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They responded by saying "Who are you to argue against the likes of Augustine, Acquinis?"

It sounds like you just got in the wrong RCIA class for you. I would encourage you to try again at a different parish with a different teacher. Maybe ask around and see if anyone can recommend an instructor willing and able to field those types of questions.

RCIA instructors are human just like anyone else. Each with their own limitations in both knowledge and how to deal with their own shortcomings. It sounds like a good answer would have been, "that's a good question. Let me think on it and I'll get back to you." Please don't fault all of Catholicism for the transgressions of one person.

Good luck!
 
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Right, that makes sense. I totally understand it, I do think that the most commonly and most misunderstood denomination of Christianity is the Catholic Church.


I do think that looking back on it, he was trying his best to his ability to explain a concept and did not explain it so well. It was more the reaction to my question that didn't sit right with me.


There was no attempt to answer my questions or anything further outside of RCIA class, the presentation of it was very much "this is what we believe and do, accept and do it or not." Like I said before, I think, it was probably more a combination of someone who shouldn't probably have been teaching an RCIA class and an authoritarian priest (he made a lot of comments that would probably be a red flags that he should remain a priest and not become a bishop).


Maybe this was just something else that was poorly explained to me as well. It was presented like Cannon Law and Catholic morality is just about following a rigid list of rules. For example, the Mass thing I talked about earlier or I remember having asking my roommate "Why do you have to have to give up meat on Fridays. What's so bad about choosing to give up bread or sweets or something else instead?" He just responded by saying you're welcome to give up what you want, but explained that meat is what Catholic Church and Cannon Law says to do. It seems to me that the point of fasting is not about what you give up, but why you give it up.
 
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Again, it's 'canon' as in a way to measure, and not 'cannon' as a thing that is used in war. Not to harp or anything, but one of my missions in life, and this one is just a VERY small mission, is to have it called 'canon law' or the 'canon of Scripture' and not 'cannon'. Total end of rant. By the way, lots of people do that, not just you. Lots of Catholics too, who should know better. OK. NOW end of rant. Was I ranting? Yup.

Catholic morality was often approached as a list of rules. Not by any means always, but often enough. People will ask what the absolute minimum they need to do to just barely get by. And so a bare minimum is established. You have to fast minimally on Fridays in Lent, and what fasting is has to be spelled out. But those are minimums for people who want to know the absolute bare bones minimum. It's not like that's supposed to be the norm. It's not like that is how we are supposed to approach it, and yet some do. The norm is to fast with some regularity, with some actual hunger, for a real purpose in conjunction with prayer. Jesus told us we would be fasting. It's normative for Christians, all Christians, or at least it should be. The Catholic Church lamely provides an absolute minimum requirement and that is interpreted as a rigid rule. For real fasting, look at some of the Orthodox in how they do it. That's rules.
 
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Hey bada!
First of all, I'm so very sorry you had a bad experience. The RCIA director should have seen that your questions were in earnest (that you weren't just trolling) and sent you to someone in the church who could have dealt with you one on one. It's true that RCIA isn't really a place for debate. But it's not like debate is a bad thing. It's how some of us (like me) learn.

I have never heard of anyone being "kicked out" of RCIA, although I know those who have left after a time, realizing that Catholicism wasn't for them.

I would say that your thinking and scrutiny is on a higher level than RCIA is meant to deal with (as mine was). My suggestion is that you read a LOT of books, and have conversations with more knowledgeable. Look for someone on this forum who seems especially knowledgeable, and PM them with your questions. You are welcome to question me. I'm a convert, who went through a time when I was actually pretty hostile to Catholic teachings, so I'll have a lot of patience.
 
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THIS is very true. Most RCIA instructors have never heard the word transcendental, much less know what it means, or can relate it to God.

@badatusernames FWIW, God is both transcendent AND personal. His imminence and his eminence are paradoxical truths.
 
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Sorry! I wasn't even aware that I was doing it.


So essentially, the meat thing, for example, is really more just showing as example as the bare minimum and not really supposed to be the norm? How did it get interpreted and kind of become the norm then?


I wasn't simply told to leave and never come back kicked out, but it was pretty much presented as a dichotomy of stop or leave. The reason I went in with already more than a basic knowledge was having a Catholic roommate who I discussed faith with a lot. It's not really like I had another option unless I wanted a drive I didn't have time for. The other parish in town, I've been told by my roommate and my former fellow parishioners, may or may not have been Sedevacantist.
 
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So essentially, the meat thing, for example, is really more just showing as example as the bare minimum and not really supposed to be the norm? How did it get interpreted and kind of become the norm then?
One can fast, for example, on Wednesdays AND Fridays through the year. This was apparently practiced in some places in the early Church. One can then fast even a bit more for Lent and for some other special reason. Fasting shouldn't be just a Fridays in Lent thing where they avoid meat for a few days. But the folks who want the absolute bare minimum, it's spelled out for them.

