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Pregnant By A Curse

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I'm 11 weeks pregnant and it is still a struggle for me to be at peace about this. The father of my child forced me to be with him, he worship satan, and he is a murderer on the streets and for a living. :eek:

There is obviously something wrong with me to get myself in this position emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

What concerns me is this man spirit that is growing inside my womb. He is apart of my child just like me so what does this mean?

All these generational curses that he has and mines are combined. So what is the best thing to do to ensure that my baby will not deal with spiritual warfare?

This baby is not a blessing because it was conceived through sin, hate, anger, and fear. This baby is not of God because this was not Gods plan for me but disobedience. God didnt want this for me and I know this. I disobeyed Him and I went back to his home just to stay for a day and ended up being held hostage.

So how can I fix this mess?
 

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Wow, I am sorry you have been through this terrible tragedy. I would recommend counseling if you are able, it can be a lot to bear. I am sorry. but babies have a way of making bad things turn to good in the end, as hard as it may be for you to believe. Remember the baby is half you and I do not personally believe in generational curses.
 
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The baby is Not a curse. The ACT of rape is sin, the resulting baby is not. You may have made bad choices, but rape is not your fault.

God is in charge. God is THE giver of life. It doesn't matter if this baby's father worships satan, You are the mother and if you are a Believer than you have more influence over your baby than anyone else does.

Are you 100% sure that God wants you to keep this child? Adoption is always an option, and a good one depending on the circumstances.

My only advice is to pray, pray, and then pray some more. Dig in deep with the Lord and rest in Him. He can fix all of this. He is in charge!

(((hugs)))
 
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Wow. My sympathies go out to you. Rape is never right under any circumstance. I am more concerned with your beliefs however. You seem to believe you have a generational curse...who taught you that belief? I hate to say this but the more you believe that the more you start behaving like you have something like that. Some of us come from families that just didn't rise above certain circumstances doesn't mean they are curses they're just passed down bad habits. Sometimes the people around us or the conditions of our neighborhood don't help either. It could be a variety of things. The worst thing to believe is that you are under a curse because XYZ is doing this therefore this will happen to their child. The child is innocent and the child will rise above any negativity if you are able to rise above it despite circumstances. Healing takes time, the shock of the pregnancy takes time. I would suggest evaluating your core beliefs, maybe even change the church your going to if the church teaches this generational curse theology. I worry your child will believe this because you believe it. ((HUGS))
 
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As the teen daughter born of a teen Mum I want to let you know some things from the child's perspective:

My Mum wasn't raped but she felt condemned too. As a result her and my relationship was difficult because all she could see in me was her failings. Also the fact that I bore a strong resemblance to my biological father reminded her constantly what happened. She and I have gone into counselling and our relationship couldn't get much better, which is good, but if she had passed on her anger, hurt, negativity and self-loathing to God during her pregnancy it would have spared us a lot of pain. I grew up thinking I was useless, worthless, a curse, rejected and a problem. It got so serious that by the time I was 9 I wished I was dead.

I do not want to condemn you. You are doing too much of that to yourself already. If you pass your anger (including self-anger), hurt and self-condemnation to God sooner rather than later things will work out if you let Him work it out. You must allow God's forgiveness in your life. He loves you and he loves your child. You and your child are not at fault; rape is wrong. No matter what happens when this child is born, it will always be a blessing. It's God's way of bringing good out of horrible situations like what happened to you. If you are meant to keep the child then it will be a blessing to you. If you are meant to adopt it out then it will be a blessing to those parents. Who knows if a lovely couple who can't have children might thank you for it? Who knows but God really?

He is your judge and your justifier.

I will be praying for you and your child and that God's justice will act swiftly on the man who did that to you.
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Wow, I am sorry you have been through this terrible tragedy. I would recommend counseling if you are able, it can be a lot to bear. I am sorry the consequence of your sin turned out so high but babies have a way of making bad things turn to good in the end, as hard as it may be for you to believe. Remember the baby is half you and I do not personally believe in generational curses.


You might not believe it but its there
 
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The baby is Not a curse. The ACT of rape is sin, the resulting baby is not. You may have made bad choices, but rape is not your fault.

God is in charge. God is THE giver of life. It doesn't matter if this baby's father worships satan, You are the mother and if you are a Believer than you have more influence over your baby than anyone else does.

Are you 100% sure that God wants you to keep this child? Adoption is always an option, and a good one depending on the circumstances.

My only advice is to pray, pray, and then pray some more. Dig in deep with the Lord and rest in Him. He can fix all of this. He is in charge!

(((hugs)))


Majority of this world is cursed, the majority of people living in this world is cursed....

