Pro courting.

[Single Life]

If I were date the two of us would court instead of date. I dislike dating because the word date just like love is used to much and lost the meaning of what it truly means. Courtship goes back years and is a term that means the same thing now as it does back then.

 

[bèlla]

How would you move in that direction? Would you develop a friendship first?

 

[Single Life]

Yes, I would become a friend first.

 

[Sketcher]

You do know that the man who made that popular is getting a divorce?

Kissing Marriage Goodbye

 

[Single Life]

Yes, I know. Yet look it all the marriages that did work in history. I am not considered about one man because we do not know the whole story.

 

[Citanul]

and is a term that means the same thing now as it does back then.

I would disagree with that as I've seen the word courting being used to describe a variety of practices, ranging from something that is basically what a lot of people would simply describe as dating all the way to a very rigid set of guidelines as to how the process must be carried out. So when talking about courting it may be necessary to clarify exactly what is being meant by the use of the term.

 

[bèlla]

You are a serious-minded religious person. You need to find the woman who relishes the same in her partner. More than likely, that’s a person whose disposition and religious outlook is similar to yours.

 

[Single Life]

I am a serious minded follower of Jesus. I am only in a relationship if both of agree that it is Christ centered and there is no way out if we get married besides death. It a mandate that she honors the Lord with all her heart and I do the same.

 

[bèlla]

Sometimes our heart and mind aren’t in sync. When we’re unsettled we spin round and round. I don’t get a sense of peace in your posts. I could be wrong too.

 

[Single Life]

You are right, I am very mixed up on what I really what and I am confused on it right now. I do have the peace mind of that it only happens if God wills it yet I think I am trying to force God to make a decision which is not the right move. I keep saying that I am not posting personal information on web and I do anyway that just shows how I am really not ready marriage yet because I am very unsure about myself. As you can see I am walking back and forth with no sense of who I truly am. I pray that Jesus will clear up the mixed thoughts.

 

[bèlla]

I sensed it a while ago. That’s why I posted to your threads. They were more akin to announcements than discussions. And sometimes talking helps to sort out the jumbled things in our head.

Have you ever been on or seen people riding a rollercoaster? Some hold on tight, like me! Others are more relaxed. They’re the one with their hands in the air. Enjoying the ride and laughing. Others like myself are ready to leave.

But everyone is safe. We’re all strapped in. One portion of the riders are resting in that safety and the others are panicking.

You won’t have peace of mind until you take your hands off. If you’ve given the matter to God you must trust His timing and knowledge.

You’re trying to micromanage yourself and drawing a correlation to readiness in marriage. Not desiring to share personal information is fine. I don’t share anything that isn’t fit for a stage. That’s my boundary.

Wholesome discourse doesn’t dishonor you or your future spouse. You’re in the company of believers in a similar season. There’s very little you’d say that would surprise anyone.

You’ve given this enough attention. It’s time to focus on yourself and building your confidence and deepening your relationship with the Lord. He doesn’t want you doubting yourself or feeling unrest.

It’s okay not to be ready for marriage while remaining open to the possibility as you improve. That’s what most of us are doing.

 

[Single Life]

There is many thoughts flowing through my mind. I believe This was the Wrong place to express my emotions and thoughts. I am going to move on with my life. God bless cf may God use it for glory.