Pressures and mocking

[josiahoftenn]

Yes I know I'm probally young to be in here but I don't crae.WHen I was 4 I was aking my mom how mcuh the woman was dialted so I would know how much longer until she came home. But what can I do I'm mocked by people my age for never have dated nor slept with a girl. And when I say I'm a virgin everybody freaks out and calls me a "queer" and things like that. But it's hard to go around and hear those things all of the time,my sister and I are the only one's of us that have not had sex. But any hints on how to keep this from bothering me?

 

[Liger14]

I'm am in the exact same situation you are.14 years,still never had a girl.Trust me,dont even bother with them at this age.Other teens these days are stupid.Just keep your own course until the girls get more mature(college maybe) and then you can finally find one thats good for you.Thats what my mom always says.

But right now they will continue to be stupid.It's just how it is.

 

[RemainFaithful]

First of all, this is not only your problem. Unfortunately, today the culture accepts the fact that if a person is sexually active out of wedlock, then he is strong and has conquered and into manhood. This was not the norm 20 years ago. If you've ever watched the "40 year-old virgin", you'd see how even a 40 year old guy is mocked and peer pressured to be sexually active.

You need to have friends who are supportive and would encourage you in your biblical priorities and would not mock you or put you down with their expressions and words. If you are not able to stand strong in the face of mockery, disregard them and stay away from them. At your age, accountability and having friends who are supportive is very important.

Just a note: There is a lot of manipulation that is around (ex. do you consider yourself a guy without having had sex?, are u man enough to have sex?, is this what a christian is? ...) Keep in mind that these are manipulations and they are trying you to do things that they want you to do. You are stronger than them and you are not lacking anything. On the contrary, you are better than them in this regard.

 

[Annoula]

i think that it is peers who mock more.

a mature adult would never mock you.

peers want to show off and live by what is in fashion today.

just think of how many of them will contact sexoual diseases, or how many girls will be pregnant in the near future.

don't fall for mocking or whatever else.

be true to yourself and not to your friends' lack of knowledge and lack of maturity.

 

[headedhome]

Don't allow others to taunt you into something that you know is wrong. At this point in your life you need to focus on living an abundant life in Christ. They tease because they can't understand, stand strong and be a witness for Christ. Let then see joy in you without the worries and concerns that come with premarital sex. Your in this forum for a reason. Use it to grow strong in the Lord. Save yourself for your future spouse.

 

[apologia25]

Hey bro,
I just want to encourage you through some of my life. I am currently about to turn 26 and I am virgin. First of all that is a praise to God as I did not get saved until I was 17. I want to encourage you that as early as 14 my mom was complaining that I would never get any. Could you imagine your mother encouraging such behavior. Well my mom did but you know what is doesn't matter. My committment is to God and not to my peers. The christian life is about controlling those things that the world says should burn like fire. Ephesians says that the world wonders whu we do not flow in the same flood of dissipation that they do. As the others have said you need to be surrounded by those who will encourage your purity in your life. I praise God that you have even made it to 14 and still a virgin. God has a plan for you brother and I hope you know that. Also you need to know that doing anything outside of marriage is going to drastically alter your life. God has a perfect plan but if you make the wrong decisions then plan b will become your life. Take a look at Abraham. We are feeling the effects of his bad decision even today as we are terrorized by the nation of Ishmael. There are so many influences in this world and your doing awesome. Keep up the purity bro and don't worry about people who mock you, you have something special to give to your wife and that is awesome

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Yes I know I'm probally young to be in here but I don't care. When I was 4 I was aking my mom how much the woman was dialted so I would know how much longer until she came home. But what can I do I'm mocked by people my age for never have dated nor slept with a girl. And when I say I'm a virgin everybody freaks out and calls me a "queer" and things like that. But it's hard to go around and hear those things all of the time,my sister and I are the only one's of us that have not had sex. But any hints on how to keep this from bothering me?

Well, you're going through the same thing I went through. The people in your school suspect that you are different because you don't do the things they do. Look ... they thought I was a "gay" person because I didn't do all that either. And because I only had a few friends, and didn't know any of the "cool guys" in school. I was trapped inside the high school social structure.

Don't let them get the best of you. If you were a "queer" you wouldn't have to be told to know it ... you'd be constantly having thoughts about other guys, because of some prior life experience or circumstance that triggered those feelings. (That's what I've learned from trying to help other people on this forum.)

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, or never having dated a girl. I didn't date anyone until I was 17, and I'm still a virgin. I'll never give away my sexuality to any girl until I'm sure she's a Christian, and then I've married her.

One idea of a comeback could be, "Sleeping with people you're not married to is gross. You know if you go to bed with a girl who's had sex with another guy, you're effectively having sex with that guy too?" You could also tell them they're going to burn in hell if they don't repent of their sinful ways. You don't appear to be very popular, so you really don't need to be caring what the popular kids think about you. There are more important things to be concerned about, like your relationship with God, and evangelism. But make sure someone will listen to you and not berate you for believing the Bible as God's Word.

 

[RemainFaithful]

Hey bro,
Take a look at Abraham. We are feeling the effects of his bad decision even today as we are terrorized by the nation of Ishmael.

I wouldn't recommend that kind of out-of-subject-comments around. I'm not an arab, but I read that you are refering to them. Well, if you are, I would say that there are arabs who are christians, and not all muslims are arabs and not all arabs or the descendents of Ishmael are terrorists.

If I wrote your same comment, but replaced Ishmael with Israel, look how many would quickly accuse me of anti-semitism, which is a bit funny, because arabs are also semites.

I agree with the rest of your statements, but not with this one.

I write this with respect, and love...