Question for the guys...

[Windmill]

Yes but then he went on to say his friend had already proposed, and clearly he barely loved this girl, if as he said later, he let is slide because shes "gorgeous". This isn't just something you let "slide". If you truly love someone, them stubbornly saying "I don't care about this even though its a huge pain for you" would already have been very hurtful by that time. If he was in it for her bod, then of course you'd have let it slide

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Nope. You're right, he clearly didn't love her.

It would be a hard to find scenario where a guy would fall in-love with that type of behavior though.

That's what the rest of us were saying.

 

[deliciousBass]

I think the OP said the person in question was unwilling to try though.

Yep, her mom did everything for her (and still does according to my friend) so that she could concentrate on her modeling (which kinda went to the wayside after she got pregnant )

 

[ernest_theweedwhackerguy]

Would you date/marry a girl who couldn't cook, clean, or do anything "domestic" around the house and refuses to learn? (You would have to do all the cooking/cleaning or hire a maid.)

The reason I ask is because one of my best friends broke up with his fiance a while back because she didn't even know how to turn on a stove and never cleaned anything around the house (her mom did it all for her when she lived at home).

Nooo. Why should I have to work all day to bring home money, and then have to clean and cook more on top of that, just because she wants to sit on her bum and spend my money?

Sounds like a parasite to me.

 

[deliciousBass]

Nooo. Why should I have to work all day to bring home money, and then have to clean and cook more on top of that, just because she wants to sit on her bum and spend my money?

Sounds like a parasite to me.

lol, i didn't think of it that way... a parasite. ouch. hahaha.

some interesting responses here. Some guys don't care because they are used to doing it all anyway, and some are utterly turned off by it.

you know, it's actually kind of sad in a way if someone is unwilling to help... I think it could be *cough* somewhat romantic if you're making a joint effort to clean up your house or cook a meal together and you would miss out on that if one of you does everything. I suppose that's part of why men who do more chores get lucky more often.

 

[BarelyBreathing]

Yep, her mom did everything for her (and still does according to my friend) so that she could concentrate on her modeling (which kinda went to the wayside after she got pregnant )

Should I ask? Is it your friend's baby?

 

[deliciousBass]

Should I ask? Is it your friend's baby?

LOL, what do you think this is, Maury?

Yes, it's his baby. She's almost 2 now.

 

[canehdianhotstuff]

Yes, I'll marry her, she'll learn.

 

[deliciousBass]

Yes, I'll marry her, she'll learn.

She's unwilling to learn.

 

[BarelyBreathing]

LOL, what do you think this is, Maury?

Yes, it's his baby. She's almost 2 now.

Then perhaps he should be thinking of his baby and not not of himself.

 

[deliciousBass]

Then perhaps he should be thinking of his baby and not not of himself.

Hmm... care to elaborate?

 

[Windmill]

As long as he's paying child support, he really should break up with her. Being born into a loveless marriage would suck.

 

[Glowworm]

Nooo. Why should I have to work all day to bring home money, and then have to clean and cook more on top of that, just because she wants to sit on her bum and spend my money?

Sounds like a parasite to me.

Well, maybe she will also be working outside the home.

I think it is great when both partners share the domestic responsibilities. I know married couples, where both spouses clean and take turns cooking according to their schedule.

 

[deliciousBass]

As long as he's paying child support, he really should break up with her. Being born into a loveless marriage would suck.

So if he's not paying child support, he shouldn't break up with her? lol

Yeah he pays child support.

 

[BarelyBreathing]

Hmm... care to elaborate?

Well.... he split because she is domestically-challenged and has no desire to learn. But what about his child? I would think for the child it would be better for him to stay and to try and work through the problems with the mother. Be it through counseling or otherwise. I would think that it would be better for the child to have one parent in their life who is stable, works, takes care of the home, even takes care of the child, than to have that parent walk out and leave the child with a mother who, it sounds like, does very little. Has he thought about at least gaining custody of the child, if the mother is as she sounds? It just seems that he may be the better parent for the child, but walking out of the relationship does not benefit the child. I am probably not explaining this well..........

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Well.... he split because she is domestically-challenged and has no desire to learn. But what about his child? I would think for the child it would be better for him to stay and to try and work through the problems with the mother. Be it through counseling or otherwise. I would think that it would be better for the child to have one parent in their life who is stable, works, takes care of the home, even takes care of the child, than to have that parent walk out and leave the child with a mother who, it sounds like, does very little. Has he thought about at least gaining custody of the child, if the mother is as she sounds? It just seems that he may be the better parent for the child, but walking out of the relationship does not benefit the child. I am probably not explaining this well..........

+1

 

[Windmill]

So if he's not paying child support, he shouldn't break up with her? lol

Yeah he pays child support.

Opps

 

[Windmill]

Well.... he split because she is domestically-challenged and has no desire to learn. But what about his child? I would think for the child it would be better for him to stay and to try and work through the problems with the mother. Be it through counseling or otherwise. I would think that it would be better for the child to have one parent in their life who is stable, works, takes care of the home, even takes care of the child, than to have that parent walk out and leave the child with a mother who, it sounds like, does very little. Has he thought about at least gaining custody of the child, if the mother is as she sounds? It just seems that he may be the better parent for the child, but walking out of the relationship does not benefit the child. I am probably not explaining this well..........

Thats a good point. If she is as selfish as she sounds...