quarantine

[mama2one]

husband went out of town to an inside gathering of people who live in several different states
some of them don't wear masks & are unvaccinated

I asked him to quarantine when he gets back


am I going overboard to make him spend hundreds of dollars at a hotel?

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

am I going overboard to make him spend hundreds of dollars at a hotel?

Yes.

 

[PloverWing]

It's quite reasonable to ask him to be tested for COVID.

As a less expensive option, is there a place in your house where he could isolate -- a spare room, or the basement, something like that?

 

[mama2one]

As a less expensive option, is there a place in your house where he could isolate -- a spare room, or the basement?

no

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

how does one quarantine in a house when they get up for work @ 4:30 in morn, use the bathroom, kitchen, and go in and out of same door as other family members?

if in basement still have to go through kitchen & up to second floor to shower

tests are not accurate
he's not going to miss his dad's "celebration of life"
so it seems hotel is best option

It seems you already have your mind made up. You don't need our permission or approval.

 

[mama2one]

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[mama2one]

just realized that I'm not going overboard

hundreds of hotel dollars is better than thousands hospital bills should he get sick & pass to us

 

[PloverWing]

Note that a hotel also carries some risk. There are hotel staff in the building, and other guests, and they will be at risk if he leaves his room during his stay.

It sounds like you and he have been having an ongoing argument about this, and you'll have to settle it yourselves; I don't want to step into it.

But if he does stay in the house during the next couple of weeks, you could take the same kinds of precautions that we're all taking at work, when we don't know who might be an asymptomatic carrier. Wear masks at all times indoors. Keep some windows open, even if it's chilly. Wipe down frequently-touched surfaces, like doorknobs and faucet handles. After 10 days or so, if no one in the family has tested positive, you can relax the precautions. I assume you're all vaccinated already; if not, get vaccinated ASAP.

We should all have a plan like this in our heads in case someone in our family gets COVID. Until this epidemic is over, it remains a possibility, even for those of us who are vaccinated.

 

[mama2one]

It sounds like you and he have been having an ongoing argument about this, and you'll have to settle it yourselves; I don't want to step into it.

why do you think it's an argument?

he booked a hotel when I asked him to quarantine

he's still out of town
he emailed some pics & people weren't wearing masks

 

[mama2one]

me thinks he's enjoying quarantine

when we did Facetime last night, he was watching cable tv which we don't have & eating snacks, lol

 

[mama2one]

like quarantine, also
easy cooking for just teen & me

husband & I facetime each night
-smiling at each other
feels like I have a boyfriend, lol

 

[durangodawood]

Knowing someone currently dying from covid has caused me to step back and reassess a bit.

After reassessing, I'm pretty much where I was before: letting the statistics lead my risk analysis.

So for me an initial quarantine and rapid test seems reasonable.