Hello fellow Christians!!
Just wondering if anyone has any advice on putting God FIRST in a courtship???
Thanks!
Just wondering if anyone has any advice on putting God FIRST in a courtship???
Thanks!
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Putting God first in a courtship!
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Like, putting God first in our lives is so important, and it's also so important to put him first in our courtships. Does anyone have any advice on how to keep God first in a courtship? Just like we are to put God first in our lives.
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NiobiumTragedy
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I'm still puzzled about the question. Why would you do things different in life just because of dating someone?
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Hmmm, your question makes perfect sense to me. 
I think constantly asking the question is a huge start. If you continually ask yourself how you can follow/obey/glorify God in the various aspects of your courtship, you'll be headed in the right direction.
One example - the scriptures are full of admonitions regarding how we should treat fellow believers. If you apply those to your significant other...
I think constantly asking the question is a huge start. If you continually ask yourself how you can follow/obey/glorify God in the various aspects of your courtship, you'll be headed in the right direction.
One example - the scriptures are full of admonitions regarding how we should treat fellow believers. If you apply those to your significant other...
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Hmmm, your question makes perfect sense to me.
I think constantly asking the question is a huge start. If you continually ask yourself how you can follow/obey/glorify God in the various aspects of your courtship, you'll be headed in the right direction.
One example - the scriptures are full of admonitions regarding how we should treat fellow believers. If you apply those to your significant other...
Thats good advice.
I would especially recommend 1 Cor 13 which is the love chapter. If you read it and meditate on it, it shows you what true, mature love is. Although the chapter is not specifically for Romantic love, it is for all love. However it applies to Romantic love just as much as it applies to Agape.
I would also try to make time to pray together and if you live close together maybe do bible study together.
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I want to say you are getting good advice here, go with it and good luck to you and your very good godly
friend, right ? I always like to add i'm praying for you.
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Be cautious of praying together...
I am not saying it is a bad thing... it is not a good idea right off the bat or even until you guys get engaged...
praying together is deep. It is talking to the Almighty master of the universe. It is our life line, our hope. Christ tore the veil so we could enter into the kingdom with out fear and stand before him with confidence, that being said... there is something deeply intimate about prayer. It expresses a love for our master that no words can express. WHEN you pray with a potential mate it is deep and intimate, more so then even sex. It is binding and it pants a seed of love that is powerful, sometimes too powerful.
Sometimes we pray with each other as brothers and sisters in Christ and we forget just what it is we are doing. when you pray you are expressing an intimate part of your heart to your creator, usually this part of your heart is hidden so far deep with in your soul only God knows where it is. To bring some one else into that aspect of your heart, is deeply intimate.
I do not think it i is a bad thing. I think prayer is the only thing that can keep two selfish sinners on track, but it is powerful, more powerful then the attraction of man and woman, more powerful then the scent of a woman, more powerful then the strength of a man.
I would be warry of praying with your boyfriend or what ever it is you have(because i am sure more then OP will be reading this) until you two are in a place where you can move forward and put out a deep commitment with each other, even moving to engagment.
I think the best thing you can do My sister to keep God in the center is to relize what you are...
Your a woman. You were created with an aspect that we as men do not have, Beauty. Men were made to love women. Men were made to like the "gifts' that a woman can present to a man. Understand that men are built visuialy. Any hint or flash of sexuality and it "pre-heats our ovens" faster then you can say "opps". Remember you are the thing that gets our hearts beating fast and the aiblity to speak slips right out of our brains...
I remember the second date I had with my girlfriend, she wore a gorgous red sweater that did her gifts justice... It took a second for my brain to reboot and remember that she was at the door.
Remember in how you dress, what it is exactly you do to us men. Remember that you are jsut as responsible for what we think aobut your body, as we are responible for thinking about your body. What you choose to reveal and you choose to cover up is what causes us to sin. You need to be conscious of what is shown and what isn't, because it might lead your brother in christ whom you are dating to sin, and the bible says that while those who act in sin are guilty, those who cause it or approve of it, are just as guilty.
You dont want men to lust after you, dont dress lustfully. you want a man to talk to you and engage you in a real date dont wear things that distract us. To behonest most men on dates dont really know what your saying because of what is distracting our eyes below yoru neck. It is the truth, so watch what you wear.
It will help you to keep God in the center, because you know you are not leading your brothers in christ to sin. While they are responsible for their own actions, so are you...
lastly the best way I know to keep God center, is not pray for my girlfriend. I mean i pray for her when she asks and all that. but my concern is not her when i pray about our relationship. I pray that I am ready for her. I pray that my heart and my soul and strength is ready for her heart, soul, and beauty. I pray that I am capable in leading her and presenting her as a spotless garment to my master. I pray that treat he with fairness and not harshness. I lastly pray that can truly love her the way that Christ loves the church.
So if i was a woman, I pray for what my role in a relationship was... I am not a woman so I don't know the exact details of that. There are some as they are the opposite of what our role is, but the best role i know that a woman has in a relationship, is to drive us men, To holiness. So i would pray that, if i was a woman, could drive my man to holiness.
Be cautious of praying together...
