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heyy, everyone. my name is sarah, and i'm nineteen. i joined this forum yesterday, and today, i have a prayer request for all of you. i would also really appreciate any words of encouragement or advice that you might be able to offer; this is one of the hardest things i've ever dealt with, and i pretty much need all the help i can get.
back in march, i met a guy (and yes, he's a believer) named j.c. (a mutual friend set us up). we fell for each other pretty quickly, and a short distance into april, we started dating. then, the night after we became a couple, we found out that his ex-girlfriend (from whom he had been separated for about two weeks at the time that we met) was pregnant with his child. i encouraged him that he should go back and try to make things work with her so that their child could have a proper family, but he resisted, saying that he wanted to stay with me. after about a week, however, he decided that he did, indeed, need to at least try to work things out.
apparently, success wasn't in the cards for them, because he came back to me about a month later (she cheated on him and did some other pretty unpleasant things). everything was just as wonderful as it had been the first time that we had dated. both of us were starting to get a little less scared about the baby coming and a lot more excited. we were both really happy when, around the middle of june, we found out that it was going to be a little boyy, and j.c. got to pick the name (which was going to be harley craig).
a week after finding out the sex of the baby, we got some more news...and this time, it wasn't good. i had just left his house when he sent me a text message and told me that she'd had a miscarriage. i asked him what exactly happened, and he responded that it was a long story and he would tell me when i came back to his house that night. i never asked him about it; i wanted to avoid talking about it because i didn't want him getting all upset, soo, i still don't know what happened. his family and i were, of course, veryy concerned about how this was going to affect him, but he actually seemed okayy to all of us.
now, though, we can all see that he is most definitely NOT okayy. our relationship has been on the rocks for about two months because of this, and he's not communicating with his family as much as he used to (his mother and sister told me that i get more out of him than either one of them do...and believe me, i don't get much at ALL).
aside from losing the baby, he's had some other issues here lately and has some going on right now. like i mentioned before, his ex-girlfriend cheated on him and stuff like that, and it wasn't the first time that that had happened. he's never really seemed happy at his job, and he's in quite a bit of debt. and he's fairly young to have this much stress and drama in his life--he's only twenty.
i was over at his apartment yesterday, and he revealed to me that nothing makes him happy anymore, and nothing is funn to him anymore. basically, the only time he IS happy is when he's got a beer in his hand. he's been a drinker since before i met him, but what he's doing now is more than just indulging himself every now and then. to my knowledge, he's been getting drunk EVERY single weekend for the past couple months.
the way that he is living is obviously not healthy. his family and i have been trying to help him, but he won't let us know what he needs or wants or anything like that. none of us are really sure what to do, although we think that convincing him to move back home would be a really good idea. this has taken a pretty big toll on all of us, and we just want him back to the way that he was before; to the boyy that we all knew and loved.
please be praying for him and for all of us as well. as i mentioned before, any words of encouragement or advice that you might be able to offer. thank you for reading this, and God bless you.
back in march, i met a guy (and yes, he's a believer) named j.c. (a mutual friend set us up). we fell for each other pretty quickly, and a short distance into april, we started dating. then, the night after we became a couple, we found out that his ex-girlfriend (from whom he had been separated for about two weeks at the time that we met) was pregnant with his child. i encouraged him that he should go back and try to make things work with her so that their child could have a proper family, but he resisted, saying that he wanted to stay with me. after about a week, however, he decided that he did, indeed, need to at least try to work things out.
apparently, success wasn't in the cards for them, because he came back to me about a month later (she cheated on him and did some other pretty unpleasant things). everything was just as wonderful as it had been the first time that we had dated. both of us were starting to get a little less scared about the baby coming and a lot more excited. we were both really happy when, around the middle of june, we found out that it was going to be a little boyy, and j.c. got to pick the name (which was going to be harley craig).
a week after finding out the sex of the baby, we got some more news...and this time, it wasn't good. i had just left his house when he sent me a text message and told me that she'd had a miscarriage. i asked him what exactly happened, and he responded that it was a long story and he would tell me when i came back to his house that night. i never asked him about it; i wanted to avoid talking about it because i didn't want him getting all upset, soo, i still don't know what happened. his family and i were, of course, veryy concerned about how this was going to affect him, but he actually seemed okayy to all of us.
now, though, we can all see that he is most definitely NOT okayy. our relationship has been on the rocks for about two months because of this, and he's not communicating with his family as much as he used to (his mother and sister told me that i get more out of him than either one of them do...and believe me, i don't get much at ALL).
aside from losing the baby, he's had some other issues here lately and has some going on right now. like i mentioned before, his ex-girlfriend cheated on him and stuff like that, and it wasn't the first time that that had happened. he's never really seemed happy at his job, and he's in quite a bit of debt. and he's fairly young to have this much stress and drama in his life--he's only twenty.
i was over at his apartment yesterday, and he revealed to me that nothing makes him happy anymore, and nothing is funn to him anymore. basically, the only time he IS happy is when he's got a beer in his hand. he's been a drinker since before i met him, but what he's doing now is more than just indulging himself every now and then. to my knowledge, he's been getting drunk EVERY single weekend for the past couple months.
the way that he is living is obviously not healthy. his family and i have been trying to help him, but he won't let us know what he needs or wants or anything like that. none of us are really sure what to do, although we think that convincing him to move back home would be a really good idea. this has taken a pretty big toll on all of us, and we just want him back to the way that he was before; to the boyy that we all knew and loved.
please be praying for him and for all of us as well. as i mentioned before, any words of encouragement or advice that you might be able to offer. thank you for reading this, and God bless you.
Seems like you really need to have a sit down with him and talk. You also might want to be praying and see what God has to say about the situation. PM me if you ever need someone to talk to. 
