Rating system - really?

[ido]

I've noticed a few of the guys (you know who you are ) use a 1-10 rating system when talking about girls. I haven't noticed girls doing this though.

Is it a guy thing? Do you automatically/subconsciouslly rate every girl? If you rate people, do you rate the same sex, too - or just the opposite sex?

I don't think I've ever thought in terms of a rating system...and I don't think I would want to know where I fall on the scale.

 

[ido]

Someone needs to respond or I'm gonna cry!

 

[dluvs2trvl]

The boys just don't want to admit to doing it and now they're afraid that we'll start doing it too and rate them on a scale from 1-10 and that makes them askeered

 

[CoachR64]

I don't use a rating scale. Either I find a girl attractive, or I don't. I have been attractive to girls that would probably be all over the scale of different guys. It doesn't really matter what they see, as long as I like what I see.

Coach

 

[BoarderDave]

I think it's a girl thing too.. except you guys have a less involved system. You guys have a Binary type system.. it's either a 0 or a 1. Meaning.. it's either open, or closed. I think he's cute. Or I will look past him.



Whereas guys may have a rating system... 1-10, and have a little cutoff zone.. "Anything under a 4, I'll look past.. " Or something like that.

Now, myself; I dont really rate a girl like that. I rate them in aspects of how well I would connect with them. Visual wise.. I rate them on how much they fit my style. Not a number, but just my own, "yeah, she is my style." "She has some of the things I look for." "No, she is not my style of person at all.."

 

[kingoffools13]

on a scale of 1-10 this thread gets a 6 ... maybe 7

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[ido]

I don't use a rating scale. Either I find a girl attractive, or I don't. I have been attractive to girls that would probably be all over the scale of different guys. It doesn't really matter what they see, as long as I like what I see.

Coach

 

[GuacaMolly]

I actually posted this in an unrelated thread a while back:

I've always found ranking a little repulsive, but maybe that's just me. I think that inner and outer beauty is so subjective. Giving girls (because I've only ever seen it applied to girls) numbers that represent their worth is sexist, damaging, demeaning and it turns my stomach.

Just for the record, I have no problem calling another woman pretty when she is. I can appreciate beauty in all forms. It's definitively ranking one person's beauty above another's that gets to me.

Pretty much sums up my sentiments

 

[IamHeather]

Thank you, FNG, for posting this. The rating thing bothers me as well. The idea that a numeric rating is being applied to me by men, or anyone really, is absolutely appalling to me.

For me, I know if I think someone is attractive or not but I don't find myself mentally rating them. I mean, really, when I first see a guy all I can see is his looks, so how can I rate that? Maybe that sounds odd to guys but I fall for a guy based on lots of things, not just his hawtness.

 

[ido]

The boys just don't want to admit to doing it and now they're afraid that we'll start doing it too and rate them on a scale from 1-10 and that makes them askeered

 

[CoachR64]

On a scale of 1-10, I am at least a 17

Coach

 

[Luther073082]

I have before but not very often its mostly for communication purposes. I don't walk in a room with a lot of girls in it thinking "7. . . Oh wow there is a 9. . . uggg look at that 4. She's a nice 6."

I really have my doubts that women never do the same thing.

 

[latteda]

I've never done it with guys...ever. I don't really get it, either.

I'll admit the rating thing bothers me. If most women were told what number they would rate, they would probably only think about what would have to be different to bump them up to a 10. I'm with you, FLN, I wouldn't want to be told where I rank on a number scale. :o

It seems a little objectifying to me. Guys, if you do rate a girl with a number, you probably don't want to mention it out loud in those terms.

 

[soccerdad66]

Guys do it, and I dear say Coach is trying to win points with the ladies with his post. I doubt he found all the women in Cabo equally attractive.

Ratings aren't an indicater of true beauty, just physical attractiveness to the average male, and a point of reference.

It's also very subjective, I've known guys who said a gal was an 8, and I thought she was in the 5 range. :o

Don't hate me for being honest.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

I hate it.

 

[kingoffools13]

man if this rating thing gets them riled up then they probably don't wanna know about the private list us single guys have going behind the scenes, where we ranked all of them ...

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[Luther073082]

I've never done it with guys...ever. I don't really get it, either.

I'll admit the rating thing bothers me. If most women were told what number they would rate, they would probably only think about what would have to be different to bump them up to a 10. I'm with you, FLN, I wouldn't want to be told where I rank on a number scale. :o

It seems a little objectifying to me. Guys, if you do rate a girl with a number, you probably don't want to mention it out loud in those terms.

Yeah I don't like to say my ratings very often.

Actually if you compaire my ratings with other guys many people would probably call me harsh!!!! (Which is a reason I stay away from it)

The reason I'm harsh is I start of with the presumption that there is no 10. There is no perfect woman, even in physical features. So no one ever gets a 10.

And then I go with the assumption that 5 is average.

So realistically I'm attracted to women that I would rate a 3!!!

man if this rating thing gets them riled up then they probably don't wanna know about the private list us single guys have going behind the scenes, where we ranked all of them ...

Dude don't give it away!!! They will all get jealous of maycontainnuts.

 

[CoachR64]

I never said I found all women equally attractive. Either I am attractive to them, or I aint. Either she's hawt, or she's not. And some women have different things about them that make them physically attractive.

Coach

 

[CoachR64]

And to clarify, if you gave me a group of attractive women, would I probably find one more attractive than the others? Sure, that would be a possibility. But that doesn't change the fact I find the others attractive. I don't need a numbering system to tell me if a girl is hot. Either she is, or she aint.

I mean, Jessica Biel is hotter than Jessica Simpson, but that doesn't mean I would kick Simpson out of bed for eating cookies and getting crumbs on the sheets.

Coach

 

[deliciousBass]

I have to say that ratings are highly subjective. But I use them anyway, normally only to describe how good looking a woman was in my eyes so that people get the idea. Like the girl I went on a date with a week ago, she was an 8 or 9. Saying she was good looking, or pretty, or beautiful just doesn't cut it

But yeah, I don't walk into a room and start rating women. I only mention ratings when talking about women in a story or something like that.

I don't care if people rate me. Everyone has different tastes. Some women may find me a 7 and some a 3.

I will say, who ever I end up with will be a 10 in my eyes