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Do you have purity problems such as lusting, sexual desires, and so on..
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Yes, I am a red-blooded American male, therefore I have lust issues that I must struggle against.... I mean since you made the qualifications so far reaching..... and lust is sexual desire..... but desiring and giving in to desire are to different things.......
so I am a virgin but I have fallen into lusting before, and even desired things, and have looked at things I know I shouldn't have.....
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godismyabba
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God created us as sexual beings. How is having sexual desires wrong?
depends.. Jesus said if you even think about another person aside from your spouse, that is adultery. Does the same not hold true for a single person, that if you think it -- you have done it? I struggle, but with prayer and all glory and praise to God, I am overcoming it. Sexual desire for your spouse, however... have at it and have fun!!
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It's close to impossible not to, I mean the media are bombarding us from every corner with overly-explicit material. But you have to fight it.
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How is sexual desire in itself wrong? You don't necessarily have to be desiring a particular person.
I mean, if it were wrong to have a sex drive before marriage, then in the ideal world no one would have any sexual desire as a single person, and then (let's be honest, here) almost no one would get married, and the human population would dwindle to almost zero. Which is not the ideal world that seems to be presented in the Bible.
I mean, if it were wrong to have a sex drive before marriage, then in the ideal world no one would have any sexual desire as a single person, and then (let's be honest, here) almost no one would get married, and the human population would dwindle to almost zero. Which is not the ideal world that seems to be presented in the Bible.
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I think that if by young adulthood, you have zero sexual desires...you may want to get checked out.
Sexual desire is one thing that everyone has and is not a purity issue. It becomes a purity issue when you dwell on those thoughts (lust), act on those thoughts, or seek to pursue those thoughts.
Sexual desire is one thing that everyone has and is not a purity issue. It becomes a purity issue when you dwell on those thoughts (lust), act on those thoughts, or seek to pursue those thoughts.
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TheBeautifulFoxChild
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Nope. No purity issues. My drinking water is fine, just taste a bit metallic. Must be the irony.
Last time I checked, I haven't raped; murdered; stolen; attacked someone; been particularly insolent or kicked any puppies, so I'd say my purity is just about safe. No little whiskery six-legged things for me.
Last time I checked, I haven't raped; murdered; stolen; attacked someone; been particularly insolent or kicked any puppies, so I'd say my purity is just about safe. No little whiskery six-legged things for me.
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If you've lived your entire life and never desired to have sex, at ALL ... well ... you're either saintly or you should see a doctor.
That being said, it is not ok to lust (have sexual thoughts) about anyone besides your spouse. That means, if you are single, it's not ok (and the whole "well, it's human nature, everyone does it, can't help it, yadda yadda" excuse doesn't cut it) to have sexual thoughts about ANYONE, including your b/f or g/f or that hot hottie who just walked by. Seem unfair? Sure it does. But if you're honest with yourself, and you have any amount of maturity, you can see why it's best to control yourself and your thoughts until you're safely within the bonds of marriage, and you can go to [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth]' town.
Is it a sin to think to yourself "I'd like to have sex someday with my spouse" or "I wonder what it's like to have sex"? No. It's NOT a sin to think about sex in a general, impersonal way, or to desire it. We were created with genitals for a reason, folks. Sex feels good because God wanted it to feel good. It's when you DWELL on that thought, get yourself all worked up, or start focusing on a particular person that it becomes sinful.
That being said, it is not ok to lust (have sexual thoughts) about anyone besides your spouse. That means, if you are single, it's not ok (and the whole "well, it's human nature, everyone does it, can't help it, yadda yadda" excuse doesn't cut it) to have sexual thoughts about ANYONE, including your b/f or g/f or that hot hottie who just walked by. Seem unfair? Sure it does. But if you're honest with yourself, and you have any amount of maturity, you can see why it's best to control yourself and your thoughts until you're safely within the bonds of marriage, and you can go to [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth]' town.
Is it a sin to think to yourself "I'd like to have sex someday with my spouse" or "I wonder what it's like to have sex"? No. It's NOT a sin to think about sex in a general, impersonal way, or to desire it. We were created with genitals for a reason, folks. Sex feels good because God wanted it to feel good. It's when you DWELL on that thought, get yourself all worked up, or start focusing on a particular person that it becomes sinful.
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It's not the sexual desires that is the problem. It's the fact that I keep giving in to them that is tripping me up.
(I'm such a dirty sinner)
(I'm such a dirty sinner)
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I'm not having any issues ... i am perfectly happy with any choices I've made and have no regrets, despite what other people may think of my decisions and choices, especially Christians, since they are the ones that have voiced the most dis-approval
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I have no regrets with the decisions that I've made despite what other Christians would think of them....
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I think most people get married for more than just sex.
So I wouldn't worry about the human population zipping out regardless of humanity's sex drive level. We'd probably have less out-of-wedlock pregnancies and less adultery, though, so I guess the population would fall, but certainly not to zero. In answer to the poll, yes, I do have purity struggles. Not so much with my past (I have come to terms with that). Mostly with thoughts. Sometimes lusting, though I have improved in that area. I think my biggest struggle is porn. Although I haven't actually looked at porn in about 3 months, praise God, I still struggle with thinking about it, replaying the images in my mind. But I'm getting better.
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Unless you are talking about the difference between God and man, I don't think in terms of 'purity' or 'impurity'. As creatures who are already impure by default (original sin), there is simply a right way and a wrong way to do things.
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