I am new to this forum and decided that i need a support system to get me through my current struggle. I need prayers that god will help me to forgive. A little back ground on my situation... I was deployed last year and war changed me inside and out. When i got back, i was depressed, withdrawn and otherwise neglected my family. My way of coping with my depression was to play an online video game as sad as that sounds. Eventually, my wife started playing too and eventually she cheated on me with someone she met playing this game...i found out and i went to jail for domestic abuse because of my frame of mind...i'm not a violent person, i was just angry, hurt, and confused on top of being depressed. I later was diagnosed with PTSD and i guess this is the reason I was not myself upon return home.
We are back together and working things out but i find myself in the struggle to forgive both her AND him. I don't trust her anymore and I'm having a hard time letting go of what happened. I cannot seem to get over my anger and desire for vengeance against him and i feel bound which is making me miserable and also impeding my efforts to work things out with my wife. I feel like a prisoner to my anger and rage and i want to forgive both her and him to be set free from this demon. It seems like everytime i am doing well, something happens to cause the vicious cycle to begin anew. For example, things were good until a few days ago when i got an email from the man she cheated with...he had nothing good to say, only talking garbage and rubbish which set me back to what feels like i'm re-living it all in my head from the beginning. All i want is peace and the strenghth to overcome. I have prayed and prayed and i feel better when i do but it eventually subsides and once again the sinful thoughts return. I feel almost hopeless. Please pray for me and my wife and for the man she cheated with so that we may all be happy, forgive and repent, and that we will be able to reconcile and have a strong marriage.
Please feel free to drop me a few messeges to offer some insight or suggestions or reply to this post. God Bless You.
We are back together and working things out but i find myself in the struggle to forgive both her AND him. I don't trust her anymore and I'm having a hard time letting go of what happened. I cannot seem to get over my anger and desire for vengeance against him and i feel bound which is making me miserable and also impeding my efforts to work things out with my wife. I feel like a prisoner to my anger and rage and i want to forgive both her and him to be set free from this demon. It seems like everytime i am doing well, something happens to cause the vicious cycle to begin anew. For example, things were good until a few days ago when i got an email from the man she cheated with...he had nothing good to say, only talking garbage and rubbish which set me back to what feels like i'm re-living it all in my head from the beginning. All i want is peace and the strenghth to overcome. I have prayed and prayed and i feel better when i do but it eventually subsides and once again the sinful thoughts return. I feel almost hopeless. Please pray for me and my wife and for the man she cheated with so that we may all be happy, forgive and repent, and that we will be able to reconcile and have a strong marriage.
