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sometiemes He waits to see if we are trying to help ourselves .
Maybe your son should try and live like other people - getting up in the morning and going to bed at night at the time when other folk do.
That way you could both get jobs .
Yes this is tough love but no boy of 15 should be staying up till 2am every morning because he needs to eat then [ unless there is something seriously wrong with him , medically speaking.
Forgive me for being blunt
Maybe your son should try and live like other people - getting up in the morning and going to bed at night at the time when other folk do.
That way you could both get jobs .
Yes this is tough love but no boy of 15 should be staying up till 2am every morning because he needs to eat then [ unless there is something seriously wrong with him , medically speaking.
Forgive me for being blunt
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Not everyone has to do things the same. Some work different shifts.
Thanks to those who are fasting.
Thanks to those who are fasting.
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While the depression and the silence of God reminds me of the immigration and naturalization ordeal, He is there, He will provide.
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Greetings, my friend 
I am sorry that you find yourself in a very difficult situation. We very nearly faced this situation ourselves when I was pregnant, as my deteriorating health at that time prevented either of us from working (I needed round the clock care, so my DH couldn't work either). I remember it well and it's a VERY bad feeling.
This is true, but it is not always in gift form, either. Sometimes He might simply supply the means for us to do it ourselves. We can't dictate to Him HOW He answers prayer.
Perhaps you might be gifted with a large sum of money or a home... or perhaps some doors will be opened to you to do it yourself and pull yourself up by your bootstraps. God might be asking you to make some sacrifices as well, such as TV or your sleeping schedule.
Since you'd rather be homeless than go to a shelter and have to give up your TV and your schedule, is it possible they've become idols in your life? I really don't know; only you do. Maybe just something to chew on. I know I have a few idols in my own life I'm still trying to knock down.
My husband works hard so that our kids don't have to be put in daycare... but we're still not making it, even though we live in a tiny tiny apartment and have no luxuries. I might have to go back to work too, and since we are both against daycare, it will mean working overnights somewhere. It will be a huge sacrifice for me, in terms of sleep and time with my husband... but sacrificing for the good of family is a part of life.
Since it has been so long since you've worked, are you feeling perhaps out of touch in HOW to get a job? I would be happy to help you with a resume or cover letter; I am actually quite good at both and have helped a number of people with them.
I am sorry that you find yourself in a very difficult situation. We very nearly faced this situation ourselves when I was pregnant, as my deteriorating health at that time prevented either of us from working (I needed round the clock care, so my DH couldn't work either). I remember it well and it's a VERY bad feeling.
This is true, but it is not always in gift form, either. Sometimes He might simply supply the means for us to do it ourselves. We can't dictate to Him HOW He answers prayer.
Perhaps you might be gifted with a large sum of money or a home... or perhaps some doors will be opened to you to do it yourself and pull yourself up by your bootstraps. God might be asking you to make some sacrifices as well, such as TV or your sleeping schedule.
Since you'd rather be homeless than go to a shelter and have to give up your TV and your schedule, is it possible they've become idols in your life? I really don't know; only you do. Maybe just something to chew on. I know I have a few idols in my own life I'm still trying to knock down.
My husband works hard so that our kids don't have to be put in daycare... but we're still not making it, even though we live in a tiny tiny apartment and have no luxuries. I might have to go back to work too, and since we are both against daycare, it will mean working overnights somewhere. It will be a huge sacrifice for me, in terms of sleep and time with my husband... but sacrificing for the good of family is a part of life.
Since it has been so long since you've worked, are you feeling perhaps out of touch in HOW to get a job? I would be happy to help you with a resume or cover letter; I am actually quite good at both and have helped a number of people with them.
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BTW, you said you only have one pair of shoes - do you have clothes appropriate for job hunting? I don't have much money, but I do have a car that I can drive to a thrift store, and perhaps find you something nice for not much money. Do you think this would help you? If so, pm me your sizes.
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No, nothing on earth has value to me. My sons only entertainment is tv, no friends ever, nothing else to do, especially in winter.
We've always been night owls.
We've always been night owls.
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What about advertising on Craigslist, asking for a place to stay? Be VERY!!! careful, because you don't know who's going to answer - but there might be an arrangement that would work for you.
It's Sunday. Maybe get a paper and see if someone is looking for a live in maid or nanny.
When my DH and I were first house hunting, we found a little 4BD/2BA house, with a "mother in law" cottage on the property - just a tiny bedroom, a tiny bathroom, a small open area, and a kitchen. Maybe other people have set-ups like that and would let you live there if you cleaned their yards or did other work for them. Be creative. God hasn't left you, but it's very rare that everything we need is just dropped into our laps. Ever heard the old story about the guy standing on his roof as the flood waters rise, waiting for God to save him? A helicopter flies overhead and drops a ladder, and a loudspeaker says, "Climb aboard!" The guy says, "Nope, God will save me!"
He drowns.
When he gets to heaven, he asks God why didn't he save him? God says, "I sent a helicopter, what else did you expect me to do?!"
You said St. Nicholas doesn't return emails - what about calling them?
Are you willing to try any of the suggestions we've given you? I kind of feel like you're saying you won't, because having a job or going to a shelter would disrupt your TV watching schedule. TV isn't going to matter if you're on the street and have nowhere to plug it in.
It's Sunday. Maybe get a paper and see if someone is looking for a live in maid or nanny.
