Question

[Princess Leia]

Ok, so this is the situation... one of my best friends is gay. I've known that for awhile now, and I'm kind of getting used to the idea I guess. But in talking with him last night, I am just getting more and more confused as to how I should treat him. I mean, he is one of my best friends and like a brother to me, he has been there for me through a lot of stuff and I don't want to lose that friendship with him. But at the same time, as a Christian, I totally disagree with him living a homosexual lifestyle. But, I can't judge him for it. That's not my job. A very wise person once told me that "judgment is God's job, and ours is to love and forgive." Does that apply to all types of people?

Any thoughts/advice/comments are greatly appreciated!

Thanks

Princesss Leia

 

[berachah]

The opposite of judgment is intercession. I think intercession will open up many opportunities to minister something of value into your friend's life.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

It took a lesbian to show me what it means to really love one another.

 

[Cristiano]

Ok, so this is the situation... one of my best friends is gay. I've known that for awhile now, and I'm kind of getting used to the idea I guess. But in talking with him last night, I am just getting more and more confused as to how I should treat him. I mean, he is one of my best friends and like a brother to me, he has been there for me through a lot of stuff and I don't want to lose that friendship with him. But at the same time, as a Christian, I totally disagree with him living a homosexual lifestyle. But, I can't judge him for it. That's not my job. A very wise person once told me that "judgment is God's job, and ours is to love and forgive." Does that apply to all types of people?

Any thoughts/advice/comments are greatly appreciated!

Thanks

Princesss Leia

I say as long as your friend knows where you stand, that should be it. Be friends and don't judge. I see it like this: One of my best friends is not a Christian. He gets drunk, has premarital sex, and says some pretty nasty things sometimes, not to mention like most guys he's a horndog. But I still love him with all my heart. That is the essence of God's love for us, loving us despite all our faults--dying for all our iniquities. If we are to live like Christ lives, then we are called to love people like he loved people. That doesn't mean we lay our convictions aside. My best friend knows I do not agree with premarital sex nor do I agree with drunkeness, but he knows that we are best friends regardless. I can only lead by example. Our actions can speak volumes. So, as long as your friend understands that your Christian walk views it as a sin, but that it doesn't affect your love for him in any way, you are good to go. I will say that I lost a "friend" (now I know he really wanted more...) years ago when I talked to him about God after he confessed he was gay to me when we were having a spiritual conversation. Our friendship ended when he found out that I considered it a sin. So be prepared... But be honest. You can't be ashamed of the Gospel.