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er ... ummm ... er .... ah .... er ... ummmmm .... er ... not really Rob. If I were you I'd start moving it out. Eggs are always good for you!
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Honibee,
I have been thinking alot about this. When our life is turned upside-down, I guess we need to rethink our purpose in living in light of our new circumstances. I now think this is the most important part of coming out of grief and depression. I guess I need a reason to take up space and use earth's resources.
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I have been thinking alot about this. When our life is turned upside-down, I guess we need to rethink our purpose in living in light of our new circumstances. I now think this is the most important part of coming out of grief and depression. I guess I need a reason to take up space and use earth's resources.
Bob
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Bob said:
I think this makes alot of sense, Bob. And I agree considering our 'new' situation DOES help through the grieving process. I'm also of the persuasion
that all life's circumstances have potential to enlighten us on aspects of God's love we would not see otherwise.
Blessings in Him,
~H
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I agree. I was caught up in the "world system" and did not have a focus on Christ. As I sometimes tell people, "God knocked the snot out of me to get my attention."
I have been enlightened on many things from life's circumstances.
By-the-way, I enjoy posting on here and appreciate the friendliness of everyone.
I agree. I was caught up in the "world system" and did not have a focus on Christ. As I sometimes tell people, "God knocked the snot out of me to get my attention."
I have been enlightened on many things from life's circumstances.
By-the-way, I enjoy posting on here and appreciate the friendliness of everyone.
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And we enjoy your friendliness too Bob! The death did not take my focus from God, it sharpened my focus on Him. I'm not a world focused person and never have been really.
My very quiet life satisfies me and gives me joy in whatever God gives me. Come day - go day. Each day brings something different, some new aspect, something new to focus on.
And, it's up to us to take advantage of whatever God sends us. Remember, when one door closes, another opens.
My very quiet life satisfies me and gives me joy in whatever God gives me. Come day - go day. Each day brings something different, some new aspect, something new to focus on.
And, it's up to us to take advantage of whatever God sends us. Remember, when one door closes, another opens.
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Bob and Bevlina! Blessings my friends!I was wondering, do any of you feel you need to expect alot (maybe too much) out of yourselves. Do you think there is a tendency to do that?
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Well, I have to expect alot of myself Rob. I live alone completely so there's house maintenance, gardens, lawns, fowl shedding, fencing, you name it. I'm very competent at what I do though!
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I feel alot like you Bevlina, alot falls on our shoulders when we become the 'head' of
the household. But again, the burden is light as we rest in His strength. In my situation, it involved going back to school and taking on a new career. For awhile it felt alittle 'lop-sided'- more time given to things outside my family. But it's come back
into balance, PTL! ( And my family said, "AMEN!")
the household. But again, the burden is light as we rest in His strength. In my situation, it involved going back to school and taking on a new career. For awhile it felt alittle 'lop-sided'- more time given to things outside my family. But it's come back
into balance, PTL! ( And my family said, "AMEN!")
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My compliments to you ladies for being able to carry on.
I live alone in a nice apartment with only my wife's cockatiel (War Eagle) to worry about. He is so old, he only sleeps, eats, and poops (which is about all I seem to do these days). My wife named him Timothy. I thought that was a "wus" name, so renamed him so he would not feel inferior to his birdie guy pals (not that he has any).
With little or no responsibilities, I tend to lay in bed until late (occassionally, I will have a class to prepare for and have to arise earlier) and then push myself to get up and get the blood circulating. At first, I blamed it on the stroke. I now am having to face the fact that I can't use that as an excuse any more and need to push myself - but for what? I feel all the energy has been sucked out of me and I just exist and take up space.
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I live alone in a nice apartment with only my wife's cockatiel (War Eagle) to worry about. He is so old, he only sleeps, eats, and poops (which is about all I seem to do these days). My wife named him Timothy. I thought that was a "wus" name, so renamed him so he would not feel inferior to his birdie guy pals (not that he has any).
With little or no responsibilities, I tend to lay in bed until late (occassionally, I will have a class to prepare for and have to arise earlier) and then push myself to get up and get the blood circulating. At first, I blamed it on the stroke. I now am having to face the fact that I can't use that as an excuse any more and need to push myself - but for what? I feel all the energy has been sucked out of me and I just exist and take up space.
Bob
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Rob, I tend to keep odd times too. But I know that whatever I do, I do it for a purpose, a God given purpose. God let me live for a reason, to go through death and grief for a reason, He enabled me to carry on for a reason. I do not know what the reason is, but I know it's in His Hands.
You don't just exist Rob, you are grieving and think you just exist at the moment. Just be patient and let time pass.
You have a life, a nice life. And, you have a God given future to look forward to. You don't know what it is yet - but God never abandons His children.
He loves us dearly, and we cling to Him with love and hope in our hearts. That's how we manage. Faith can move mountains.
You don't just exist Rob, you are grieving and think you just exist at the moment. Just be patient and let time pass.
You have a life, a nice life. And, you have a God given future to look forward to. You don't know what it is yet - but God never abandons His children.
He loves us dearly, and we cling to Him with love and hope in our hearts. That's how we manage. Faith can move mountains.