I think people are selfish and they want to see what they want of stead of the truth. There is nothing great about having a baby out of wedlock and just because they baby will come here not knowing what I've done or the world, don't mean when he/she finds out my life will still be all peachy. I know what its like to not have a father and I dont want no one raising my child wrong like half the population....

I've been to these schools, I worked in a lot of child care facilities, and we are doomed. Our future is not bright and the best I can do is try to fix my mess through God but this is not a blessing...

Because of people having children in sin this world is falling even more.....
its just as worst as abortion to me

the fact that my child will not have a have father it will effect him/her in some way and that is not of God.
 
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Wow. My sympathies go out to you. Rape is never right under any circumstance. I am more concerned with your beliefs however. You seem to believe you have a generational curse...who taught you that belief? I hate to say this but the more you believe that the more you start behaving like you have something like that. Some of us come from families that just didn't rise above certain circumstances doesn't mean they are curses they're just passed down bad habits. Sometimes the people around us or the conditions of our neighborhood don't help either. It could be a variety of things. The worst thing to believe is that you are under a curse because XYZ is doing this therefore this will happen to their child. The child is innocent and the child will rise above any negativity if you are able to rise above it despite circumstances. Healing takes time, the shock of the pregnancy takes time. I would suggest evaluating your core beliefs, maybe even change the church your going to if the church teaches this generational curse theology. I worry your child will believe this because you believe it. ((HUGS))


Its in the bible, generational curses are in the bible, the history of sin, its in the bible, the bondages of sin, its in the bible, the circumstances of sin, its in the bible, the traditions of sin, its in the bible, the way it effects our family, our life, its in the bible. Generational curses...I have studied three generations of my family and its all being repeated. Rapes, Molestation, Verbal and Physical Abuse, Infidelity, Sickness, Disease, Addiction to Drugs and alcohol, and etc so what is that? I just happened to be this way and the majority of my family for no reason? HUh? If you study the word correctly you will see how more than once a pattern is shown through someones behavior, father like son, mother like daughter, whatever it maybe. We didnt know half the things our parents went through until we repeated history and that is when the stories started....all the way back to third and fourth generations.

Why is this still happening then? Who is responsible for breaking it, ME, and I know just because you think your life is perfect meaning that no one else on this earth is not dealing with bondage. If a wicked mother has a child and all the child is around is wickedness and dont know any better? Is that a blessing? NO, that is not a blessing, that is a curse....
and if that child do not find his way and end up having a family and teach them wickedness, what does that mean, a blessing, no its a curse?

And if there has been 19 - 20 years of dealing with the same devils that you have no clue why they are there, why are they taunting you, why and you are dealing with something that killed your father, trying to kill your mother, and now trying to kill you...what is that?

Its obvious you have no knowledge of generational curses. There cannot be a blessing if there is no such thing as a curse.

I am dealing with serious spiritual warfare and it took me all the way until my 11 week of pregnancy to figure it out.

Who cares about the raping part, I am more concern about the spiritual well being of myself and my child and as of right now...I am under a curse, I am not blessed, and I need to figure out why this man demonic spirit has taken a toll on me that strongly and I dont even talk to him, I barely think about him, and we have no contact.

Why are these devils near me, watching me? Where do they come from?

I have been seeing into the spirit realm since I was 6...and I have never seen anything like these before.

Do you not realize that the man who hurt me is not human? That he is demonic? That he is a live devil that roams the earth? He has his own cohorts and he mention me about them. Something is wrong here spiritually and people think its the hurt or pain...whatever...that is life

I want to know why this heavily satanic influence is attacking me so strong if it dont matter?
 
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Its in the bible, generational curses are in the bible, the history of sin, its in the bible, the bondages of sin, its in the bible, the circumstances of sin, its in the bible, the traditions of sin, its in the bible, the way it effects our family, our life, its in the bible. Generational curses...I have studied three generations of my family and its all being repeated. Rapes, Molestation, Verbal and Physical Abuse, Infidelity, Sickness, Disease, Addiction to Drugs and alcohol, and etc so what is that? I just happened to be this way and the majority of my family for no reason? HUh? If you study the word correctly you will see how more than once a pattern is shown through someones behavior, father like son, mother like daughter, whatever it maybe. We didnt know half the things our parents went through until we repeated history and that is when the stories started....all the way back to third and fourth generations.

Why is this still happening then? Who is responsible for breaking it, ME, and I know just because you think your life is perfect meaning that no one else on this earth is not dealing with bondage. If a wicked mother has a child and all the child is around is wickedness and dont know any better? Is that a blessing? NO, that is not a blessing, that is a curse....
and if that child do not find his way and end up having a family and teach them wickedness, what does that mean, a blessing, no its a curse?