When my DH and I were first house hunting, we found a little 4BD/2BA house, with a "mother in law" cottage on the property - just a tiny bedroom, a tiny bathroom, a small open area, and a kitchen. Maybe other people have set-ups like that and would let you live there if you cleaned their yards or did other work for them. Be creative. God hasn't left you, but it's very rare that everything we need is just dropped into our laps. Ever heard the old story about the guy standing on his roof as the flood waters rise, waiting for God to save him? A helicopter flies overhead and drops a ladder, and a loudspeaker says, "Climb aboard!" The guy says, "Nope, God will save me!"
He drowns.
When he gets to heaven, he asks God why didn't he save him? God says, "I sent a helicopter, what else did you expect me to do?!"
You said St. Nicholas doesn't return emails - what about calling them?
Are you willing to try any of the suggestions we've given you? I kind of feel like you're saying you won't, because having a job or going to a shelter would disrupt your TV watching schedule. TV isn't going to matter if you're on the street and have nowhere to plug it in.
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No, I don't care about tv, its my sons only enjoyment.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.
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I dont get it? It is hard to have faith in God? As if God is supposed to just hand us everything we need in life just because we believe in him? It doesn't quite work that way!!!No, I don't care about tv, its my sons only enjoyment.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.
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its hard to "step out", and its hard to have faith to "step out" and do whatever - and in your situation, I would feel so discouraged...No, I don't care about tv, its my sons only enjoyment.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.
Our family has been in a rough situation of our own. It could be a very long story, but in short:
illness/job difficulty/family of 6 with only enough income for rent (not for food, utilities, etc)
and also, landlord selling, not enough income to rent or buy ...
so whatever you do, pray, trust, take "steps" saying, Lord - this may not be the solution I want or you intend, but I'm doing the best I can, forgive me, be with me as you promised.
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we are all keeping you in our prayers , prayers can work miracles but we don't always recgnise them.
I still feel that you have to do something about your night hours - in the future your son is going to have to try and find work. I can't see an employer accepting the fact that he sleeps from after 2 am till what most folk will consider lunch time the next day.
If the worst happens you are going to have to go to a shelter and you won't be able to keep those hours then .
Please try and turn things round - it would be a HUGE step forward.
Your son doesn't have friends - why not ? He needs to be with people of his own age at times. You say TV is his only enjoyment - that's not good as he needs to broaden his experience of life.
Notice - it's not just me saying these tough things - others have too. We are trying to make constructive suggestions to help you out of this dreafdul time
we are all keeping you in our prayers , prayers can work miracles but we don't always recgnise them.
I still feel that you have to do something about your night hours - in the future your son is going to have to try and find work. I can't see an employer accepting the fact that he sleeps from after 2 am till what most folk will consider lunch time the next day.
If the worst happens you are going to have to go to a shelter and you won't be able to keep those hours then .
Please try and turn things round - it would be a HUGE step forward.
Your son doesn't have friends - why not ? He needs to be with people of his own age at times. You say TV is his only enjoyment - that's not good as he needs to broaden his experience of life.
Notice - it's not just me saying these tough things - others have too. We are trying to make constructive suggestions to help you out of this dreafdul time
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When he was in school, no one ever invited him over. No one in the neighborhood has either.
Had to pull him from schools for harrassment.
Had to pull him from schools for harrassment.
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Im getting depressed here
All we get are excuses and negative comments.
no one invited him [ did you invite any over ?]
TV is his only enjoyment [ why ? It's easy to just park yourself in front of it and do nothing]
Had to pull him from schools for harassment - [why were kids picking on him ? what did you do about that ?]
The 2 of you can't go on in this way .
Orthosdoxa has made some very good suggestions - are you trying to follow some of them ?
At times we all have to fight problems - life can seem hard.
I still don't dare think of the future - after all my husband may well not survive . We just don't know - he could be taken tomorrow , next week , next month . Believe you me though - he's fighting this damn disease , he WANTS to live .
All we get are excuses and negative comments.
no one invited him [ did you invite any over ?]
TV is his only enjoyment [ why ? It's easy to just park yourself in front of it and do nothing]
Had to pull him from schools for harassment - [why were kids picking on him ? what did you do about that ?]
The 2 of you can't go on in this way .
Orthosdoxa has made some very good suggestions - are you trying to follow some of them ?
At times we all have to fight problems - life can seem hard.
I still don't dare think of the future - after all my husband may well not survive . We just don't know - he could be taken tomorrow , next week , next month . Believe you me though - he's fighting this damn disease , he WANTS to live .
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He was harrassed in school. All I know is they considered him 'different.' Not being in school with him, don't know what they meant.
Went to principal and Board of Education.
Principal said he needed to take it and not react, Not acceptable.
Board of Education leader said Kids are that way, nothing they can do.
Sorry it seems like negative comments, i will unsubscribe now.
Went to principal and Board of Education.
Principal said he needed to take it and not react, Not acceptable.
Board of Education leader said Kids are that way, nothing they can do.
Sorry it seems like negative comments, i will unsubscribe now.
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Job Corps in HD's area has dorms where people can live while they receive free job training. HD is going to call them tomorrow, and she also has the numbers of a few other relief/social services agencies that should be able to get her on track with some job training. Hopefully this will get her on the right track.
Once things have settled down and you are living somewhere, what would you think about enrolling your son in something like judo or karate? Some places have scholarships for people who can't afford the fees. This would give him a way to be around kids his own age, and give him some self-confidence - if the only thing he knows how to do is watch TV, he probably has none. Developing a skill like that could really help him.
Once things have settled down and you are living somewhere, what would you think about enrolling your son in something like judo or karate? Some places have scholarships for people who can't afford the fees. This would give him a way to be around kids his own age, and give him some self-confidence - if the only thing he knows how to do is watch TV, he probably has none. Developing a skill like that could really help him.
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