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Bevlina,
It is about 4:15 AM in Houston and here I am on the computer.
Thank you for your kind reply and motivational thoughts. They are appreciated.
Tell us more about the town in which you live. I, and I am sure several other Yanks on here, are interested.
Bob
It is about 4:15 AM in Houston and here I am on the computer.
Thank you for your kind reply and motivational thoughts. They are appreciated.
Tell us more about the town in which you live. I, and I am sure several other Yanks on here, are interested.
Bob
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Of course Rob!
I live in a small town in Australia, population about 850 counting all the farmers as well.
It's in the mallee region of Australia. Outback country really, but very pretty.
We have a Supermarket and a few small shops, 2 locally owned Take Away places and of course 2 petrol stations. ( I think you call it gas in America)
My late husband is buried in the local cemetary. In my profile, you will find my website which tells a little about the country in which I live.
The climate is beautiful, although we can get severe dust or electrical storms. We do have Australian Aboriginals living in the town too. They are nice people who cause no harm to anyone.
There are 8 Churches in the town. Yes ... 8 for such a small population. All those who attend the various congregations are related to one another.
Hey! You aren't the only one who is up till 4.15 a.m. This morning, I didn't get to sleep until 6.a.m. But, it was beautiful watching the dawn. It always is really.
I live in a small town in Australia, population about 850 counting all the farmers as well.
It's in the mallee region of Australia. Outback country really, but very pretty.
We have a Supermarket and a few small shops, 2 locally owned Take Away places and of course 2 petrol stations. ( I think you call it gas in America)
My late husband is buried in the local cemetary. In my profile, you will find my website which tells a little about the country in which I live.
The climate is beautiful, although we can get severe dust or electrical storms. We do have Australian Aboriginals living in the town too. They are nice people who cause no harm to anyone.
There are 8 Churches in the town. Yes ... 8 for such a small population. All those who attend the various congregations are related to one another.
Hey! You aren't the only one who is up till 4.15 a.m. This morning, I didn't get to sleep until 6.a.m. But, it was beautiful watching the dawn. It always is really.
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Bevlina,
Thank you for the description of your town. It is so different from Houston and sounds neat. Houston is on the same latitude as Cairo, so gets very hot in the summer. It is about 75 miles inland from the Gulf of Mexico and is so humid that the business buildings downtown are networked together by an air conditioned tunnel network. People often become lost in the tunnels because you lose your orientation. However, they have security guards and business folks in the system so you can stop and ask for help.
Bob
Thank you for the description of your town. It is so different from Houston and sounds neat. Houston is on the same latitude as Cairo, so gets very hot in the summer. It is about 75 miles inland from the Gulf of Mexico and is so humid that the business buildings downtown are networked together by an air conditioned tunnel network. People often become lost in the tunnels because you lose your orientation. However, they have security guards and business folks in the system so you can stop and ask for help.
Bob
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robert adams said:
Oh yuck,I have one too,and it stays in my closet! I can nuke a dog too fast to make it worth lugging that thing out. Don't you think everything tastes "steamed" with it? Chicken,BLAH,all your seasoning and juices run off into the drip pan. Give me chicken marinated then baked in Italian dressing,at least it is closer to comfort food. Only benefit I know of with a Foreman grill ,is it's fast.
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On another note I went through 2 grief support sessions so I know I am not the only one who felt this way,but when you lose your spouse many have to force themselves to shower and shave,because you just don't care. The one you wanted to clean up for is gone. It is scary how long the ladies wait between shaving their legs! 
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I think it is a major adjustment to go from being 'we' to being 'I'. Once we realize we dont want to just be 'I' we begin to struggle out of that cocoon and to invest ourself into other lives and to see more day brighteners! When we were 'we' we were so occupied with our spouse and going from there to truly caring about the others, even on the fringes of our lives is quite a journey and sign of adapting to the great change!
Nursing provided some help with that, but then I retired in Nov, after he died in May! I stayed in the recliner and slept for 3 days after retiring. Never realized what how really stressed out I'd been during his illness/death, my retiring.
Takes time to come to terms, reset the goals and life interactions! Takes lots of pondering, prayer, support from others, hope!
God guides His dear children along!
Nursing provided some help with that, but then I retired in Nov, after he died in May! I stayed in the recliner and slept for 3 days after retiring. Never realized what how really stressed out I'd been during his illness/death, my retiring.
Takes time to come to terms, reset the goals and life interactions! Takes lots of pondering, prayer, support from others, hope!
God guides His dear children along!
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I have been "busted." I skip shaving on a regular basis. However, I teach a class once a week and have to shave to hold onto my "job." Getting a haircut is another issue. My wife use to cut my hair. Now, I have to sneak to the barber shop to avoid being picked up by the police and taken to a homeless shelter.
Bob
I have been "busted." I skip shaving on a regular basis. However, I teach a class once a week and have to shave to hold onto my "job." Getting a haircut is another issue. My wife use to cut my hair. Now, I have to sneak to the barber shop to avoid being picked up by the police and taken to a homeless shelter.
Bob
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