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questioning my walk
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To Godsgurl:
Jesus said to take up your cross and follow Him. It's not easy. The cross is heavy, full of splinters, and you get TIRED. It's really bad when you are struggling with this cross, and you see your classmates laughing, having fun, telling jokes, and talking about cute guys. Then you turn around and go to church, and it seems like nobody there can even see you. And you hear people talking about this wonderful relationship they have with God, and how God has done so many things for them, and prayers have been answered, and you wonder just WHERE you fit in.
Sweetheart, you haven't lost God.
I think your biggest problem right now is that you have a terrible, terrible case of teen-years. NOTHING seems to fit. And you don't know for sure who you are, where you are going, or what you're going to do when you get there. It seems like everyone else has got their heads screwed on straight, and you're wondering why you are standing apart from the rest of the world, all alone.
Find somebody to talk to. If you don't feel like your parents understand, perhaps there's a favorite aunt, or your grandmother, or someone from church. You don't have to spill your guts right at the beginning, just build a relationship until you can easily discuss all the little things that seem so screwed up right now.
God isn't necessarily calling you to stand on street corners and be a witness to Christ right this very minute. He certainly knows about the tangled up thinking of a teenager, and He's willing to wait until you get through the rough spots, before He starts to show you His Life Plan for you.
That's probably one of the hardest things to do: to wait for God to show you what He has for you. It's kind of like that bumper sticker, "God, grant me patience, and give it to me RIGHT NOW!"
You aren't a bad Christian if you have questions, if you have doubts. And feeling lost and confused doesn't make you wrong, either.
Just take a couple of deep breaths, and relax. Your answers are there, and you WILL find them. I promise.
Peace be with you,
~VOW
Jesus said to take up your cross and follow Him. It's not easy. The cross is heavy, full of splinters, and you get TIRED. It's really bad when you are struggling with this cross, and you see your classmates laughing, having fun, telling jokes, and talking about cute guys. Then you turn around and go to church, and it seems like nobody there can even see you. And you hear people talking about this wonderful relationship they have with God, and how God has done so many things for them, and prayers have been answered, and you wonder just WHERE you fit in.
Sweetheart, you haven't lost God.
I think your biggest problem right now is that you have a terrible, terrible case of teen-years. NOTHING seems to fit. And you don't know for sure who you are, where you are going, or what you're going to do when you get there. It seems like everyone else has got their heads screwed on straight, and you're wondering why you are standing apart from the rest of the world, all alone.
Find somebody to talk to. If you don't feel like your parents understand, perhaps there's a favorite aunt, or your grandmother, or someone from church. You don't have to spill your guts right at the beginning, just build a relationship until you can easily discuss all the little things that seem so screwed up right now.
God isn't necessarily calling you to stand on street corners and be a witness to Christ right this very minute. He certainly knows about the tangled up thinking of a teenager, and He's willing to wait until you get through the rough spots, before He starts to show you His Life Plan for you.
That's probably one of the hardest things to do: to wait for God to show you what He has for you. It's kind of like that bumper sticker, "God, grant me patience, and give it to me RIGHT NOW!"
You aren't a bad Christian if you have questions, if you have doubts. And feeling lost and confused doesn't make you wrong, either.
Just take a couple of deep breaths, and relax. Your answers are there, and you WILL find them. I promise.
Peace be with you,
~VOW
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that is so true vow, it does seem like all my friends know exactly what they are doing and me being the newest to Christianity don't help alot, and it seems like i have been left in the dust because they all have friends they like better than me. I just aint sure what to do now because i don't want to go to hell, but i no longer desire to serve God either.
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Are your other friends Christians? If so, why would you need to feel inferior as compared to them just because you are a "babe" in Christ?
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Hi Godsgurl!!
What vow said was really good. It's sorta of what I was trying to tell you. Have you tried a different church? Remember, it worked very well for my daughter. Also, have you joined any clubs in school? If this is your first year at high school it will take awhile to fit in, and that's advice from my teens!!
