Question about anger

[rynuku]

what do you guys do to vent when you get angry?

it used to seem really easy...once i built up enough...id go to a party...get drunk, cuss some people out...degrade or pick fights with other people...and feel better...but i quit doing that stuff

i started going to church again a few months ago...i definitely believe in God...all was great for the first couple months...if anything bothered me i just kind of ignored it because i figured "im not supposed to get mad" well now stuff has been happening more and more and i can't just throw it behind me like i was when i first started going to church again...i dont want to resort to my old way of venting...

i dont really have any christian friends...the few friends that i have aren't loyal and really insist on drinking/sex/cussing/fighting/etc for fun...so i don't really have anyone i can "talk to"

ive tried praying but i dont think its helping...maybe i dont have enough faith

SOOO...im just wondering what you guys do when you get mad...i really need some help before i explode

 

[Rhododendron]

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[Keefu]

Sup Rynuku!

Remember to never vent this anger on another person. Keep this in check, it could lead to even worse situations.

Two helpful tips from a physical viewpoint, maybe join a gym? Work out, punch the punching bag, get it out of your system.

Also, if you've got a console (PS3, PS2 etc) get yourself a good fighting video game. Streetfighter 4 is coming out soon, the original was always a good venting outlet for frustration.

God bless dude.

 

[MysticAngel]

Keefu gave some good suggestions, which are good for relieving anger. You can also try listening to music, praying to God, writing down your thoughts in a journal. If there is a special place you like to visit that gives you a peace of mind, you can go there. Good for you for avoiding "friends" like that because they will just keep pulling you down.

 

[willard3]

If I'm mad at stupid stuff like a video game or something, I'll hit the side of my chair, which is sturdy and padded so it's basically non-damaging.

If I'm mad at something relatively serious, like my frustration at my lack of dates and my lack of guts or major annoyances about religion or my job, I might silently fume for a while and then go straight to tears for a bit, after which I recover for about 5 minutes or so. The collapse to tears usually comes more quickly if I'm talking to someone about it at the time.

 

[O_Sky20]

Getting angry is understandable, but like many said it is how you control your anger that counts. When I was younger I would get mad a lot and start punching walls, slamming doors, saying stuff I didn't mean, etc. Now when I get mad I just calm myself down and say "Why so serious?" because most of the time my anger is just me overreacting.

I'd recommend looking at these verses which talks about anger, and how we should always follow Scripture (in general):
James 1:19-27

 

[Alizera]

I usually stew in my own anger and don't really lash out. I do need a cool off period where I don't talk to people so I won't say something hateful. Exercising for me really helps so you can work out all the anger building up. Also, I have a journal I write in to just vent everything angry and that's the most helpful thing at all.

Maybe you should look into angry management classes. I've heard they really help people. Is there any ways that you can find other friends, maybe from church, that actually are more positive to be around. That might help you, too.

Good luck.

 

[rynuku]

thanks for the replies guys...

someone told me to read james again so its funny that you quoted it

i basically live in the gym for those of you that recommended it...im going to school to be a personal trainer so i workout at school and on my own lol but i definitely like the punching bag idea

i think next time i get mad im going to use a couple of your ideas...drive out by the water...listen to some music...and just think and write down my thoughts

already sounds peaceful =) good ideas

Why so serious HAHA

again...THANK YOU for the help...its nice having people respond

 

[washerdryercombo]

My pastor mentioned before that he tried to do the same thing when he got saved. He felt that he was called to be a pastor when he was in church one time and stopped going to bars, fighting, cussing, and everything else all at the same time and then tried to act like everything was ok when problems came up. Telling yourself it's ok just because you're a Christian will only get you so far before reality sets in and you realize you still have the same problems you had before. The difference in being a Christian is how you choose to deal with the problem when it occurs. It won't just work, you have to make it work.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I practice with weapons, but I do that even when I'm not mad. I probably can't help you because I don't get angry often. But some good ideas were expressed. Perhaps even try meditation.

 

[Shabby]

Keefu's gym suggestion is exactly what I do with my anger. I seem to get angry much easier if I haven't worked out physically that day.

 

[rynuku]

ya im trying to get my life right...stopped all that stuff...plus im trying to get in better shape so i gave up certain foods even tho i love em lol...i work out ALL the time so im worn out alot.....really fast pace class im in for personal training, we cram info then have test every 2 weeks...and then also trying to act like stuff doesnt bother me...you probably see how i could get frustrated hehe...but today and yesterday were better...God mustve noticed i was gunna crack =)...but next time i know what ill do...good to have a plan!

thanks again guys

 

[washerdryercombo]

I wouldn't have thought to go to the gym to relieve stress. But running for an hour works just as well for me. Ohio winters make it hard sometimes though.

 

[Isambard]

Mellow out with a big bag of chips and some cartoons.

 

[ernest_theweedwhackerguy]

what do you guys do to vent when you get angry?

it used to seem really easy...once i built up enough...id go to a party...get drunk, cuss some people out...degrade or pick fights with other people...and feel better...but i quit doing that stuff

i started going to church again a few months ago...i definitely believe in God...all was great for the first couple months...if anything bothered me i just kind of ignored it because i figured "im not supposed to get mad" well now stuff has been happening more and more and i can't just throw it behind me like i was when i first started going to church again...i dont want to resort to my old way of venting...

i dont really have any christian friends...the few friends that i have aren't loyal and really insist on drinking/sex/cussing/fighting/etc for fun...so i don't really have anyone i can "talk to"

ive tried praying but i dont think its helping...maybe i dont have enough faith

SOOO...im just wondering what you guys do when you get mad...i really need some help before i explode

Well, I have anger problems. Surprise.
I picked up martial arts 7 years ago.
It's pounded discipline and respect into me, and honestly, nothing bothers me now.
I can just brush it off my shoulder, and turn the other cheek without the slightest feeling.
You just have to remember, people don't know you.
And nobody is in the right place to judge. That's Gods' job.

Find something you love doing, or something that clears your mind, and start doing it as a hobby.
If it is a hobby, do it more often.

Mellow out with a big bag of chips and some cartoons.

And end up looking like this:

 

[rynuku]

AHHHH i dont want to be that guy!

 

[Benjibum]

haha going to church makes me angry... Some old dude telling me how to be happy? and then denouncing the things that REALLY make me happy? I just wanna go awol with his big holy stick thing...

 

[E.C.]

I vent to people. If its Tuesday night and I'm ticked off about something, I usually ask the manager we have that night, whom I get along with, "hey, can I vent for a few minutes?"

I usually take that energy that I get from anger and use it on something else. When I was a busser at a restaurant, it got me to work faster. Since I'm a cook now, it gets me to move a little faster (yet concentration is still required).


Above all things, prayer is best.

 

[Benjibum]

^^ I've always found it hard to pray when my blood is pumping and i feel like punching everyone i see...

I just play something really heavy and fast on guitar or listen to slayer... They make me happy =]