And if there has been 19 - 20 years of dealing with the same devils that you have no clue why they are there, why are they taunting you, why and you are dealing with something that killed your father, trying to kill your mother, and now trying to kill you...what is that?

Its obvious you have no knowledge of generational curses. There cannot be a blessing if there is no such thing as a curse.

I am dealing with serious spiritual warfare and it took me all the way until my 11 week of pregnancy to figure it out.

Who cares about the raping part, I am more concern about the spiritual well being of myself and my child and as of right now...I am under a curse, I am not blessed, and I need to figure out why this man demonic spirit has taken a toll on me that strongly and I dont even talk to him, I barely think about him, and we have no contact.

Why are these devils near me, watching me? Where do they come from?

I have been seeing into the spirit realm since I was 6...and I have never seen anything like these before.

Do you not realize that the man who hurt me is not human? That he is demonic? That he is a live devil that roams the earth? He has his own cohorts and he mention me about them. Something is wrong here spiritually and people think its the hurt or pain...whatever...that is life

I want to know why this heavily satanic influence is attacking me so strong if it dont matter?

It's very hard for most Christians to see evil around them because
1. Most are not dealing with serious physical manifestations of it but also
2. Most attribute anything that happens to other causes.

The story of Job is meant to be a very serious lesson to us. We tend to believe that like Job we should be rewarded for virtue and we don't realize that it isn't good enough; that we have an actually Enemy and that Satan and his spiritual forces have actual physical effects upon us. I have heard others say that you can only see obvious demonic things happening in places where there are blatant obvious evils EVERYONE can see on the news and stuff like that. I disagree--I think that Satan is very very good at disguising himself and making it always seem like something else.

You are not alone in this. I had strong spiritual visions before I got saved; frankly I have found that in most churches there is a lot of lip service about spiritual warfare but little real meat. I was daily praying in an area of town where there was regular violence, on the street war between meth dealers and police tape blocking my own street on a regular basis not long after I got saved; it was a physical and spiritual war zone.

So no, I would say you have been under demonic attack on both levels and it is horrible, there is no other way to put it. When I say pray I would say that you need to stand in faith to break those ties of evil in your life. Remember that everything, EVERYTHING in the Bible points towards the redemption of Jesus Christ. I found that God's power has held back demonic visitations (which I have not had since I began challenging them with the power of Christ), knives, mugging, threats and overt evil. It CAN work. This is someone not just talking nice to you but talking of GOD'S POWER.

Now it is also very dangerously tempting to believe that Satan's power over your life is very powerful and that you are cursed. But Jesus broke all curses' dominion over us. You are right in saying that you have in some fashion allowed this to happen--but listen, your ONLY sin truly is the same as anyone else's--turning from God.

I'm very desperately sorry that it has come to you being pregnant by this man. Any person though can be turned to the Lord and it is ultimately a matter of choice.

First of all--if this man overtly worships Satan then he has turned from God as Ahab did. I know the kind of man you are talking about--I feel a chill of evil thinking of it and I feel the need for the armour of God just in talking about this. Having said that let's talk about the baby: EVERYONE is conceived in sin--that is conceived by sinners. To GOD, who commands the whole of creation, our particular sins are nothing. Do you think that God does not weep to see massacres, our carelessness towards the poor, all the suffering in the world? We all struggle with sin, you are in a way blessed to truly know it.

So I will say this prayer over you: remember that you were created in God's image. You can say RIGHT NOW Lord God in Heaven, Lord Jesus Christ save me from this man of the Devil! Take him OUT OF MY LIFE, remove him, cast him away! Give me your protection Father even as you promised, declaring that no weapon formed against me will prosper! The Bible says that if I resist the Devil he will flee from me, even though he stalks around me always like a roaring lion. Father in Heaven I ask that You break the generational chains of sin and confusion that surround me and surround me instead with the Holy Spirit and the protection of Your angels. In Jesus' Name I command the devils that Satan is sending against me to LEAVE ME ALONE, to give me peace and protection. And I submit to You the matter of this child, which causes me to feel dread and great concern about whether in bearing this child I would be committing further sin. O Lord I turn to You in repentance and offer my life up to you: save me as You promised me you would.

My wife's ex had brought a lot of spiritual wickedness into their house without even knowing it. When we married we broke a lot of curses and power--and we also did things like improving our home security a lot and things like that. We spent literally weeks praying prayers against witchcraft (I'm not talking Wicca here) and demonic influences until we felt it lift at last. I believe that you can do this as well. You are not alone sister; there are others who believe that we are at war with the powers of darkness and only the mercy and goodness of God can save us.
 