QUOTE: Posted by Godsgurl: "and it seems like i have been left in the dust because they all have friends they like better than me."
Your are a great person! I don't think they like their other friends better than you it's just that they probably KNOW them better than you. Have they known them longer also? It seems to me that you are hurting because you are lonely.
QUOTE: Posted by Vow: "You aren't a bad Christian if you have questions, if you have doubts. And feeling lost and confused doesn't make you wrong, either."
Godsgurl, can you guess why I picked my name???
What vow said was really good. It's sorta of what I was trying to tell you. Have you tried a different church? Remember, it worked very well for my daughter. Also, have you joined any clubs in school? If this is your first year at high school it will take awhile to fit in, and that's advice from my teens!!
QUOTE: Posted by Godsgurl: "and it seems like i have been left in the dust because they all have friends they like better than me."
Your are a great person! I don't think they like their other friends better than you it's just that they probably KNOW them better than you. Have they known them longer also? It seems to me that you are hurting because you are lonely.
QUOTE: Posted by Vow: "You aren't a bad Christian if you have questions, if you have doubts. And feeling lost and confused doesn't make you wrong, either."
Godsgurl, can you guess why I picked my name???
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Godsgurl, absolutely every person starts out as a "babe in Christ." No one is born-again into maturity, everyone learns and struggles and hobbles into maturity.
Don't let anyone put you down because you are young. Instead, be an inspiration to them by the way you talk, act and love, and by your faith in God. I Timothy 4:12
Don't let anyone put you down because you are young. Instead, be an inspiration to them by the way you talk, act and love, and by your faith in God. I Timothy 4:12
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"Are your other friends Christians? If so, why would you need to feel inferior as compared to them just because you are a "babe" in Christ?"
Yes they are christians, they have been their whole life where I have been for only 5 years. Because they already know so much about what they are doing and half of them have been called to the ministry in some form.
"have you joined any clubs in school? "
I was in Soldiers for Jesus but today I offically left.
Yes they are christians, they have been their whole life where I have been for only 5 years. Because they already know so much about what they are doing and half of them have been called to the ministry in some form.
"have you joined any clubs in school? "
I was in Soldiers for Jesus but today I offically left.
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Stop comparing yourself to others. God doesn't, so what right do you have to compare yourself to others?
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I'm sorry to hear that you left that group. If you changed your mind, I'm sure that they would gladly welcome you back.
As lambslove said, you are comparing yourself to others. You know, no one is perfect. No one has everything. If you must compare yourself, instead of seeing what "they" have that you supposedly don't, look at what's in your life and in your relationship with God that "they" may not have. Even better, if you recognize that you are a child of God, does it matter whether you've been a Christian for 5 years or 50 years? I'm using present tense here (I think, or at least that's my aim
)If you're really curious, I suppose you could ask "them" what their spiritual life was like when they were a "5th year Christian."
How do you know that God WON'T call you for His ministry (if you mean to do it as a full-time occupation, if you could call it an occupation)? You're only 14. Give Him time.
To put another twist on things, did it occur to you that your apparent willingness/enthusiasm to "go out into all the world" may actually BE the call to minister itself? Do you get what I'm saying? Perhaps you just didn't recognize that you have been called by God.
If you don't feel how your friends do about ministering, please realize that not everyone is necessarily called to minister full-time. However, if you still want to serve Him in some way, you are perfectly capable of witnessing and telling people about Jesus in your everyday life. If you are eager to minister, wouldn't you call that a form of ministering?
God bless.
