problems...lonliness...

[bigjuice_7]

I have like 2 friends, and want more friends and to be happy and social but it seems so hard and im consumed by fear when i try to start a conversation and express myself and what do i talk about?. My girlfriend just broke up with me a month ago and i miss her alot, i cant stop thinking about her. i deal with lonliness everyday, i feel like the outsider and i hate it. How do i pray for gods help and any advice for any of my problems? prayers would b helpful.
Thank You.

 

[FineLinen25]

I pray for you dear friend. God knows every desire of our heart. He gives us those, but only by HIS will, so if it is HIS will, those things will come. Jesus is our best friend andsoooo much more. You know how He LOVES YOU, that is the type of people you need tbe looking for in your life. Find those with a strong faith in CHRIST. This will always give to you the most wnderful connection to have with someone friend or girlfriend. My best fried and I met at church, I really think GOD knew we would make sch good friends.
Fear is awful,I do understand, I suffered from panic disorder and sometimes, it still hits. BUT, GOD heals and eases all fears we have. Don't be worried about what you will say, just do it without debating it within yourself. Find your confidence and go with it.

 

[PolarBear3]

I have problems with loneliness and wanting more friends too. Since I'm still working on this, I obviously don't have all the answers, but one thing I try to do when I'm feeling lonely is to do something nice for someone else. It can be something simple like giving a compliment or bringing food to a neighbor or co-workers. Or I try to find things to be involved with at church or in my community - activities that expose me to other people. I don't always make friends by doing these things, but I feel better about myself and my life when I'm doing them.

I hope that helps.

 

[Chococat]

I know the feeling. I have some friends but they always seem too busy to have much time for me and it really gets me down sometimes. IMO business is the curse of the 21st century. People are too wrapped up in their own little world to have much time for other people.

 

[Criada]

A lot of us have problems with making friends.. it can be very intimidating.
Have you thought of doing some voluntary work? It is a way of getting to know people whilst doing some good, and it gives you a focus outside yourself, which can help when it comes to making conversation

Praying for you.

 

[navymansk2]

I have like 2 friends, and want more friends and to be happy and social but it seems so hard and im consumed by fear when i try to start a conversation and express myself and what do i talk about?. My girlfriend just broke up with me a month ago and i miss her alot, i cant stop thinking about her. i deal with lonliness everyday, i feel like the outsider and i hate it. How do i pray for gods help and any advice for any of my problems? prayers would b helpful.
Thank You.

Sorry to hear about your brake with your girlfriend. Its hard when you love someone and something like this happens.

However, beating yourself up doesn't help your self esteem. God, doesn't make junk. He always has promised us when a door closes, another door opens. Better things are in your future. Put your trust in him.

We can only live for today, hope for the best and live the best we can each day we have. Forget about the past, what happend in the past is done, no one can change that. Christ tells us not to live in the past.

As you grow older you'll find that friends come and go. This is all part of life. This will happen all through your life. Its part of life. We loose friends, family, through many circumstances that we can't control.

Don't beat yourself up. Be positive, get out and do something. Go for a walk, a run, to a good funny movie. or a drive to a wonderful place where you can relax.

Pray, ask for God's guildance. He won't let you down. He is there even when you think he isn't.

Peace!

Don

 

[ElianaHeneni]

Me too. I have a hard time making friends mostly cuz I feel different and don't think or talk about the same things others do.

Have you ever taken the Myers Brigg Personality Test? When I took it, I discovered that I have a rare personality (INFJ) that represents 1% of the population. It helped me understand why I feel like an outsider, but it also helped me see the strengths of this rare personality and learn to value myself because of it. You can google MBTI if you want to take the test.

 

[myanchor]

Yep, folks that are introverted, ie, who recharge by being by themselves, and have a problem with putting themselves forward have a harder time making friends. NF's the intuitive feelers can get overwhelmed with others feelings. NT's, the intuitive thinkers, aka Rationals sometimes completely miss the non-verbal part of the conversation. But please understand me II has some welcome information as to your strengths, your abilities and how to interact with other temperament types.

It's not bad to have just a few very close friends, but you should always look out for more. Listening has been key for me. Really listening to understand, and not for subject you can riff on with the other person, though that is fun to do too.

 

[SMacGregor]

Loneliness is a subject which in some ways is also linked to friendship (or lack of friends), possibly lack of self esteem, and depression.

Pursue your interests and hobbies and join a social club or sports group, or other interest group such as bush-walking, bush-care, music, art, theatre, scrabble, Bridge. Take up walking and offer a smile to others along the way – if you’re feeling lonely yourself it will make you feel better and more connected and it also just may help somebody else.

Regards,
Sandy MacGregor

 

[letsbefriends]

loneliness can find us every now and then. i hope that you make friends though. I haven't had a single trustworthy friend in my life. Well I have but they don't seem to be available on the weekends to hang out with. I try to be understanding but coming from a prior history with no friends, i felt like this was bad.

Trust me, you'll find friends. Most of the time, you need to take the initiative. I used to be shy too, but now I'm more talkative than ever. Practice, my friend, makes better. Keep talking and you will find yourself getting more comfortable OVER TIME.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hi,

I had many broken relationships before God actually bought me along my wife. I got so bad that I actually thought about suicide. But in the end God actually came to me and spoke to me and told me some one who would marry me, I ended up marrying the person who he told me about, and our marriage has been great. At this time I am sure you feel abandoned but be rest assured with God on your side good things are ahead for you.