The Drake Equation suggests the odds are long, not impossible. We know it's not impossible because we're having this conversation. Also, given that we have so little reliable data to plug into it, Drake is little more than a guide of what we need to learn.
Is that evidence of absence? The religious rarely think so, for obvious reasons!
You've only looked at planets orbiting one solitary star.
A question comes to mind; do you ever think it might be somewhat self-absorbed to believe that the universe is all for us?
Perhaps you need some studying up on the Drake Equation. (And to snuff your second point, again, yes, absence of evidence amongst ANY star system, including THIS one, including binary star systems, as though that has anything to do with it, especially considering the bizarre conditions surrounding such systems)
And finally, no. Recognizing probabilities and facts and scriptures leaves no room for "self-absorbtion". That is just a mindless straw man argument.
The Drake Equation... you tell me the chances here...
P=FpNhFlFiFc
...the Probability (P) that intelligent life could "evolve" in any star system...
Which in itself makes it impossible, since the theory of evolution has no merit, lacking empirical evidence in totality. It is only a "blind faith" religion of the atheists. but we'll play along anyway as if it WERE possible, which is the only manner in which the Drake Equation can even form up...
...(P) is as a function of the probability that the star/s will have planets in the habitable zone, and that even simple life has spontaneously formed on that planet. And let's consider THAT probability...
..."Life" at it's lowest form, and hence the beginning of a "presumed" evolution, is a protein molecule of the "ninth configuration". (Scientists have been attempting to create that for decades...). To then suggest that one could be formed in the chance environmental conditions of countless combinations of possibilities I.E. Temperature, pressure, humidity, chemicals, gravity, radiation etc etc. This is the first (P).
Then, the (P) that a protein molecule could randomly burst into existence in such an environment, and THEN begin to "evolve" vertically into compound life... again, no evidence, no known manner of knowing or proving since it has never been observed in any fashion...
...and THEN the probability that this supposed "intelligent life" that developed could or would develop to a point of attempting interstellar communication... AND within the five or so billion years scientists claim, would THEN do so in the extremely short cosmic time zone of our existence. We won't even go into the impossibilities of light travel or time travel where such contact with us could occur...
It is as easy and fruitless to guess of the probability of any ONE of these (and myriads more) probabilities as much as another, to where a mind of rational and learning recognizes that it is IMPOSSIBLE to hope that any of these miniscule probabilities can dominoe one into another successfully to produce aliens, the popular fiction of movies books and tv.
In full effect then we are left with our own guessing and blind unfounded belief (scientific religion I call it) in establishing any "reality" to our hopes of this far fetched nonsense.
So that's why I gave you God's Word on it earlier.
And here also, notice only one planet being spoke of;
(Isa 45:18) For thus saith the LORD that created the heavens; God himself that formed the earth and made it; he hath established it, he created it not in vain, he formed it to be inhabited: I
am the LORD; and
there is none else.
Peace in Christ our Lord