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My cousin, whom I love dearly, has been dating this guy for about three years. They both live in a town about 30 miles away from me so I never met him before last weekend. My cousin, whom I took to church with me for the first time back in 1999, and who - that very night, gave her life to the Lord, is a devout christian, and she's been telling me about her boyfriend for about a year now.
It seemed to me like they had a great christian relationship: she called him a real family man who is very respectful to his parents; plus they don't mess around, absolutely no sex or sexual acts - they said they were waiting for their wedding night. He already asked her to get married next year.
Anyway, last weekend I invited them both to church with me because I wanted to meet the guy that was making my cousin so very happy. Well, he seemed really great. Nice, cute, funny guy. But I noticed he also seemed really bored through our entire service (and we had a great service that night...really), so I asked him once church was done if he enjoyed it, or if it maybe was a bit too lively for him.
Do you know what he said? He said that "he was bored because it was just another one of those preacher guys saying the same thing over and over again". He said that he knows church is really important to my cousin, but that it's just not his thing, and that he's still not sure how he feels about the bible.
I asked my cousin what this was all about; why would she date a non-believer. And she said that he was a good kind family man, and the only "problem" was that he wasn't saved yet. And then she said that if God didn't want her to date him that He would have sent her a replacement years ago....and apparently she hasn't met one other guy who is interested in her so she sees that as a sign.
Okay friends....am I being unrealistic? We're both in our late 30's so I understand that she may be hearing her clock ticking or whatever, but shouldn't I try and talk some sense into her? Or should I just be happy that she's happy?
It seemed to me like they had a great christian relationship: she called him a real family man who is very respectful to his parents; plus they don't mess around, absolutely no sex or sexual acts - they said they were waiting for their wedding night. He already asked her to get married next year.
Anyway, last weekend I invited them both to church with me because I wanted to meet the guy that was making my cousin so very happy. Well, he seemed really great. Nice, cute, funny guy. But I noticed he also seemed really bored through our entire service (and we had a great service that night...really), so I asked him once church was done if he enjoyed it, or if it maybe was a bit too lively for him.
Do you know what he said? He said that "he was bored because it was just another one of those preacher guys saying the same thing over and over again". He said that he knows church is really important to my cousin, but that it's just not his thing, and that he's still not sure how he feels about the bible.
I asked my cousin what this was all about; why would she date a non-believer. And she said that he was a good kind family man, and the only "problem" was that he wasn't saved yet. And then she said that if God didn't want her to date him that He would have sent her a replacement years ago....and apparently she hasn't met one other guy who is interested in her so she sees that as a sign.
Okay friends....am I being unrealistic? We're both in our late 30's so I understand that she may be hearing her clock ticking or whatever, but shouldn't I try and talk some sense into her? Or should I just be happy that she's happy?