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Godsgurl, I'm twenty three and still don't know fully what God wants me to do in my life, Just take it day by day and let God lead you day by day. I've worked at my job now for two and a half years and I fully don't understand what I'm doing there ( I'm having issues with work right now). I sometimes see it as if I'm having troubles then I need to get away from my troubles (like I want to quit my job sometimes) but that is not what God wants me to do. I've got to face my problems head on, and as long as I've got God I can do anything. Remember God won't give us more than we can handle. I'm still having to remind myself of that. I guess what I'm trying to say is, everybody questions God once in a while and that's okay, I do it alot, I'm still learning. There's a story I once read, I won't be able to get all the words right but here goes......
There was once a man who said to God, this cross is too heavy to carry anymore. So God said, come here to this room, put your cross down, and you can pick any cross here that you want. So the man goes in and puts his cross down and starts looking for another cross that won't be so heavy to carry. He sees all sizes of crosses, little ones, medium ones, large ones, and extra large ones. Finally he spots one little tiny cross over in the corner, and rushes over to it and says Lord, "This is the cross I want." God, says, "okay, it's yours now, but just so you know that is the same cross you came in here with."
This story always reminds me that no matter what I'm going through at the moment, my problem to God is little, and there is nothing he can't do for me. And I have to remind myself that there are so many people out there that don't know the peace that God brings, that don't know the love that God has for us, and I tell myself I've got it pretty good. I pray this helps you out. I'll be praying for you
In Christ,
Anna
There was once a man who said to God, this cross is too heavy to carry anymore. So God said, come here to this room, put your cross down, and you can pick any cross here that you want. So the man goes in and puts his cross down and starts looking for another cross that won't be so heavy to carry. He sees all sizes of crosses, little ones, medium ones, large ones, and extra large ones. Finally he spots one little tiny cross over in the corner, and rushes over to it and says Lord, "This is the cross I want." God, says, "okay, it's yours now, but just so you know that is the same cross you came in here with."
This story always reminds me that no matter what I'm going through at the moment, my problem to God is little, and there is nothing he can't do for me. And I have to remind myself that there are so many people out there that don't know the peace that God brings, that don't know the love that God has for us, and I tell myself I've got it pretty good. I pray this helps you out. I'll be praying for you
In Christ,
Anna
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Hi, gg! 
Sometimes, I look around me and see non-Christians having an easy time of it and getting everything they want (sometimes everything I want as well
), while I struggle and fight my way through everything. It just doesn't seem fair! I'm learning, though, that God has a reason for allowing everything to happen to me. Keeping that in mind isn't always easy, but it helps me deal with everything.
Sometimes, I look around me and see non-Christians having an easy time of it and getting everything they want (sometimes everything I want as well
), while I struggle and fight my way through everything. It just doesn't seem fair! I'm learning, though, that God has a reason for allowing everything to happen to me. Keeping that in mind isn't always easy, but it helps me deal with everything.
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God's girl forever huh?
You are in a transitional period of your life. Just remember that the feelings you have will change. I remember my life made a lot more sense towards the end of high school. God showed me what he wanted with my life, he showed me how to use the gifts he have me, and she allowed me to serve. If you want to know what the christian life is like, go find someone to love like Christ would. This may not sound like the most spectacular advice, but go do it, and you will see. Allow God to use you and you will know that the christian life is worthwhile. In the mean time, just relax, God is faithful and he will take care of you.
You are in a transitional period of your life. Just remember that the feelings you have will change. I remember my life made a lot more sense towards the end of high school. God showed me what he wanted with my life, he showed me how to use the gifts he have me, and she allowed me to serve. If you want to know what the christian life is like, go find someone to love like Christ would. This may not sound like the most spectacular advice, but go do it, and you will see. Allow God to use you and you will know that the christian life is worthwhile. In the mean time, just relax, God is faithful and he will take care of you.
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Heh, You've been a Christian for 5 years, I've been it for one. We are all at seperate parts of our walk with God, but he's right there besides each and every one of us. Just keep on moving forward and you'll be blessed for it. Satan is lying to you, and if you've been a Christian this long, then you probably know it. Don't give up. Never give up. You were becoming a force for God and Satan was terrified of you. So he began to attack you in new ways. It happens to the best of us and we all stumble and fall. But it is those who rise above it that God will bless beyond all others. Start worshipping God again, start praying again, read your bible more, get plugged into a good church and get actively involved. I guarantee you things will begin to look up after awhile. Satan doesn't have enough power to attack you forever.
