Quick Question for the Guys

[SelfProtect]

If you were interested in someone but knew you were going to be laid-off. Would you wait until you were in a secure job before persuing her? We're talking about a guy in his 40's not just stating out.

Just curious...

 

[the_man]

If you were interested in someone but knew you were going to be laid-off. Would you wait until you were in a secure job before persuing her? We're talking about a guy in his 40's not just stating out.

Just curious...

Depends on how quickly I want to move. If I want to marry her in 6 months, a job would probably be a smart idea. If not, then a job is not necessary to start pursuing her.

 

[Sketcher]

At that point a job would be more important than a relationship. Once that's secured, then I'd go for the relationship.

 

[Highland Watchman]

I'd probably say go for the job... if you can't even be sure of supporting your own expenses, how can you possibly move to support the expenses of someone else?

 

[Stanfi]

Job first no doubt. No chick wants an unemployed mooch.

 

[JeremiahJ]

If I'm getting laid off in my 40s, there's a good chance that it might happen down the road as well. If a girl would find me unattractive for that reason, then certainly she's not going to be happy if I get laid off later on. I never think that finances are a good reason to hold off pursuing someone. Relationships are infinitely more important than money. I'd definitely go for it, and see what proceeds. We could figure out the money stuff together as we go along.

 

[the_man]

Well, hopefully he is not living month to month. It's always good to have enough savings to last you six months (that's the general principle).

I don't see how looking for a job and starting a relationship are mutually exclusive...both can be done (at the same time no less).

 

[Jerub_Baal]

If you were interested in someone but knew you were going to be laid-off. Would you wait until you were in a secure job before persuing her? We're talking about a guy in his 40's not just stating out.

Just curious...

I would never assume that I will have another job any time soon after getting laid off. I got laid off, and got a cruddy job at a pizza place, and then I quit that. If it weren't for fast food joints, I would've still been out of a job since last September.

A person's first duty as a Christian is to secure oneself in the world, and then pursue others. If he can't provide for himself, he shouldn't add the extra burden of a girlfriend.

 

[SelfProtect]

Thanks for all the VERY differing responses. I am hoping he is holding off pursuing me until he has a job, because he is not really pursuing me. Its that or that he is not interested. I prefer to believe that he is holding off until he has a job.

 

[Spurling]

No, but I would wait before getting engaged. It'll be a couple of years before I'll be fit to pop the question to my girlfriend.

 

[Niels]

I'd wait until the job/financial situation straightened out. From my perspective, that's the responsible thing to do.

 

[JPPT1974]

I'd wait until the job/financial situation straightened out. From my perspective, that's the responsible thing to do.

Agree with you right there!

 

[HoosierCanuck]

As a female who fends for herself, here's my perspective: ...I would be devastated if I lost my job and would be doing everything in my power to make sure I didn't end up homeless or bankrupt. I live in a town where nearly every factory has closed in the last 5 years. Being laid off has to put a wealth of emotions in turmoil, especially if that job is all you know. I would definitely go for the job issue first. There are other things to consider...is this person divorced and have child support or alimony to worry about? There may be a lot more than being laid off on this person's mind.

 

[london boy]

It'd would be better to have the financial situation under control before it gets serious