Prayer urgently needed

[rainbowprism]

Hello all. I am really struggling with lonliness right now...since becoming a Christian I don't hang out with the kind of crowd I used to. But now I have NO friends...I go to church and I do go to a young adult group but nothing! I've been doing this for about 4 and a half months--I think I've been putting in the effort. I was struggling tonight at the young adult service (we have a congregational service during the day and a YA at night) during worship because I was all alone in this big auditiorium and everyone was with thier S/O or other people! I fought back tears and became really upset with myself because I'm supposed to be loving on the Lord and here I am feeling bad for myself. I almost convinced myself to leave but I stayed becuase I was hoping God would give me some comfort...nothing. This isn't an issue that is going to cause me to lose faith but I am really having a hard time with this, like thier is something fundamentally wrong with me because I've never had difficulties making friends before. I really need some good Christian friends and am really reaching the end of my tether--I don't know what to do or how to feel about this. I just feel hopelessly alone. I'm sorry, but I needed to set this down...I've been carrying it too long. Please pray for me

 

[Caelum]

I can relate very much so. I have zero to two total Christian friends, and they don't go to church, or read the bible, or do much of anything. None of my family that i'm close to go to church, I went to church today by myself, surrounded by tons of families and couples. It gets me down sometimes, I don't even really know anyone at the church I went to(i haven't been all that much cause i've been church-shopping, haha) but I almost drive away when I get there everytime, then I realize everything has its purpose, and it is ME who is getting myself down. I give in and feel sorry for myself, and honestly I just had to literally smack myself in the face and ask why I was acting so pathetic, be thankful for all you DO have and then praise God for it, then more good things will flourish, but certainly you can't see whats ahead of you with tears in your eye, its just too gosh darn blurry....but, I will work my magic...ok ok so its not magic but it is prayer!

 

[Amiko]

Hi rainbowprism.

Coming online is a great start to meeting and developing relationships with real people - even if it is in the virtual realm! I do it all the time, because I work from home and have few Christian friends locally. (Up until now I've been on a UK forum but it's gone down recently - hence my newbie appearance here!

It still doesn't mean that there are real arms around you when you're hurting - so I pray that you'll find someone locally to talk to.

The world can be a lonely place - and in that fact, a great many of us are all together - a bittersweet irony!

 

[Buskanaka]

yeah i know exactly how you feel, I have lots of acquaintances from the christian group at my uni, and the church I go to is mostly young people I know, but I've felt so alone when I go and no one will come and talk to me, even when I know most people there. All my closest friends graduated last year and moved away and now it's like everyone already has their established friendships and groups and it's virtually impossible to break in. But hang in there rainbow, God does hear our cries for help!

 

[Blank123]

I know where you're coming from, this is something I'm dealing with now. When I joined the church I'm going to now, I didn't bother for a few years to really try to get to know anyone because of the way people treated me at my last church, and in the last few months I've come to the realization that I shouldn't have pre-judged these people, and have started going to more church events to try to meet people. But now nobody bothers with me, and I am generally ignored. I went to church alone yesterday and if it weren't for my pastor's wife I wouldn't have had anybody to site with at all. It's a really horrible feeling like you've been rejected before you've had a chance to prove yourself.

Anyway I am now seriously thinking about leaving my church because of this, I mean there is really sound teaching there that I appreciate, but I don't know if it's worth it if nobody even cares I'm there.

 

[Sketcher]

I hear you. I remember back in my high school years, I had beengoing to my youth group but still had not friends within it. I got to the point where I prayed for God to either get me some friends in my current youth group or get me a new youth group. And He graciously gave me some friends in that youth group. I pray He'll do the same for you.

 

[JPPT1974]

I know how that is and believe me you are not the first person to go through this or the last and may God bless and have mercy on you. I didn't have friends myself as preferring to be a loner both Christian and/or non-Christian but leave everything up to God because he is making the decisions for you and if you do, anything and/or everything will fall into place.

 

[jesus_is_my_life]

Hey rainbow

Just wanted to let ya know that I'm sorta going through the same thing...it's tough, but coming to the CF has been awesome! So many fun people and so many experiences to share and relate to. I believe that God brought me here so that I wouldn't get TOO lonely It hasn't been easy because there are SO many things I wanna do and places I wanna go...but they just aren't too much fun without any beloved friends to go with. But, I've been praying...and God has encouraged me to keep on asking because the Bible says "Ask and you will recieve, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be answered." "For EVERYONE who asks recieves..." (Matthew 7:7) So, take heart and know that you'll always have people that love you and care about you here!

I'll be praying for you, too. Love ya!

Here's some more scriptures for you to take comfort in: Matthew 7:11, John 16:24, Ephesians 3:20, 1 John 3:22, 1 John 5:14-15)!!! God is SO good!

 

[rainbowprism]

Thanks guys! Yeah I am really struggling in alot of ways right now. Due to circumstances I am staying with my grandmother for the summer. She adamantly dissaproves of my Christian faith and my job, which is working for a pro-life ministry. I feel very uncomfortable living with her...if I leave a personal item anywhere she accuses me of 'taking over her house'. So basically I don't feel like I have anything that is mine...and while I am clinging to God I feel like I am getting no relief from either sides. I'm in a pressure cooker basically....I really need some real-time support from people who are Christian.

 

[Sketcher]

Hmm. I'll bet you don't have the cash to move out either. That does suck.

 

[cheerio]

girl, i know what it is like. i am a messianic woman who is married, yet lonely, too. my husband works graveyard shift and i work days. we only go to church together on wednesdays, but on saturdays, i dread it because everyone asks where robert is and i tell them he is sleeping. we have tried to find a married couples bible study group, but our work schedules make us late to them or unable to attend. we are a minority in our church, too due to lack of young couples in 20s and 30s and who are Messianic. Not many of my friends from when i was single or even so-called newer aquaintances are keeping their promises of contacting me or spending time with me. I need REAL friends who mean what they say and are faithful in checking on me and not too busy to care.

 

[noreeh]

rainbrowprism...

hey, i was sad to hear ur problem, its quite like mine. Im the only christian in our family though i have a lot of christian friends, sometimes i still look for someone to comfort me. Christian life has so many struggles but sometimes the Lord release us temporarily from our comfort zones that we find Him besides us and trust Him only. Evrytime i struggling of self-pity i tired to think of these things hope it could help u too. Jesus is our friend too. Rejoice always!