Praying that God does not give a gf!

[LoveDivine]

Very good advice!

I'll admit that this is where I struggle. I think I let my anxiety get the best of me and so I have a hard time with actually going out and meeting people, not to mention living in a small town also makes it hard. I need a lot of prayer for this area of my life. I do hope that God will help me to move forward to where He wants me to be.

Small towns and small churches are a challenge for sure. I'm in the same boat. I don't have a large social network. It's even harder because I work in a female dominated field (almost all my college classmates were women and most of my coworkers are too). It's forced me to try online dating and other similar approaches. This has led to comedically terrible results, lol. I keep reminding myself that it only takes one sane guy

I don't know if this will help, but often we tend to be our own worst critics. I think it's easy to get in our own heads and overthink things. It's extra tough to be at ease and chat with new people if you think too much about how they are perceiving you. Judging by your posts on this forum, you come across as well spoken and intelligent. I'm sure you'd make a good impression on whoever you are meeting

 

[Soyeong]

I am praying that God does not give me a gf. I feel I not mature enough for a girl friend.

Yet having a gf can itself be a maturing process. Why not pray that God would give you maturity instead?

 

[Galatea]

She's doing a lot better than me now. She's living the dream!

Burden to be a man? Lol no!

We men suffer from a lot more rejection from women! Most of my attempts end up in rejection and I had quite few!

For now, I'm out of the dating scene. I'm setting up a business so that later when I'm financially stable, I'll find confidence in having relationships again.

It could be bad for business if you reduce your female employees to tears. So be aware of this tendency.

 

[Galatea]

LOL.

Yes, well, I believe the diligent poster of the OP is smart enough to ask the Lord for a "Mary," "Ruth" or "Martha," are you not, Historyingognito? HAHA.

Who was blessed more than Job?

 

[leothelioness]

Small towns and small churches are a challenge for sure. I'm in the same boat. I don't have a large social network. It's even harder because I work in a female dominated field (almost all my college classmates were women and most of my coworkers are too). It's forced me to try online dating and other similar approaches. This has led to comedically terrible results, lol. I keep reminding myself that it only takes one sane guy

I don't know if this will help, but often we tend to be our own worst critics. I think it's easy to get in our own heads and overthink things. It's extra tough to be at ease and chat with new people if you think too much about how they are perceiving you. Judging by your posts on this forum, you come across as well spoken and intelligent. I'm sure you'd make a good impression on whoever you are meeting

I work in an all female environment myself. I've tried online dating also and didn't like it. I'd really prefer to meet someone in person, so I'll just continue to pray that God will provide a way for that to happen.

 

[AACJ]

Who was blessed more than Job?

I was assuming that you considered Job's wife to be a "bad" wife. His wife encouraged Job to curse God and die. I don't think I would pray for that kind of wife. LOL.

 

[Galatea]

I was assuming that you considered Job's wife to be a "bad" wife. His wife encouraged Job to curse God and die. I don't think I would pray for that kind of wife. LOL.

Of course she was a bad wife. I am being facetious.

 

[Sammy-San]

Just make yourself as objectionable as possible to the opposite sex and you won't have any problems.

You could be so conceited that you think women will just be given to you, that would make you objectionable.

Do you think people overthink praying about this? I'm not saying it isnt important, but it isnt like finding a mysterious unknown person.

 

[Galatea]

Do you think people overthink praying about this? I'm not saying it isnt important, but it isnt like finding a mysterious unknown person.

I don't think God is a cosmic Santa Claus who gives you whatever you want when you pray.

 

[historyincognito]

The OP takes back want He said.

 

[timewerx]

It could be bad for business if you reduce your female employees to tears. So be aware of this tendency.

It only happened once in my many years of employment. The majority of women I worked with did not take interest in me so I'm not worried!

Many women would find me objectionable, even my mother finds me objectionable! She gets hurt so bad just by looking at me! I lack class is what she says.

 

[Galatea]

The OP takes back want He said.

I thought the whole idea is you do NOT want. How can you take back want if you didn't want in the first place?

 

[ReesePiece23]

If I were you, I'd pray for the focus to actually stick at something. You've got the mind of a grasshopper.

 

[christiansoccerplayer]

I am praying that God does not give me a gf. I feel I not mature enough for a girl friend.

Easy. Don't ask any women out. It certainly has worked for me.

 

[timewerx]

Easy. Don't ask any women out. It certainly has worked for me.

Don't show any interest too. Never give women any ideas.....

....And search google for tips on how to win the hearts of women and do exactly the opposite of those!

 

[sundewgrower]

I work in an all female environment myself. I've tried online dating also and didn't like it. I'd really prefer to meet someone in person, so I'll just continue to pray that God will provide a way for that to happen.

Online dating is only good in my opinion if it's a local deal OR you have a preplanned "vacation" to see this person along with a few others in the region. I might do that to see a few friends, enjoy and network out some since they'll vouch for me...

In the end last year I visited my ex from here and then when it was broken off two friends from OKC in neighboring countries. The ex is now my ex after 10,000 miles of a trip, one friend is totally bust in a bad manner (men know if they've met her IRL and I didn't!) and the last friend I really wish she were part of my family as she's the best I've ever met--but I can't see marriage in it. If I try online dating again it'll be strictly local--no distance malarkey.

 

[He is Worthy]

God is a sovereign God and will do want He wills.

 

[Quiet Soul]

Haha. Good point to the op.

 

[ReesePiece23]

If I were you, I'd pray for the focus to actually stick at something. You've got the mind of a grasshopper.

Lol, bit harsh.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I am praying that God does not give me a gf. I feel I not mature enough for a girl friend.

Cant help but to think this post was just click bait to be honest.