Hey all, some of you were very helpful in a post I made back in December about a guy at my church http://www.christianforums.com/t1161391-is-he-interested-or-just-being-nice.html. Anyway, as mentioned in one of my follow-up posts, after thinking that he might like me, I got a completely different signal, and feel as if I have done something wrong that has ruined any chance of friendship that we could have had.
Until tonight, it had been four weeks since we even saw each other, so on my way out from church when I saw him, I walked over to say "hi" and see how his holidays were, and I got the impression that he may not have been entirely "happy" about talking with me and that he was a bit distant.
When I first started going to the group, it was him that was coming up to me and saying "hi" (well I would be sitting next to some of his friends and he'd come up to the group and say "hi" and then look over my way, and say "hi" specifically to me), and now, ever since the concert it has been me that has gone up to him and as mentioned before, after I do, I get the feeling I need to go away.
Before the concert, I did have a "crush" on him, in the sense that I would think about him fairly often, and "dream" about dating. Now, I do still like him, but I think it's more "healthy" now, as in I actually don't think about him when he's not around. Over the holidays, I can't think of any specific time that he was on my mind anymore than any of my other friends would have been. That being said, I do still feel as if God is leading me to him.
After my chance to talk with him, I was walking out to my car and thought "well guess there really is nothing there", but right after that thought came a vision of him and I standing in church, worshipping together and just having a great time. I have a sense of happiness in regard to him and I, when before when I was thinking about him all the time, it felt more like a dream, than anything real (if that makes sense).
I just had a great night at church, praying with some people about other stuff happening in my life, and a load has totally been lifted! I have also had a great time of late meeting new people both in school and in church, and feel as if a boyfriend could be in the near future for me. I do think that perhaps it could be his guy, though I think there is something that needs to be done/happen first. I dont know, I guess it's like when you're trying really hard to remember something, than someone /something comes along and with just one word/action/whatever sparks your memory. Or if you're doing a magic trick, and you need the audience to yell "Abbra-Ca-Dabra" before you can pull if off. Does that make sense?
So, once again, I am interested in our opinion(s) on the situation, and what, besides prayer, should be my next action? Should I stop going up to him and just wait and see if he eventually starts saying "hi" to me again?
I know this post has been centered more toward a dating relationship, but I also know that the vision could very well have been about just a friendship, which I would still love. I just feel like he is meant to be in my life, whether it is dating, or a friendship that extends outside of church or will only ever be about church (my vision was, after all, with us in church and not at a movie, coffee shop etc). I just dont want him feeling uncomfortable or like he has to distance himself from me (if that is how hes actually feeling, I could just be imagining things
). I just want things back to the first few weeks, when he'd come up to me and say "hi" with a smile 