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No matter what you believe or I believe, there is one truth: In all of the world, there is one person who's fault this is not, and that is the baby.

If you don't want the baby to be raised where he/she is, then give that child up for adoption. Speak to pastors in your area to see if they know of anyone looking to adopt. There are so many people who long for a baby, don't deny them if you can't provide a wonderful home for him/her.
 
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Excuse me for butting in.
All the scientists in the world cannot create even the life of a fly, if you are going to have a baby it is not a curse its a miracle. The miracle of life.
If anybody wants to see a miracle go visit a maternity hospital.
Please dont blame dark forces for you being pregant it just does not happen.
They have no power except the power that we humans feed them, we can nourish them or we can starve them. Only the Allmighty can create life and its never by accident.
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Majority of this world is cursed, the majority of people living in this world is cursed....

I think people are selfish and they want to see what they want of stead of the truth. There is nothing great about having a baby out of wedlock and just because they baby will come here not knowing what I've done or the world, don't mean when he/she finds out my life will still be all peachy. I know what its like to not have a father and I dont want no one raising my child wrong like half the population....

I've been to these schools, I worked in a lot of child care facilities, and we are doomed. Our future is not bright and the best I can do is try to fix my mess through God but this is not a blessing...

Because of people having children in sin this world is falling even more.....
its just as worst as abortion to me

the fact that my child will not have a have father it will effect him/her in some way and that is not of God.

Hey, I know you're angry but I had a baby out of wedlock myself. I DO know what it's like, I DO know the looks and the judgements of others~ especially so-called Christians. I DO know about generational curses, as I had to break several myself.

I never mentioned abortion, I said Adoption would be an alternative.

I still believe that God is the one who gives life. ONLY God. If you were not meant to have this baby, you wouldn't be having it. What choices you decide to make Can make a difference. You are not doomed.
 
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I am in agreement with many here. A baby is never a curse. Everything that happens in the world is sifted through the hands of G-d, andsometimes we don't understand it now. One day we will, I have confidence in that.

In addition, generational curses only can take place if we do not turn from our evil ways and serve G-d. He said that all those curses are to the generations of them that do not serve Him, BUT-- if we turn from our evil ways and serve him, there is blessing for us.

For me, abortion is never an option. I've seen both of my children at 6 and 8 weeks gestation, and known they are alive, heartbeat and everything. I've watched them grow from the inside (ultrasound every month) and seen them sleep or play. If I knew I were unable to care for my children, the opportunity would be given to others whose hearts and souls are aching for children.

If you have a group like Sav-a-life near you, I'd highly suggest going in for counselling and medical care.


Until a child is older and wants to know everything there is to know about the world, they don't care HOW they came to be, or who their parents are. They just want to be, and their mama and whomever else cares for them are the lights of their world.
 
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I realize that a number of people here are concerned that she might want to get an abortion. Possibly this was the wrong subforum to put this thread on as it seems what she needs is help with prayer and understanding of how God can help free her from her situation; automatically I can see moms on here defending the choice to have a baby no matter what, but I really do believe that she is crying out for help more than anything.
 
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The sacrifice that Christ made on the cross is sufficient to destroy the bonds of any curse generational or otherwise. There is not, that is stronger than the Word by which all things were made. That Word was made flesh and sacrificed Himself for us all, babies that are the product of rape and their mothers, too.

Sometimes there is redemption & grace that God wants to show us, through the life of one of these little ones.
 
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If you don't feel capable of raising this child to believe he/she is a blessing in this world...then love your child enough to give it to a family that will. No child should be viewed as a curse.
 
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Oh, wow. I would strongly recommend putting the baby up for adoption and get yourself into counselling. This baby is not a curse.

If you don't feel capable of raising this child to believe he/she is a blessing in this world...then love your child enough to give it to a family that will. No child should be viewed as a curse.


I agree with these ladies. You need some serious help. If you raise a child treating him/her like a cures then he/she will be. If you raise him/her with love and guidance then he/she will be a blessing. But the choice is yours. If you can not be a good parent and will not love, care for, and respect your child then find someone who will.
 
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Oh, wow. I would strongly recommend putting the baby up for adoption and get yourself into counselling. This baby is not a curse.
This

If you are unwilling to listen to the advice given in your thread, why start the thread at all? A child shouldn't have to pay for the sins of its father... actually its the other way around.

You need to resolve your issues before you can be an effective mother to this blessing in disguise.
 
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