Question About Seventh Day Adventist

[LoveandPeace25]

Hello all!

I am new to the forum.

I just started dating a SDA a little over a month ago. I really like him and things are begining to get pretty serious. I am not SDA but I am Christian. He is somewhat lax in regards to following SDA regulations. However, he does go to church every Saturday, does not eat beef or selfish, does not drink or party and comes from a family that is pretty traditional. His father is a vegan and his mother only eats fish, not self fish.

Well anyway, I was wondering if anyone knows how SDAs treat non SDAs as far as their children, siblings, relatives and friends dating outside of the denomination? I have done a lot of research on the the denomination's beleifs and traditions. they are not that much different for how I currently conduct myself. I am interested in maybe attending church with him and seeing if I like it. I would not be completely opposed to possibly converting.

Btw, I am 27 and he is 30. We both deeply want to start a family and get married in the near future.

Thanks for your input!

 

[OntheDL]

Hello all!

I am new to the forum.

I just started dating a SDA a little over a month ago. I really like him and things are begining to get pretty serious. I am not SDA but I am Christian. He is somewhat lax in regards to following SDA regulations. However, he does go to church every Saturday, does not eat beef or selfish, does not drink or party and comes from a family that is pretty traditional. His father is a vegan and his mother only eats fish, not self fish.

Well anyway, I was wondering if anyone knows how SDAs treat non SDAs as far as their children, siblings, relatives and friends dating outside of the denomination? I have done a lot of research on the the denomination's beleifs and traditions. they are not that much different for how I currently conduct myself. I am interested in maybe attending church with him and seeing if I like it. I would not be completely opposed to possibly converting.

Btw, I am 27 and he is 30. We both deeply want to start a family and get married in the near future.

Thanks for your input!

Hi, welcome to the Adventist forum.

You can look up the SDA fundamental beliefs in the sticky area above to get some more ideas about our beliefs. ^^^

How an Adventist would treat his family and children would depend on how convict he is and where he is in his walk with Christ. You would think we should all treat others follow Christ's example.

Speaking of the future possibilities, most Adventist churches and pastors will not marry an Adventist with someone outside the faith.

The normal practice is that you will go through a series of study on the fundamental beliefs and if you choose to join the church, the pastor will then marry you two with the church's blessing.

 

[BobRyan]

You should get to know your boyfriend's family first. Ask them about their church. Ask them what they like best about it and share your own faith in the soon return of Christ and the value you see in the Word of God.

That goes a long way toward finding out where they stand in their heart-of-hearts!!

The "problem" that they are likely to think of but not mention up front is the concern about children and if parents are split on which day to go to church or what church group to join - sometimes the kids can be caught in the middle.

You owe it to yourself and to your future plans, to get some of that worked out now rather than waiting until after marriage to "find out" if Adventist ideas on life-style and doctrine bother you or not.

As with all denominations you can find all kinds of Adventists from conservative to liberal, from serous to "just coasting" or even "just drifting away".

One thing I have seen more times than I care to remember is an Adventist young man "leaving, just drifting away" slowly but surely - who meets a non-SDA Christian lady that takes a look at the SDA teachings (on the 2nd coming and the work Christ is doing in the Sanctuary as our High Priest etc --) and that lady then decides to become a serious Seventh-day Adventist christian. Then to her great surprise - her new husband just stays right on his same old course "drifting away" from the church. Eventually they have children and the mother and chilren attend church but the husband does not. Etc etc.

So another thing to work out before getting married. See if he is willing to step up to the plate with you as you walk with Christ and follow His leading. Even if that walk means taking another hard look at his own church and being serious about what he finds there.

in Christ,

Bob

 

[OldStudent]

SDAs can be a wonderful lot. Some us are golden. Others can be very disappointing. If you look at the people of Christ's day and what He had to put up with you can find it here. Do your homework. When you find a consistant, observant Adventist you will have a jewel. That can be said for other Christian "brands" as well.

We do discourage interfaith marriages because the contrast in worldview all too often creates tensions that could have been avoided.

Please forgive me for my grandfatherly perspecive. Having a current, active committment with Jesus will put you in the right place for a good spouse.