dallasapple
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All I know from reading this stuff is that there's a HUGE amount of unhealthy things going on in this relationship... You've got the hubby insinuating that the wife is unclean and he's beset with images of her with other dudes in his mind... You've got her apparently lashing out. You've got him (over)reacting in kind.
If I were on any other board I'd have a choice acronym to follow those observations with...
First, let me say that I agree with the people here that say he should not be responding in kind. To imply that women's suffrage for equality in the workplace or society means that now they are on equal footing on physical terms with a man is just preposterous.
I'm 6'3" and pretty strongly built. My wife is 5'5" and pretty gracile. I outweigh her by about 100lbs. The sexual dimorphism in many couples is along those lines. As said by others - we (men) simply have an ability to inflict far more damage to our mates than they do to us. As a result - we have to be even more restrained in our use of force. That's not to say that a woman should be allowed to act like a violent and petulant child...but we are not to respond in kind (both for moral and pragmatic/physical reasons).
"Knocked my head against the ground a few times to make me acquiesce and come to my senses." C'mon now. That's a load of nonsense. As a man - if your wife is behaving miserably - you remove yourself from the situation.
As for her (peckaboo)...what's up with your behavior anyhow? Get a grip on yourself. What's going on in your head that makes you want to try strangling people with telephone cords and stuff?
You both are pretty young. Maybe you both need to go back home to your parents - see a therapist - maybe get yourself on some meds - and figure out where to go from there. The dynamic you've got going on now is just utterly destructive to both of you.
I have to say..this is about as PERFECT a post as I've seen on this entire thread so far..I APPLAUD your sense of LEVEL headiness..and its just SOO the 'truth' that its making me want to do this..
I completely LOSE repect 100% f rthose who say..its 50/50 you want equality then i can PUNCH you throw you kick you if you hit me first ..I "get to retaliate" sounds about as hate filled and immature as anyone can be..I cant believe men who call themselves grown would even get there..and be somehow in COMPETITION with 'getting away" with hitting someone half there size its SICK..and saying well its only "fair"..
And yes Im in total agreement with what you say about Peckaboo..Peckaboo you are out of control and its not going to go away unless you seek to find some sort of peace inside of you a way to HAVE(CREATE) some peace inside of you instead of the turmoil and rage and pain thats in thier coming out makign you even WANT to physcially attack your husband (or verbally either for that matter those things said sometimes ring in our minds and hearts for YEARS to come )..
Peckaboo you are ABOVE this ..you are ..you just need to realize it..(((HUGS)))
Dallas
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