I am not saying it is a bad thing... it is not a good idea right off the bat or even until you guys get engaged...
praying together is deep. It is talking to the Almighty master of the universe. It is our life line, our hope. Christ tore the veil so we could enter into the kingdom with out fear and stand before him with confidence, that being said... there is something deeply intimate about prayer. It expresses a love for our master that no words can express. WHEN you pray with a potential mate it is deep and intimate, more so then even sex. It is binding and it pants a seed of love that is powerful, sometimes too powerful.
Sometimes we pray with each other as brothers and sisters in Christ and we forget just what it is we are doing. when you pray you are expressing an intimate part of your heart to your creator, usually this part of your heart is hidden so far deep with in your soul only God knows where it is. To bring some one else into that aspect of your heart, is deeply intimate.
I do not think it i is a bad thing. I think prayer is the only thing that can keep two selfish sinners on track, but it is powerful, more powerful then the attraction of man and woman, more powerful then the scent of a woman, more powerful then the strength of a man.
I would be warry of praying with your boyfriend or what ever it is you have(because i am sure more then OP will be reading this) until you two are in a place where you can move forward and put out a deep commitment with each other, even moving to engagment.
I think the best thing you can do My sister to keep God in the center is to relize what you are...
Your a woman. You were created with an aspect that we as men do not have, Beauty. Men were made to love women. Men were made to like the "gifts' that a woman can present to a man. Understand that men are built visuialy. Any hint or flash of sexuality and it "pre-heats our ovens" faster then you can say "opps". Remember you are the thing that gets our hearts beating fast and the aiblity to speak slips right out of our brains...
I remember the second date I had with my girlfriend, she wore a gorgous red sweater that did her gifts justice... It took a second for my brain to reboot and remember that she was at the door.
Remember in how you dress, what it is exactly you do to us men. Remember that you are jsut as responsible for what we think aobut your body, as we are responible for thinking about your body. What you choose to reveal and you choose to cover up is what causes us to sin. You need to be conscious of what is shown and what isn't, because it might lead your brother in christ whom you are dating to sin, and the bible says that while those who act in sin are guilty, those who cause it or approve of it, are just as guilty.
You dont want men to lust after you, dont dress lustfully. you want a man to talk to you and engage you in a real date dont wear things that distract us. To behonest most men on dates dont really know what your saying because of what is distracting our eyes below yoru neck. It is the truth, so watch what you wear.
It will help you to keep God in the center, because you know you are not leading your brothers in christ to sin. While they are responsible for their own actions, so are you...
lastly the best way I know to keep God center, is not pray for my girlfriend. I mean i pray for her when she asks and all that. but my concern is not her when i pray about our relationship. I pray that I am ready for her. I pray that my heart and my soul and strength is ready for her heart, soul, and beauty. I pray that I am capable in leading her and presenting her as a spotless garment to my master. I pray that treat he with fairness and not harshness. I lastly pray that can truly love her the way that Christ loves the church.
So if i was a woman, I pray for what my role in a relationship was... I am not a woman so I don't know the exact details of that. There are some as they are the opposite of what our role is, but the best role i know that a woman has in a relationship, is to drive us men, To holiness. So i would pray that, if i was a woman, could drive my man to holiness.
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Agree with what has been said.
In courtship and in any situation, always treat members of the opposite sex as brothers or sisters in Christ. Praying, reading the word together is helpful but it needs to serve a purpsoe of building each other up towards Christ, not just doing it for the sake of making things seem 'holy/pure/Christianly'. Pray also for the right things. You're trying to find out more about each other, and hopefully from the beginning you'd already have worked out whether he is a man of God. But don't turn the other person into THE ONE but always seek guidance from God in regards to the relationship.
Also seek accountability with Christians you can trust whether it be parents, pastor, etc. Set out boundaries so that you guys don't cross the line or even go near it. It keeps your courtship real because geniune relationships aren't just between 2 ppl (that'll just be a bit selfish), but will involve ppl around them also.
Also understand that courtship is to see whether God has arranged for you two to be together. If it doesn't work out, don't think it 'failed' because courtship has still served its purpose.
Note that I haven't been in courtship as a Christian before, so everything I've said is what I've learned from sermons, books and the bible. A good read is Boy Meets Girl and I Kissed Dating Goodbye (both written by the same person, but I forgot the authors name)
In courtship and in any situation, always treat members of the opposite sex as brothers or sisters in Christ. Praying, reading the word together is helpful but it needs to serve a purpsoe of building each other up towards Christ, not just doing it for the sake of making things seem 'holy/pure/Christianly'. Pray also for the right things. You're trying to find out more about each other, and hopefully from the beginning you'd already have worked out whether he is a man of God. But don't turn the other person into THE ONE but always seek guidance from God in regards to the relationship.
Also seek accountability with Christians you can trust whether it be parents, pastor, etc. Set out boundaries so that you guys don't cross the line or even go near it. It keeps your courtship real because geniune relationships aren't just between 2 ppl (that'll just be a bit selfish), but will involve ppl around them also.
Also understand that courtship is to see whether God has arranged for you two to be together. If it doesn't work out, don't think it 'failed' because courtship has still served its purpose.
Note that I haven't been in courtship as a Christian before, so everything I've said is what I've learned from sermons, books and the bible. A good read is Boy Meets Girl and I Kissed Dating Goodbye (both written by the same person, but I forgot the authors name)
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