We used to have abstinence from meat on Fridays through the whole year. But it was seen as a rule thing (bad) by the Church, and they were trying to get us to see it as other than that. So they told us we didn't have to avoid meat on most Fridays but to figure out something else for fasting and abstinence. Most people heard something which was not said -- that there was no need for any fasting or abstinence except for Fridays in Lent. They went with the minimalist rule. The hope was that they would incorporate fasting and abstinence into their prayer life and run with it as a spiritual practice. It was a flop. Not because the Church wasn't trying, but because too many of us just want to do the absolute bare minimum. There is a movement unofficially underway to abstain from meat on all Fridays and to be deliberate about more fasting and abstaining through the year. And I hope it catches on, because prayer does work better with fasting.



The other parish in town, I've been told by my roommate and my former fellow parishioners, may or may not have been Sedevacantist.
If they are SSPX, the excommunications of that group have been lifted, so they are technically Catholic but may not have the approval of the bishop to minister in your area. If they are FSSP, a group that left the SSPX a few years ago to rejoin the Catholic Church, feel free to check them out. Both are very traditionalist, both are Catholic, but the FSSP will have the approval of the bishop if they are in your area. They will have a different liturgical emphasis that you may find appealing or not. If it's another 'Catholic' group than these two, keep them at arms length.
 
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Oh ok. I think I see what you're saying.



I am not sure what they are, just that most people did seem to keep them at an arms length.
 
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You never should have been referred to RCIA -- it is obvious that you needed personalized attention, or even if you were in RCIA, it needed to be supplemented with individualized attention. Someone really dropped the ball, and I'm so very, very sorry.
 
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RCIA is not specifically for a believing Protestant becoming Catholic, though that seems mostly to be what it is used for. It is designed to lead one up to baptism, then confirmation and full membership. A different model, the Inquiry Class model, if that is still used anywhere, would be better. That treats the new person as a believer just working through the last details before confirmation and full membership. My wife got neither, but went through individual meetings with a priest that lasted a few weeks. There are all sorts of people who enter and all sorts of levels of readiness. There is not a one size fits all answer to all of them even if that is how it is usually presented. RCIA can be very good at what it does, with the right leadership. It is a baptismal class for adults, and it properly lasts several months so as to get in the appropriate scrutinies and mystagogy. In this case I agree that something individualized and personal would have been much better. The ball was dropped. We are supposed to be better than that.
 
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It's very uncommon...I'm sorry you were treated that way-RCIA is for Inquiry. You're supposed to ask questions to overcome your doubts. I wonder, maybe, at the tone or something like that. Don't be detered by that, if you truly seek to be Catholic. Find another parish or environment where you can ask the questions you have and continue on your road.

To answer your first question, though-those of us here, Rhamiel, me, and a few others, simply trust the Church because we were once where you are-we questioned and were convinced. Maybe we had similar objections, but when it was explained in the right way, it made sense. We believe we are the Church founded by Christ, and that our faith comes directly from God's mouth.
 
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I have a friend who once (10 years ago) was told by a doctor that he needed surgery on his Achilles Tendon. My friend asked the doctor "have you done this before?" The doctor walked out of the room and never went back. I'm sure my friend asked him this question in a way which offended the doctor. Is it possible that something similar happened?
 
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Doesn't sound like an RCIA program I'd want to go to...sorry for that.
 
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I'd love to hear some more of your objections, if you care to talk.
 
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Regarding meat, that's more of a practice we can do as penance, not a demand. If you see it as a demand, understand why you're doing it. It's a sacrifice made for Christ in sorrow for his crucifixion. My problem is that we love seafood, so fasting from meat and eating fish is something we look forward to. So I try to find fish dishes we don't enjoy too much. like just baked fish instead of going for lobster.
 
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The APA decision was not based on objective science. The anus is an out hole, not an in hole. Use it wrongly and you'll end up incontinent.
 
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Yeah, actually almost all of our RCIA class were Protestant converts.

Doesn't sound like an RCIA program I'd want to go to...sorry for that.

Thank you!

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One look at natural law is enough to see that homosexuality is disordered. Anatomy as well as scripture is pretty clear that God created us man and women for a reason. God's nature has order and sodomy does not fall within that order.

You are entitled to your opinion of course, but don't close your mind to the honest consideration that you could be wrong. Homosexuality is one of those subjects that people are very passionate about and rightfully so. However, when examining it in the scope of God's law we have to remove that emotion and look to what the objective truth says about it.

I have gay friends, and we tend to avoid this subject. However, they understand my stance, but also understand that I am but a humble sinner myself and would never chastise or berate them.
 
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