Question for the guys

[JesusSaved]

I've always wanted to ask this question. So, what do you look for in a girl? Apperance/personality/ect?
Also, I have a habit of blushing pretty strong when a guy first approaches me or asks me out. (Sometimes when I run into him somewhere unexpextedly) It tends to fade after a few minutes, but it is so embarassing ar my age and I just wondered if it was a turn off to guys. Be honest!

 

[mahlalie]

Appearance is a weird thing in that I know pretty when I see it. I don't necessarily prefer brunettes over blondes, tall over short or anything like that. You want someone who takes care of herself, but she doesn't have to be prettied up all the time.

Blushing, to be honest, I don't notice those kinds of things. It's kinda weird when a girl's obviously super awkward, though. I mean, you wanna be able to carry on a conversation with her.

On a general level, I'm looking for a pretty girl who loves God and loves people. I'm picky about certain things like being careful about what movies I watch and to what music I listen and it'd be nice if she were as well, but those three things are the main ones.

I'm not sure exactly what you were wanting, but I hope that helps somewhat.

Edit: She also has to agree with me politically, more or less. I would go freakin crazy with a girl who didn't.

 

[Paulie079]

Yeah, I'm similar to mahlalie in that there's not specific physical traits that I really look for. A girl with any type of hair and eye color can be attractive to me. Whether she's taller than average or shorter than average (to an extent ), it doesn't really matter to me.
Personality-wise, I really look for a woman that has a heart for the Lord and heart for ministry. I think I would connect with her and click with her best if she had a good sense of humor too.

 

[cloudstrife007]

I don't want her just to love God, but I want her to love God above everything else. This will be shown by the way she acts around and speaks to people. Kind, patient, considerate, willing to listen, self sacrificing, how she takes care of herself, how she spends her time.


Guys/Girls: End of the day, I think we should care more about how God wants to see us, than how the opposite sex sees us.

 

[ponderingnwandering]

To answer your other question JesusSaved........some guys like it when girls get embarrassed, some find it annoying.

My opinion, if he's asking you out don't sweat it. He probably thinks you're cute when you do that, at least i would.

 

[JesusSaved]

Thanks guys, this info helps. I'm pretty good with guys, and I don't act nervous and can carry on a conversation easily. I just for some reason tend to blush and look like Clifford the Big Red Dog for 5 minutes, then it stops. But I never had the guts to ask a guy I knew what he looked for in a girl, so I figured this would be the best way to find out.

 

[BigB]

Just be yourself, be honest and don't lie.

Obviously everybody is attracted to looks, but beyond that it's completely being yourself. The right person will come along who will accept you for who you are.

 

[WiredSpirit]

Appearance is a factor in who I'm attracted to but they don't have to be a supermodel. I can handle a little extra weight but what I can't handle is when a girl stops taking care of herself, and I'm talking in the way of basic personal care and hygiene. I like a girl to be a little earthy. I'm a little shy myself. My first and only serious relationship happened when the girl came on strong to me so there was no question. I have a hard time talking to girls until I've had a few drinks. She doesn't have to be political but it would help because I volunteer a lot of my time working for campaigns and such and it would be nice to have something to do together, but she obviously couldn't be totally opposed to what I am doing.

 

[Sketcher]

I look for everything. She's got to look attractive, she's got to be someone I can laugh and have fun with, but most importantly, she's got to have integrity. If she's not someone I can rightly trust, then I'm not going to bother with her. It's not enough to go to church and say the right things. She has to really have integrity.

 

[E.C.]

She needs to have a good soul. Christian is a plus, but not always since I dated a few that needed a lot of help in that area.

Basic hygiene definitely since an ex of mine had horrid hygiene.



More than anything a girl who is secure with herself; flaws and imperfections included. One of the many reasons why I love my girlfriend is because she's not insecure with her flaws.

 

[SwissMiss]

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Guys/Girls: End of the day, I think we should care more about how God wants to see us, than how the opposite sex sees us.

...I'm not a guy, so I can't answer any questions, but I CAN say...WELL PUT, cloudstrife007!

 

[lordjesussaves]

A beautiful heart!

 

[explodingboy]

Bi-polar or Depressed, possibly psychotic, anything sort of Damsel in Distress otherwise, and either highly manipulative or just flat out hates me.

Looks.. can't say I've ever noticed any traits that draw my attention.

 

[Vico]

All young women are pretty much attrative, so its character that in the end matter. A women that fears the Lord.

 

[HeavyMetalDude]

All I want is a woman that communicates well, is loyal, fun to be around and has a level head. Funny how that is so simple yet so hard to find.

 

[ponderingnwandering]

The same could be said of all men
(props to you if you get the reference......and yes that was shameless XD )

You're right though, it's very hard to find someone just down to earth......and available. The smart guys find all those girls

 

[JesusSaved]

It's like being on Noah's Ark. Everyone is in pairs. Where is mine???

ponderingwandering, I've read your post like 3 times to try to "get it" and I still don't. Oh well, maybe I'm still tired.

 

[HeavyMetalDude]

It's like being on Noah's Ark. Everyone is in pairs. Where is mine???

ponderingwandering, I've read your post like 3 times to try to "get it" and I still don't. Oh well, maybe I'm still tired.

I think at this age (assuimg you are college age) since we don't have our lives straightened out its a lot harder to find a stable relationship. I can't build my life around someone elses and I am not going to make someone build hers around mine. Thats my guess.

Its a guy thing, dun worry about it.

 

[JesusSaved]

agreed

 

[Joshua Howard]

There isn't anything more attractive than someone who tries their best to face their hardest challenges with a genuine smile. Anyway, true and almost perpetual happiness and friendliness is the key to me liking someone. It is hard not to totally enjoy being in the presence of someone who is constantly happy and uncritical.