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DaveKerwin

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I persued her until she agreed to date me. During that time I was myself and she got to know me on a different level, then she finally agreed to a date (after turning me down nearly a year before). I was not creepy about it, I just knew what I wanted, and I played low key for a while when needed. It became quite obvious after a few months that we were diggin on each other. So I asked her on a date again, that time she agreed. We hung out more after that, and dated exclusively a month later.

The point being: If I did not persue her, some other guy would have, and I would have missed the woman of my dreams. It seems to me like you are wondering what you should do. I suggest just being who you are, and see who is smart enough to persue you.
 
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well I did my best to just let mine happen. I was a junior in college, she was a freshman. she joined the Catholic Student Group I was involved with. She had a boyfriend who had already been at the school for 2 years. I knew she was off limits. But I had so much fun with her and she was really a great person that pretty much had most if not all the qualities of what I look for in a girl. I just used my charm. Her boyfriend was not a practicing Catholic, so he kind of thought she was crazy for getting involved with the group. So that began creating some tension. He was just not interested in the new friends she was making. She came to me with some of the problems, and I really just tried to listen but not tell her she should dump the guy. I guess I just felt confident that the breakup was inevitable. Eventually it happened, and she suspected I had feelings, so one night she just began asking me how I felt about her and all that. I was kind of nervous getting involved when she had just broken up...but we worked through some problems and after 3 1/2 years we are now engaged. So in my opinion...sometimes you can just let things happen, and everything will fall into place...but it's different for everyone.

-Matt
 
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