I believe in predestination and calling, why because it is a bitter pill to swallow, no! Because it is Biblical Read Romans 8:28,29 I will quote here the NIV for your convenience:
For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.
30 And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.
According to that passage it is clear to me from the English translation at least that we are predestined and called. Notice Paul uses foreknowledge seperately to predestined, they are not the same thing. Wait, maybe there is a problem here with the translator being Calvinist, maybe we should look at the Greek to find out what the words actually are.
προορίω - This is defined as to predestine or decide beforehand
How about choosing though, now this is even more interesting
καλέω - To call, invite or summon, the exact meaning depends on the context, your friend would invite you but your king would summon you. Whichever of those you decide fits God (friend or king) he asked you to be with him.
Paul has left no room for doubt here, he used foreknew, predestined and called in the same sentence so we would know that the three are different.
Well if he foreknew us does that mean he called us because of that, no, that would make him a weak God. If you are holding a party, you don't just invite the people you know will come, you invite the people you want. In the same way God has summoned some of us, because he wants us not because we are the only ones who will come. God does not need us, he does not need to choose people because they have chosen him.
Still not convinced?
Ro 9:14 What then shall we say? Is God unjust? Not at all!
Ro 9:15 For he says to Moses,
I will have mercy on whom I have mercy,
and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.
Ro 9:16 It does not, therefore, depend on mans desire or effort, but on Gods mercy.
Ro 9:17 For the Scripture says to Pharaoh: I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display my power in you and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.
Ro 9:18 Therefore God has mercy on whom he wants to have mercy, and he hardens whom he wants to harden.
Ro 9:19 One of you will say to me: Then why does God still blame us? For who resists his will?
Ro 9:20 But who are you, O man, to talk back to God? Shall what is formed say to him who formed it, Why did you make me like this?
Ro 9:21 Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for noble purposes and some for common use?
Ro 9:22 What if God, choosing to show his wrath and make his power known, bore with great patience the objects of his wrathprepared for destruction?
Ro 9:23 What if he did this to make the riches of his glory known to the objects of his mercy, whom he prepared in advance for glory
Ro 9:24 even us, whom he also called, not only from the Jews but also from the Gentiles?
Ro 9:25 As he says in Hosea:
I will call them my people who are not my people;
and I will call her my loved one who is not my loved one,
Ro 9:26 and,
It will happen that in the very place where it was said to them,
You are not my people,
they will be called sons of the living God.
Pay particular attention to vs 21, 22, & 23 some people will die that the glory of God will be revealed.
But its not fair is it, in our post-modern, liberal society everyone should be equal, everyone should be treated the same. We should all get what we deserve, we all deserve nothing short of death. Yet, God has chosen to spare some of his creation from that fate by the attoning blood of his son - that is what is not fair, that Christ had to die so that us sinners can have life because we couldn't make it on our own, yet his creation then turns to God and says "why didn't you save the rest as well?" He has given his response through Paul "But who are you, O man, to talk back to God? Shall what is formed say to him who formed it, Why did you make me like this? "
Does this mean we shouldn't bother evangelising people because they are chosen or not chosen and our actions make no difference. No, it doesn't, God's chosen method for bringing people to him is by evangelism and we should do what he asks of us.
We don't know who is chosen and who isn't so we should regard everyone as being potentially saved so that they have that chance to hear the Gospel.