Praying: Together

[GirlForChrist]

How is it that couples pray with one another effectively?

 

[Hewitt]

Be honest, to the point, and sincere. God's our daddy, best friend, and king; so treat him that way.

Prayer is cool among a couple but it can also be a very dangerous thing (when not married). When a guy and girl pray together, they will probably feel a lot closer and if they struggle with self-control it can be a problem. I know that sounds wierd, but it's very true.

 

[JahRawks]

Praying together with your significant other, can be amazing, by praying together, you can see God working in both of your lives, and even at times you can honestly see Him drawing you closer and closer together. It can be an amazing feeling. Just like Hewitt said, be honest and straight to the point, and don't forget to thank God once in a while for your wonderful significan other.
God Bless-
Nathan

 

[Izzo]

Praying together can be good if both people do it. I had an ex that when we prayed, she would often say nothing. After awhile I grew tired of being the only one praying and stopped praying with her altogether.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

I disagree strongly Izzo.

There could have been a reason that she didn't pray out loud. I don't like praying out loud. It's because of something between me and God. Don't condemn people who don't pray out loud.


Remember: You don't have to be praying with your tongue to be praying.


Praying with your significant other is awesome. Even if it's only one person praying, it's an awesome thing. You're just so filled.

 

[Izzo]

I understand what you are saying Lizzi. Praying is not only relegated to the tongue. But when two agree to pray with each other its hard to have community and fellowship if only one person is vocal.

I can not communicate with another person the same way I can with God. As people we communicate with our tongue. The purpose of praying with another person is to join in fellowship and talk to God.

This does not have to be vocal but in order to obtain the closeness that is mentioned earlier in this thread, vocal communication during prayer is beneficial.

 

[jenste]

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[Lizzi4Christ]

This does not have to be vocal but in order to obtain the closeness that is mentioned earlier in this thread, vocal communication during prayer is beneficial.

But see, sometimes it's not beneficial. I struggle with worrying too much about what the other person thinks about the words I'm saying. It was really bad. They weren't prayers to God, but trying to gain approval. I was being like the Pharasees. So to stop, I stopped praying out loud except for very rare occassions. Not forever, but until I can get my heart right. Even praying with Nathan hasn't always been beneficial, because I was still focusing on that.

 

[Erichero]

The Bible says that those who want to be born again must believe in their hearts and confess with their mouths. It's one thing to be praying from your heart, but there's something very powerful in the spoken word. That's why James says that we hold the power of life and death in our tongue.

If you're feeling shy or self conscious about praying out loud, then just keep at it until you build up more confidence. Pray scriptures if this helps.

To get back to the thread topic, praying with your partner can be very powerful. Matt 18:19-20 - "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."

I think the issue here is what you pray about. If you're going to pray about your relationship with each other and you're not engaged, then be very careful. Praying together about Godly things can be useful.

On the issue of self-control, prayer together can be an intimate thing, simply because we do open our hearts a lot more when we pray, especially personal prayers (as opposed to praying for Mongolia). Being together with a single person in that place of intimacy can be very binding. I would play it with caution here if you're not engaged.

I was praying together with a girl I was thinking about and it was quite intimate even though we didn't intend it to be so.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

"And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly." Matthew 6:5-6

It's not that I'm uncomfortable with it. I'm not. It's that my heart isn't in the right place. Jesus warned about not being like the Pharisees. I'm not going to be like that. Yes, words spoken out loud are important. But I don't think they're any less important if spoken in the quiet. I have more respect for the prayer warriors who never open their mouth during a prayer meeting, but you can see them praying fervently.

I think praying together is indeed powerful. And I think even dating couples should do it. I think that's what gotten my relationship as far as it has.

 

[GirlForChrist]

The Bible says that those who want to be born again must believe in their hearts and confess with their mouths. It's one thing to be praying from your heart, but there's something very powerful in the spoken word. That's why James says that we hold the power of life and death in our tongue.

If you're feeling shy or self conscious about praying out loud, then just keep at it until you build up more confidence. Pray scriptures if this helps.

To get back to the thread topic, praying with your partner can be very powerful. Matt 18:19-20 - "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."

I think the issue here is what you pray about. If you're going to pray about your relationship with each other and you're not engaged, then be very careful. Praying together about Godly things can be useful.

On the issue of self-control, prayer together can be an intimate thing, simply because we do open our hearts a lot more when we pray, especially personal prayers (as opposed to praying for Mongolia). Being together with a single person in that place of intimacy can be very binding. I would play it with caution here if you're not engaged.

I was praying together with a girl I was thinking about and it was quite intimate even though we didn't intend it to be so.

I totally agree with what you're saying here. Thanks so much. Note: We will be engaged soon, its just a matter of the Lords wishes and time.

 

[Ampmonster]

Me and my GF pray together. at first it was a tiny bit akward, but we both want the same things. so it's like second nature now.
hmmm, now that i mention it. thats one of the good indications we're so good for eachother.

 

[DaveKerwin]

regardless, it is important to talk about God, the two of you together. you do not want to be embarrassed or uncomfortable about your faith with a person you could be yoked with in the future.

 

[Erichero]

absolutely.

If God is not number one, then you kicking off on the back foot already.

I wrote a list of things that my future wife would have to consider. One thing I wrote is ...

"You will never be number one in my life, because God is number one."

 

[lil_god_lova]

yeah when praying it does draw u clsoe but tha tcan be awesome aight. just pray for lots of stuff. Me and my bf do and it's awesome, we both take turns in praying and it's awesome praying for ourselves our friends, and different stuff happening.

 

[joyinchrist]

But see, sometimes it's not beneficial. I struggle with worrying too much about what the other person thinks about the words I'm saying. It was really bad. They weren't prayers to God, but trying to gain approval. I was being like the Pharasees. So to stop, I stopped praying out loud except for very rare occassions. Not forever, but until I can get my heart right. Even praying with Nathan hasn't always been beneficial, because I was still focusing on that.

Soooo true! I go to a school where everyone prays out loud and makes it all elaborate and weird! I refuse to take part unless I feel like there is really something I must say to God... I wont pray for the sake of showing that I can.

 

[lil_god_lova]

For me personally, i pray just when i wanna talk to god... I hate elaborate stuff, unless it's showing of there relationship with god. yeah just whatever brings you closer to god i love.

 

[Hewitt]

Back to the original topic...

Like I've mentioned before, start simple and work from there. Praying before meals is an awesome way to prepare for a closer spiritual relationship in the future. And as I've already warned, don't rush prayer in the relationship. As crazy as it sounds, praying together can bring you closer than you are ready to be. Just remember that.

 

[lil_god_lova]

yes you are very right hewitt.

 

[Hewitt]

yes you are very right hewitt.

I know I am. I don't say that to be cocky, or anything like that. I've learned these lessons the hard way, and people can say I'm wrong but I know I'm not. I've been there, done that, and learned my lesson.