there anybody out there who would be willing to take me on as a project__to give me advise, make me a schedule and be my accountablity partner?? I pray that some kind soul will be willing to help me.
Hope to hear from some kind soul VERY SOON. I am desperate. Please feel free to PM me.

 

[tapero]

Hi Hon,

I'm so sorry for the struggles you are going through. I am glad to hear that you are soon to get counseling. That is very wise and should help you a lot I pray.

hon, you wrote this:

Is there anybody out there who would be willing to take me on as a project__to give me advise, make me a schedule and be my accountablity partner??

I just wanted to let you know and you probably already do know this, but just wanted to say that no one on Christian Forums can offer professional advice, neither member or staff. It's against the rules.

However, of course people can offer advice and be a accountability partner of course and encouargement and support.

So I just needed to post that as well so you know, as I see you are new.

It is great that you have written down what's going on with you, and you will recieve lots of encouragement and support. However, there is nothing like real live help and I am so proud of you for seeking it out.

In Christ's love
tapero

 

[kayd1966]

Welcome to CF bbo

You are in a difficult spot and its one I understand.

I had to get to a dr quickly before I totally drove my family into the ground. Once there, he put me on medication that curbed the spending, eating problems, and enabled me to take better control of my house.

When you talk to the Psych, ask him about all the options available to you.

I can't remember how many posts are needed for you to send PMs but you can up your post count quickly by going to the game section.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

I don't have all the answers. This is what I do know thou.

ADD, my mind gravitates to what intrest me the most. For long time meant I was on my computer 90% time instead doing what needed to be done. So I built adaptive behavior of taking tasks and make something intresting about them. lol most of the time its listening to funny or good energetic music. So my intrest level is achieved and I can focus on work at hand.

Self Control, after checking out www.coping.org about it, lead me to Galatians 5. What got my attention was passages 22, 23, and 25

"22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!"

"25 Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives."

So I sat there and just tried to hear my Spirit. It came in as a whisper, but I did hear it.

With my ADD, I am like a follower or worker. I need a foreman to give me modivation and work orders. I use my spirit as that foreman. When I am wondering what I should be doing, I listen to my Spirit.

About Impulsive behavior, that is one thing trying to build new adaptive behaviors for. Right now for my excessive talking, I have to use lot energy to turn essays of thought into short and simple speech. For my financial impulses, I try make money I have hard to reach. If I financially lose it, I make sure I feel the conquences of my decissions. So next time I get the impulse blow all my money, I can remember stomach pains or walking had to do save last of my gas tank.

One last thing, getting full understanding of ADD helped alot. www.ADD.org has articles that are really good.

Take care.

 

[metallikitty]

bless you, bbo1948! your post=my experiences too in many ways.

except I am 31, no kids (lots of pets) and married. my home is often a wreck too, with stinky carpet from previous cat misbehavior. want to fix/replace/change but need to neaten first. even with the adderall it is very hard to focus at times.

I have the gift of hospitality and love to cook and entertain, however a messy smelly home does not lend itself to pleasant gatherings.

I'll pray for you; please pray for me too!

>^-^<

 

[mariamirabella333]

Hi, I read your post and I feel your pain. I am very disorganized, even though it is not to the same extent as yours, but I also make lists all the time. I just wanted to suggest that maybe you want to post this in some other topic like Ministery or some other topic, where you can ask for help. The reason I say this, is that in this topic we are all with ADD and we have similar problems, and we DO understand you, but for example I would love to be your partner and make your lists, but I spend so much time on my own lists that is not possible to take on someone else's. In other words if you ask someone who does NOT have ADD, that person maybe able to make lists for you and have the time to do so, and stuff like that. I write this with the best of intention and best of luck to you.

 

[Greeble]

bbo1948

We're almost twins!! Except my weakness is art supplies and books.
I can't do anything with any decent regularity. I still work but have overspent so badly that I will loose my condo and cleaning it out is an overwhelming and impossible task.

As to not being daily in your devotions, the Lord understands and is with you. May I suggest taking a page from the Jewish tradition and placing a cross or fish symbol on your doorframe (inside if you wish) and when you go in or out, either touch it or simply say a short prayer.?

 

[issa]

uh oh i think we need to email bbo coz her attention has strayed from CF...her post was last april 2007