Maggie893
It is what it is.
Acceptance said:But what if no one really knows you're living together? If you each own your own houses, have all your mail go to your own address, keep you own phone number, don't tell people you're living together for the sole purpose of trying not to represent "another lapsed Catholic"? Is it still considered Scandelous if you don't announce it? Consider that you never have to lie about it because no one ever asks.
This is certainly not an official commentary, I just want to put this out for you to think about. This lifestyle you are in seems to have a deceptive root in order to not look bad to others. It also seems to have an isolationist result. You can't be spending much time with friends or family because the truth would eventually come out. Also a relationship which is not open and honest with others in our lives must lead to some fear and guilt. I would just hate to see you start a marriage holding onto this kind of stuff. Ideally you each would be a full part of each others whole lives with family, friends, work, etc. Well this you probably know. I hope you don't feel that I'm judging you, I'm not. I've actually been in your shoes. The hiding it from everyone just took it's toll eventually. I will pray for your situation and I definitely concur with Carrye to talk with the priest, a far better counselor than me.
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