Hey everyone!
I’ve been here a few times but I need solid biblical advice at this time. My wife and I have been married 7 years, together for almost 12! We’ve been through a lot together and have always worked things out, God has blessed us. I used to be highly jealous of any male companionship she had, I don’t walk in guilt but I am thankful God saved me from that.
Fast forward to recently, my wife has a male friend she talks to a few times a week on Snapchat, can’t stand that app but I can’t tell her what to do. I’ve told her I’m uncomfortable with her talking to this guy on Snapchat, although I often feel like I’m uncomfortable because of my own insecurities and she knows this. I don’t necessarily think she’s doing anything inherently wrong, I’ve seen the communication, but she assured me over and over that there is nothing to worry about, and I truly believe her.
My question is whether or not I should be concerned and how I should handle this. Should I simply remind her of the possibility of temptation and ask her to consider to stop talking to him and pray for her? Should I put my foot down? (In the past this has not been effective, but maybe I approached it wrong). Should I leave it alone and not say anything and ask the Holy Spirit to speak to her so she hears His voice and not my overshadowing history of jealousy? I think I’ve been so jealous for so long and did some hateful things, that she doesn’t take my counsel in that field seriously, so I understand where she’s coming from.
All I know is that it drives me crazy, not at what she’s doing now, but what it could turn into so easily. I want to handle this with spiritual maturity, but I don’t want to be so passive that she thinks I don’t care.
Another solution that came to mind while my thumbs are tirelessly slapping my phone screen is that I could possibly tell her how I feel, drop the “nagging” and pray that she makes the right decision, all while unconditionally loving her and not acting like she’s doing anything wrong.
I’m so confused, and I’m thankful for your advice!
I’ve been here a few times but I need solid biblical advice at this time. My wife and I have been married 7 years, together for almost 12! We’ve been through a lot together and have always worked things out, God has blessed us. I used to be highly jealous of any male companionship she had, I don’t walk in guilt but I am thankful God saved me from that.
Fast forward to recently, my wife has a male friend she talks to a few times a week on Snapchat, can’t stand that app but I can’t tell her what to do. I’ve told her I’m uncomfortable with her talking to this guy on Snapchat, although I often feel like I’m uncomfortable because of my own insecurities and she knows this. I don’t necessarily think she’s doing anything inherently wrong, I’ve seen the communication, but she assured me over and over that there is nothing to worry about, and I truly believe her.
My question is whether or not I should be concerned and how I should handle this. Should I simply remind her of the possibility of temptation and ask her to consider to stop talking to him and pray for her? Should I put my foot down? (In the past this has not been effective, but maybe I approached it wrong). Should I leave it alone and not say anything and ask the Holy Spirit to speak to her so she hears His voice and not my overshadowing history of jealousy? I think I’ve been so jealous for so long and did some hateful things, that she doesn’t take my counsel in that field seriously, so I understand where she’s coming from.
All I know is that it drives me crazy, not at what she’s doing now, but what it could turn into so easily. I want to handle this with spiritual maturity, but I don’t want to be so passive that she thinks I don’t care.
Another solution that came to mind while my thumbs are tirelessly slapping my phone screen is that I could possibly tell her how I feel, drop the “nagging” and pray that she makes the right decision, all while unconditionally loving her and not acting like she’s doing anything wrong.
I’m so confused, and I’m thankful for your advice!