Question...

[Anhelyna]

Not everyone is Catholic - or even religious Azure - I think that a crucifix is only appropriate if you know them really really well

 

[Cosmic Charlie]

A bottle of your best Champagne ?

Ok, that was a joke.

Look maybe it's the Midwestern American/bartender in me but seriously: let it alone.

Take her to dinner for "just because" if you want to and let them think what they want about why but beyond that, I wouldn't mark it.

It's personal and it's her achievement not yours. And some people achieve this one mercy sake's minute at a time. So maybe it's best to just let her work it out.

Unless they want throw a party and a present is, like, expected.

In which case I don't get it.

It's an open secret on this board that I'm medically dependent bi-polar kind of person. If someone gave me a present for being stable for some amount of time I'd genuinely be offended. Even my wife and best friend don't mention it often and never really did beyond "how long has it been ?" questions once in a while.

 

[Meowzltov]

A good friend of mine who happens to be aged in her early 20s will be celebrating her 3rd year in sobriety next week. I want to buy her something to mark her achievement but am at a loss as to know what to get.

I have a budget of around €/$50/£35.

Any suggestions would be most welcome...

Get her a really nice three year AA medalion. If you really want to go to town, get some balloons and flowers too. Here is an example:

I don't know what her AA group is like, but at my NA meeting, we have a birthday cake for folks like this (and then they share). Family members and friends often come and bring their presents. You might ask her if she wants you to come when she takes her chip.

 

[Michie]

I imagine Silvio knows his friend and has a relationship where whatever Is done in honor of the achievement is understood as support. I imagine it depends in the individual. My mother in law is dependent on a lot of meds for her bi-polar disorder. I know, I handle her meds and medical business. Would I do it for her? No. Because to her this has been a way of life for years. She isn't a drinker. Her parents were drinkers as they were self medicating. It is a genetic thing. So while she is dependent on meds to make her funtional she does not try to self medicate. Those that do self medicate often appreciate the love and support. Shades of gray and all that. It just depends on the individual. I assume Silvio knows what he is doing by showing his love and support to her.

A bottle of your best Champagne ?

Ok, that was a joke.

Look maybe it's the Midwestern American/bartender in me but seriously: let it alone.

Take her to dinner for "just because" if you want to and let them think what they want about why but beyond that, I wouldn't mark it.

It's personal and it's her achievement not yours. And some people achieve this one mercy sake's minute at a time. So maybe it's best to just let her work it out.

Unless they want throw a party and a present is, like, expected.

In which case I don't get it.

It's an open secret on this board that I'm medically dependent bi-polar kind of person. If someone gave me a present for being stable for some amount of time I'd genuinely be offended. Even my wife and best friend don't mention it often and never really did beyond "how long has it been ?" questions once in a while.

 

[Meowzltov]

My mother in law is dependent on a lot of meds for her bi-polar disorder.

Sure, like a diabetic is dependent on insulin. I'm glad your mom in law is taking her meds.

 

[Michie]

Exactly. I make sure she does right along with her other meds. That is my support. But it is different with different people. I trust Silvio's good intentions and I'm sure his friend will as well.

Sure, like a diabetic is dependent on insulin. I'm glad your mom in law is taking her meds.

 

[S.ilvio]

In the end I bought her a Jewellery voucher so she can go in and buy herself a bracelet charm of her choice..

 

[Michie]

In the end I bought her a Jewellery voucher so she can go in and buy herself a bracelet charm of her choice..

I think that is a wonderful idea!

 

[Cosmic Charlie]

I imagine Silvio knows his friend and has a relationship where whatever Is done in honor of the achievement is understood as support. I imagine it depends in the individual. My mother in law is dependent on a lot of meds for her bi-polar disorder. I know, I handle her meds and medical business. Would I do it for her? No. Because to her this has been a way of life for years. She isn't a drinker. Her parents were drinkers as they were self medicating. It is a genetic thing. So while she is dependent on meds to make her funtional she does not try to self medicate. Those that do self medicate often appreciate the love and support. Shades of gray and all that. It just depends on the individual. I assume Silvio knows what he is doing by showing his love and support to her.

You're right of course.

Maybe it's the difference between Mid-western Swedish/German stoicism and Irish elan

(Sil lives in Ireland, right ? I need a scorecard to keep track of this stuff)

 

[Michie]

As far as I know he does!

You're right of course.

Maybe it's the difference between Mid-western Swedish/German stoicism and Irish elan

(Sil lives in Ireland, right ? I need a scorecard to keep track of this stuff)

 

[Meowzltov]

In the end I bought her a Jewellery voucher so she can go in and buy herself a bracelet charm of her choice..

Nice.

 

[eastcoast_bsc]

In the end I bought her a Jewellery voucher so she can go in and buy herself a bracelet charm of her choice..

Coward! Lol. Just kidding. Job well done.