Prayer Needed

[elizabeth1]

This is my first time on this site, well, actually, it is my first time on any chat site. But I really need prayer for my marriage.
Today is our 11th anniversary...but it may be the day my husband walks out on me.
I am in the position of allowing thing to contuniue as is and make my 15 year old son's life a living he**, or asking my husband to seperate and making my other two children's life the same.
While I love my husband with all my heart, I can not allow him to treat our son the way he does. He is ALWAYS on him for something. From the way he walks, eats, dresses (not rolling up his pants so they don't drag when he has his shoes off). He is a really good kid! Straight A's in school, does all the dishes, sweeping and mow's the lawn. But if I have to remind him, oh well, then he needs to be punished! It just isn't right!
I need your prayer to help us through this....Prayer is the only thing that will save our marriage!
Maybe if he sees how serious I am about things changing....just pray for us! Thank you

 

[jessiegirl]

I will pray for you!!!

 

[E-beth]

Praying here too...


I think it is cool that you are standing up for your son. I remember many times feeling betrayed by my mom for not standing up for me, and feeling soooo loved when she once did.

Sounds like you may want to push for some family therapy.

 

[elizabeth1]

Yes, I do want family counseling. I told him last night we either need to go to counseling as a family, or we need time away from eachother. He said "you've made it perfectly clear that you don't want me here" and started packing everything up. but.... as of this morning, he is still here. I guess we'll see how the day goes. The kids are at my mom's till tomorrow.
Thank you for your prayers..........It's nice to know I'm not alone.

 

[chriso]

The teenage years are tough!!! I have similar problems with my son he is just a few years older than yours. You and your husband need to be in one accord on the diciplining of your children (yours together and yours from a previous marriage). You have to be the strong one in this situation and not let this tear your family apart. Try to talk to your husband and help him understand your views on the situation. Tell him you aren't choosing between him and your son. I will be praying for you. God Bless You!!!

 

[chosen1975]

I will be praying as well

 

[jessiegirl]

I have found that people who resist counciling are afraid of what they will hear. Has he always treated your son differently or is it just the teen age years. All kids need to feel oved by their parents. I will pray for the Lord to open your husbands heart and I will pray for your son as well.


jessiegirl

 

[Mr.Cheese]

That's freaking sad.
He sounds like my stepmom.
She's the only woman I almost ever beat into the ground.
I moved out from that mess.

 

[cynjo59]

If you were to look back into your husband's childhood it is extremely likely that he was treated by his father the same way he is treating your son now. For some men, especially those from dysfunctional homes, it is so hard to express love and tenderness. They often think they are demonstrating their love by being "tough" on their loved ones, in an effort to "bring them up right" and make a "good man/woman of them". It might help if you could explain this to your son. Don't be too hasty to seperate or divorce- turn this whole matter over to the Lord and trust that He will work it out in His own good time, because He really will do just that.

 

[desi]

Where did Jesus say a woman can divorce or leave her husband if she disagrees on how he raises his children? You are suggesting sinning at a Christian forum!, bah! Proverbs suggests how one should deal with raising children. If your son is as good as you say he is your husband has done a good job so far. I don't understand your animosity toward your family as you would consider wrecking it over this.

 

[allieisme]

Lets take it a bit easy here...
unoffically *mod hat on*
She wasnt suggesting she wreck her marriage over this... I do believe she was asking for advice.. friendly advice none the less..

**mod hat off**

I will be praying for you and your family to become stronger in love and in faith. God bless YOU