I would like to ask all who are viewing this thread to say a prayer for her. Rebuke Satan for the evil he's doing and ask God to pour his annointing all over her. To fill her from head to toe with His love so she see's once again that he is indeed the Truth, the way, and the light.
I would like to ask all who are viewing this thread to say a prayer for her. Rebuke Satan for the evil he's doing and ask God to pour his annointing all over her. To fill her from head to toe with His love so she see's once again that he is indeed the Truth, the way, and the light.
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sbbqb7n16
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Hey GG... when's the last time you prayed? Read your Bible? Sat down and listened for God? Why do you want to leave Him? He has given you everything you have, but your blindness in this one moment has caused you to lose faith in Him. Have you not thought that God is allowing you to feel this way for a reason? That He is making your faith stronger by testing to see if you have faith in your trials? God is there watching you, and if you continue to seek Him out, God will reward you for it. But as of right now, you keep letting the devil have his way. You keep moving away from God because you are uncertain instead of moving TOWARDS Him because you are uncertain. "let us not grow weary in doing good" PATIENCE! (My key word for like the last 5 months.. sorry for the enthusiasm don't mean to scare you) PATIENCE! God wants you to have patience! You need to just wait on the Lord so you can see where He's headed with it all. That's all...
Oh and if you want joy? THE best possible way to have joy is to worship God. Don't believe me? Try it for yourself... worshipping God with your heart, singing to Him and Him alone not worrying about who is beside you (or better if you are alone) always makes you feel better. Provided you truly mean it. But try it... you'll like it
Oh and if you want joy? THE best possible way to have joy is to worship God. Don't believe me? Try it for yourself... worshipping God with your heart, singing to Him and Him alone not worrying about who is beside you (or better if you are alone) always makes you feel better. Provided you truly mean it. But try it... you'll like it
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Hey,
Today a very wise person that used to be on this board told me something very wise.
"Remember this, the only reason you are even concerned is because you do love God.
When God sent the Jewish people into exile, a hell of sorts, and they decided to serve God
again, He accepted that. It is in your heart to serve him. That is why you even think about it.
Dont worry about it. Even if you go away for a small time, God knows we need to rest.
No matter what you do, if you are meant to serve Him, and we all are, you will in some
measure and some way."
Today a very wise person that used to be on this board told me something very wise.
"Remember this, the only reason you are even concerned is because you do love God.
When God sent the Jewish people into exile, a hell of sorts, and they decided to serve God
again, He accepted that. It is in your heart to serve him. That is why you even think about it.
Dont worry about it. Even if you go away for a small time, God knows we need to rest.
No matter what you do, if you are meant to serve Him, and we all are, you will in some
measure and some way."
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sbbqb7n16
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I'm sorry and I don't mean to make you mad but I kinda feel like you might take this the wrong way. If it does I'm sorry
It almost appears as though you are trying to rationalize yourself for leaving the faith to go do your own thing for a while. Honestly (and look hard within yourself) is that what you are doing?
Oh yeah P.S. Do you remember the Egypt story? Why did they get sent into Egypt? Was it because God wanted them to take a break? Or was it because they turned away from God?
It almost appears as though you are trying to rationalize yourself for leaving the faith to go do your own thing for a while. Honestly (and look hard within yourself) is that what you are doing?
Oh yeah P.S. Do you remember the Egypt story? Why did they get sent into Egypt? Was it because God wanted them to take a break? Or was it because they turned away from God?
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Don't worry about hurting my feelings.
I don't think i am doing that. If i am it is unknowingly.
I don't think i am doing that. If i am it is unknowingly.
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