Problems with sex with husband

[candyandcake]

I just got married 4 years ago and now I have no no no sexual desire at all havent for at least 3 years. I have been on antidepressants but I just feel like I hate my husband sooo bad that I could never get close to him. It was easy before I was married and I enjoyed sex and wanted it now I could go forever. I just dont know how to be sexual.

 

[mathias1979]

I don't know that I can say much to help your situation...but have you tried any kind of counseling? Those feelings for your husband couldn't have just come from thin air...although I'm not sure how much of it could be a result of depression/medication. I would recommend talking to your parish priest. Some sort of marriage retreat may be helpful to help you open up to your husband.

-Matt

 

[Johnnz]

Have you checked with your doctor re your antidepressants?

John
NZ

 

[Sam Gamgee]

Is the medication that you are taking for your depression inhibiting your sex drive?

 

[Anti Existance]

Well you have to love your husband and you have to be a bit playfull, you are under soooo much stress ,that you could never build up any desire because you are constantly occupied with your body with something else. You are too tensed, and taking anti-depressants which alter the delicate balance in your brain , only deminish any desire you ever had.

I think there is more to it, why do you hate your husband so much?

 

[Alive again]

Hey, it's me again. Boy I can relate to even the few details you have given. I have dealt with depression for years which can lead to ahedonia ( alck of feelings of pleasure including sex and sexual desires). then most antidepressants also lead to decreased sexual desire. Then all the built up feelings towards your hubby as well. You've gotten some good advice so far-counseling-start with for you and then see if your husband will join you when you and your counselor are ready. Really look for a counselor with training and faith! That can be a challenge, and it has to be someone you can relate to and work with as well. also talk to your doc and see if a different med might still be effective for you with less of a sexual downer side effect. Eventually the right med will help your depression and thus return feelings of pleasure to your life. Don't give up. It's worth it to keep trying. Your concern is common among those of us with depression and/or on antidepressants. (Soem antidepressants are market for other reasons) Hope this helps. Blessings!