Thank you. This has been more helpful, I think, along with my own studies. Yes, she feels threatened, and yes, he's a "believer" using the word to beat her over the head and keep her there. He claims to have been saved more than ten years ago, but still, she comes over with bruises and soreness, and used to claim, of course, that it was household accidents.
He calls himself a prophet, though I've seen no evidence of such. She married him because he seemed to be a great man of the father, and she wanted to be a part of that. Now, she just wants out, but he keeps bringing up, again and again, these scriptures against divorce (I'm sure you all know them.)
My viewpoint is this: the marriage is a covenant, and this covenant was sworn under false pretenses. The promises he made (love, honor, provide for, and protect) have become null and void because, although she is honoring her end of the bargain (love, honor, obey) he is in clear violation of the covenant. He never intended, imho, to honor his end of the contract to begin with. I've spent a lot of time studying covenant in scripture, and this is where I'm at.
Of course, I also see that if one's life is in danger, one is justified in saving it. He nearly took her out with the door of their truck last week. Very ugly. I won't go into details, but it seems to me that self-defense is covered under the Torah.
If I'm wrong in any of this, somebody stop me, please. I would hate to lead this woman to sin, but I don't know where else to turn. I also was once in an abusive marriage, and I left for self-preservation, but that was when I was not in messiah, and I have received forgiveness for that sin. I trust and respect the opinions of you folks on this board, and any help and wisdom will be taken into consideration.
Blessings to you all in Yeshua Messiah of Nazereth.