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Reach for help? Or keep it inside?
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Kate, I still think you should have added the "I'm Steffi" option 
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I voted for the "I don't have an ED/SI, but if I did, I imagine I would ask for help" both because I think it's what should be done and I think it's what I'd do. If you'd asked me this time last year, I would have voted "keep it to myself", but the lesson I've learned this year is that we're not perfect...and that's ok. Hehe - nobody else is perfect either and as hard as it can be to tell someone, it's worth it.
. I voted for the "I don't have an ED/SI, but if I did, I imagine I would ask for help" both because I think it's what should be done and I think it's what I'd do. If you'd asked me this time last year, I would have voted "keep it to myself", but the lesson I've learned this year is that we're not perfect...and that's ok. Hehe - nobody else is perfect either and as hard as it can be to tell someone, it's worth it.
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Soulwings
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I voted that I would tell someone.
Because that's what recovery is all about.
You need to be able to use your voice. You need to be able to reach out. We weren't meant to do this alone. We are meant to reach out for help. It's not a weak thing; it's a strong thing, because it's so freaking difficult to do.
I also tend to ask for help from friends, therapist(s) and my nutritionist because although the unhealthy part of me wants to be back in that hell of darkness and anger and pain, the healthy part of me is bigger, and it wants to see the sun again, and doesn't want to backslide into that mud pit.
Funny thing is, I don't really ask my parents for help. Because they don't understand. Meh. I wish they did, I wish they'd just acknowledge the fact that I feel fat, instead of arguing with me about it all the time, but ... I'll take what help I can get from wherever I can get it. Because like I said - that's what recovery's about.
Because that's what recovery is all about.
You need to be able to use your voice. You need to be able to reach out. We weren't meant to do this alone. We are meant to reach out for help. It's not a weak thing; it's a strong thing, because it's so freaking difficult to do.
I also tend to ask for help from friends, therapist(s) and my nutritionist because although the unhealthy part of me wants to be back in that hell of darkness and anger and pain, the healthy part of me is bigger, and it wants to see the sun again, and doesn't want to backslide into that mud pit.
Funny thing is, I don't really ask my parents for help. Because they don't understand. Meh. I wish they did, I wish they'd just acknowledge the fact that I feel fat, instead of arguing with me about it all the time, but ... I'll take what help I can get from wherever I can get it. Because like I said - that's what recovery's about.
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You two make me so proud to be able to call you my sisters .
April, it's so awesome to see how much residential helped and wow - you never cease to amaze me!
Kate, I'm so glad this site has helped. Hehe - without it I would never have met you! That's a rather upsetting thought actually . Yes - I'm very glad you found CF .
. April, it's so awesome to see how much residential helped and wow - you never cease to amaze me!
Kate, I'm so glad this site has helped
. Hehe - without it I would never have met you! That's a rather upsetting thought actually . Yes - I'm very glad you found CF .
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Soulwings
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Steffi. Yes, it really has helped a lot. I'm glad to know that the six weeks there haven't been for nothing! cos that would suck. Hehe. Kate. What's different about telling people online versus in real life? except that we can't really help you as much as you deserve?
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Can I choose 2 options???
How about... keep it inside... want to reach out... argue with myself... argue with God... try to reach out... keep it inside... reach out.... someone reaches back... run and hide....
hmm... that's just me...
but today I have reached out... someone has reached back... I gotta ring them tomorrow and talk... or perhaps I just txt them and pretend it's all fine...
still, if I don't ring, they'll know I'm avoiding and won't let me...
I'll get the hang of trusting people one day...
love you guys!!!
How about... keep it inside... want to reach out... argue with myself... argue with God... try to reach out... keep it inside... reach out.... someone reaches back... run and hide....
hmm... that's just me...
but today I have reached out... someone has reached back... I gotta ring them tomorrow and talk... or perhaps I just txt them and pretend it's all fine...
still, if I don't ring, they'll know I'm avoiding and won't let me...
I'll get the hang of trusting people one day...
love you guys!!!
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Seriously, one of the best things I did was getting my ed out in the open. Because now I'm accountable. I can't run or hide, because there are people that know and can help keep me on track. We're commanded to bear one another's burdens and I think part of that is being humble enough to reach out for help when we need it.
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Tiggie
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that's me too. i try to reach out to my other half, in subtle ways like hoping he'l bust me throwing up so that i can stop and get help. or when i starve that he'l force me to eat. or when i joop for joy that i lost any weight that he'l say something.
i tried with my pdoc but she just doesn't give a rat about me, and other than that i have no one to talk to about it.
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Or at least I try to. My issue (i think) is that when I can't control the rest of my life, I control my eating, and that gets really difficult to deal with. I really should reach for help earlier, but I so haven't haven't learnt how.
My worst fear is ending up a mum with a eating disorder, and I don't overly want to be married with one for my darling husbands sake either.
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I used to try to ask for help but people gave up on me along time ago. So I hide my cutting and make it look like an accident or they think the cats scratched me. Sometimes I did ask my pastor for help days after I already cut. All he can do is pray for me though. I think that people don't care anymore so what's the use. I don't even think about a future now or if I make it another month.
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mom_one
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I would keep praying to God & trusting Him reach out for help ,its not good to keep everything locked up inside of you ,causes you more problems God help her to reach out to her family & others & to trust you completely what seems impossible to us is not impossible to you as you can do all things Lord be with her & give her help we pray in Jesus name Amen
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Daysoni
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I kept things inside for so long and then when I allowed a few woman fron church in it all backfired and got way out of hand with them. I totally quit trusting and closed up. Now I have a good therapist and am learning to once again open up and allow help....
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I keep it to myself. I'm so embarrassed about it that I can't tell anyone. That, of course, makes it worse and leads to a vicious cycle. I wish I had someone to talk to about this but I just can't bring myself to open up about it.
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One of the best gifts God's given me is people who are easy to reach out for help from. I still to this day call someone up or "accidently" tell my best friend over IM that I'm going to "miss a meal or two", because I know that by opening up it to them they will give me that hand I need so don't fall down or if I do they'll help me up.
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