Question About Newborns & Visitors

[llghoney]

We actually plan on telling everyone after the baby is born (not when I go into labor) as my parents live about 7 hrs away so that way we will have some time maybe at least in the hosptial by ourselves. My mom will come afterwards to help out some & the in-laws that is another story.

But yeah I would say you have every right to say who is around & when.

 

[Jilly123]

What a great question.

I think it depends on who it is. My mom stayed for a week and it was great because she did all the housework and helped with the baby when I was tired. Ladies from our bible study group took turns dropping off dinner each night. They were very sensitive and literally only stayed a few minutes to drop off the food and take a quick look at the baby. I didn't mind that, but there were some other friends of mine that stayed for ages and it just frustrated me so much. It felt a bit like a train station for a few days. I just wanted them to leave.

One friend in particular is also quite pushy and likes to share her opinions. When it's your first baby it's not a good idea to be around people like that the first few days. She came on the third day with her 3 kids in tow and stayed for about 4 hours. Every time I would pick up DD or wind her etc. she would tell me what I was doing wrong. I know she was trying to be helpful, but really, that's the last thing you need to hear when you are a new mother and trying to find your feet. When she left I just burst into tears. She made me feel like I was a useless mother. So my advice is if you know that woman is like this, then tell her when it suits you for her to come. If she gets offended it's her problem, you have to do what's best for you.