Thanks for all the comments. I think, having chosen Methodism as my way to celebrate Christianity, and having deliberately chosen a Methodist congregation, I must apply Wesley's maxim
however painful that may be. Though I fear for the UMC leaders, I think it best for me to continue to work from within the church, rather than to flee it. Our congretation is on the conservative-yet-progressive side (we have a divorced pastor and a few homosexual members) and we stick pretty much to the Book of Discipline, so this deviation is hard.
Maybe the Episcopals and Methodists will both split, and rejoin as two different denominations??? Naw...