Praying together

[chosen1975]

My wife and I have been married this Dec 18yrs we have 7 children, but for the life of me I have not taken time to spend time with my wife in prayer and bible study, I always go off to myself. I need help in this area / I need sugestions that really work. not pat answers also I need much prayer in this area as I am probably selfish when it comes to my time spent with God thanks

 

[suzie]

Have you spoken to your wife about this? I dont mean to be disrespectful, but how could you make any type of decisions without praying together???


My husband and I also have our own devotion times, but we also pray together and spend time together in the Word. We are in a small group together and we do ministry together as much as possible.

We are currently doing "Building Real Intimacy" by Bill Hybel, but there are many devotionals if you so desire that are couple oriented. However, I would suggest that you both just take time together to share what God has been saying to you both during your devotional times apart and begin to pray --really pray--about your lives, children, home, careers, each other, etc. You will find it is amazing!

 

[Peter]

In order to meet with my wife, I had to re-arrange my morning routine. It is an act of the will. I got up almost an hour earlier to have time by myself with God. Then she and I meet at 6 AM. We do this M-F.

You are correct in knowing that you need both aspects in your life, personal and spousal time with God.

BTW, my wife and I are being married for 17 years now and have 6 children. Starting the day with God works better for us than trying to end the day together with God.

Oh, what do we do? We read 8 Psalms together, alternating. Then we talk some. And then we pray. By reading 8 Psalms a day M-F you can go through them in a month. Save one day for Psalm 119 by itself.

Peace.

Peter

 

[49erfan]

Have you thought about joining a "couples" Bible study at your church?

 

[spikenard]

Spending time with your wife in prayer is very important epecially considering that marriage is two people becoming one. Though you both have a personal spot that does not include the other, most of your lives involve each other and your marriage itself is symbolic of Christ in many ways (1Corinthians). I would recommend having someone scholarly such as a pastor make the two of you up an outline to go over together. This way the burden of preparing and deciding what to study is already laid before you.

 

[chosen1975]

Hi all, Well here's the scoop. Last night my wife and I started praying together and reading scripture,I took a cue from you Peter and we are going to try and read through the psalms, we read 4 and are going to try this twice a week, we also began a book together as we have many( Grounds for a great marriage by Chuck & Barb Snyder) So thanks for all of the suggestions and I covet your prayers that we may be consistant in this.( As we have attempted this several times thanks MDE aka chosen1975

 

[IslandBreeze]

My husband and I don't pray together. He's not comfortable praying out loud at all, so I pray on my own, and he prays on his own...I wish it were different (and yeah; I've talked to him about it). He was raised in a very conservative family, that the only time they prayed together was at meals. He's a very private person, and feels his relationship with God is a private matter. I as his wife tend to disagree, but I'm not sure how to approach it. Any ideas?

 

[Peter]

I took a cue from you Peter and we are going to try and read through the psalms,

I'm humbled. As you read them through, see how each one has been/is fulfilled in Christ.

Cammie:

As a man, I have trouble giving any advice. However, if you contact Bambi, she's a member here, she could probably give you some help. She's a dynamic christian woman and has had much dealings with a "private" husband. Just send her a PM.

Peace.

Peter